Veldrin del lil Xukuth

Hello everyone. I guess I'm kind of using this as a last resort because I don't know what I'm doing anymore.
I'm a 25 year old woman living in a very small town in a small state. Because of this and the fact that I don't go out much drinking or anything (which seems to be the thing to do here) all of the men I've been involved with I've met online.

I am currently involved with a man who I see as perfect for me, but there are a few problems. We've been together about nine months now, been living together for three. Just recently we got hooked up to the internet here at home. The problem is, he is very active online and had been without steady access for about two months. It's now been three weeks since we got online and we don't spend even half the time together that we used to. I'm feeling very much replaced.
It doesn't help that my depression comes with paranoid and low self esteem, so at times I can't help but wonder if he is spending a lot of his online time looking for someone else. I know I should not feel that way but it's always in the back of my mind.

I work nights and he's home alone awake all night so I guess I exspected him to spend his nights doing his online stuff and spending the day with me but that's not the way it's been. He's online all night but spends most of the day online as well. Unless we are eating for sleeping we are not together much at all.

I had a little break down the other morning and mentioned it to him, but of course I could not talk much because I was crying like a baby. And unfortunatly he's one of those people that doesn't talk, he's used to being alone so he doesn't notice it. On the other hand I've always been surrounded by family and friends that talk things through.

I'm just really confused. I try not to bother him when he is online because he tends to get a little snappy with me, which could also be in my head.

I know he is going through a hard time because he's not working right now and a few other person things are going on. Does anyone know what I should do or is there anything that I can do to help work these throughts out of my head. Most of the time I am sure that nothing is really wrong and I'm freaking about nothing but it always pops back up.

One of the main reasons it really bothers me is because my last boyfriend did the same thing and it ended horribly. Fortunatly this guy does not have any of the other horrible qualities of the last guy.

Sorry is this is confusing, but my brain is just over flowing right now, I don't even really exspect anyone to be able to help, but I might as well give it a shot. Thanks everyone. And sorry about the spelling errors, I don't have the energy to deal with it right now.

Hey, I'm new to the community. I have a girlfriend that I've been going out with for about two years now and I love her to death. She means everything to me and I think she feels the same way about me. These past few weeks. She told me the other night that she hasn't been having fun with me lately and part of it might be because we both have jobs now so we dont' see eachother anymore for more than like 2 or 3 hours a day if that. I've been giving her space but it hasn't helped any. For a few months now I've been wanting to propose to her but right now I don't know if i should. There are guys that she works with and she gets along with them and has fun with them so it kinda hurts when she's not having fun with me. We have talked about marriage less than a month ago...this is a pretty new thing she's going through. I lover her so much and I just want to spend my life with her. What should I do and what's up with her? Thank you :)

Well hello there. ^^;

I'm having a little problem voicing to a guy how I feel about him and came here for some help/advice.

The situations a little more complicated than just telling a guy I like him then, so I'll go into the background between us too.

So right, this guy Karl, I meet him about a year and a half ago and my first impression was 'Oh my God... He's hot'. So I chatted to him for a while, then he mentioned he was 27. I was just like 'ok...' seeing as I was only 16/17 at the time.

We kept chatting and flirting though, just on a friendly basis, when one day when he was driving me home, he told me that if i wasn't gonna jump into bed with him, i should stop teasing him, but if i wanted to, then the offer was open.

So after that, we just chatted as mates, no more flirting. Months went past, boyfriends came and left and as time went on i started to think I had really missed out there. Till me and my last boyfriend broke up ((I left him)).

About a after I broke up with this guy, I was talknig to Karl, and just randomly blurted out 'Is that offer still open then?' So a few days later I went round his flat and well yeah ^^;

So things carried on from there, for about another week when he then asked me if it was ok to have different partners. I said yes seeing as I had several other already. Then afew days later he told me he was sleeping with a girl I know. I was a bit shocked, but ok with it, it was just sex between us.

Eventually me, Karl and a load of friends (including his other partner) went on holiday together. Karl was getting pretty upset the first day, and it turned out it was because a guy i really liked was there and Karl was getting jealous. He then admitted he had feelings for me, which was really shocking, i was still neutral at that point.

We've carried on what we've been doing, it's been about 3 months since it all started, and after him addmitting he has feelings mine have been getting stronger and stronger, to the point where i get insanely jealous if i know he's with someone else.

I'm only with karl now, and i'm really unsure about how to tell him about my feelings. He's mentioned over and over again about how he doesn't want a relationship, but to be honest, I think... well i'm damn sure I love him.

But i'm worried abuot tellnig him, I'm scared of loosing what we've already got and ruining our holiday ((we're going to canada together in 7 weeks)).

Anyone got any advice on how to tackle this situation?

hey im new here. i just need some help on how i can make my boyfriend start to pay more attention to me.. he just got world of warcraft and all he does is play it. he wont talk to me or anything. we've been dating for over a year. someone help me! im about to break his stupid video game in half.... GAH

hi,

i'm new here. i need your help despretely. i have been dating this guy jason for about three or four months and things have just turned sour. we've liked each other for four years and he just wants to end it now. i despretely want to save this relationship and i know we can. he says he doesn't have feelings but i can honestly tell he's lying to himself and me. i know that there is something to do so don't tell me there isn't. right now he's been so stressed out because of school and he lost his car. so i think he's scared i wont like not getting attention. he still calls me and hugs me and kisses me. that's what's SO dang confusing!

<3 allison.

Hey all I'm new to this community. I have a major problem that maybe someone here can help me out with. To cut to the chase I really have a crush on this guy and he keeps giving me different signals and i dont know what to do. Sometimes he acts real nice and boyfriendlike but he tells me he wants nothing of it. I found out he had a really bad breakup a while back and hes frightened to death of girls. But i feel things could work out between us. I kow the feeling is mutual because he told me so, only he couldnt do anything aboout it. Is there a way around that? Is there anything I can do to try and help this boy and help him see that trusting me is a good idea? I am in a huge pickle here. Any Comments would help.

im new here
and i need advice.

ive been with the same girl for about 1 year.
i began to notice this one girl
shes not exactly the most popular girl.
i talked to my sister whos her friend and she said the girls never had a boyfriend.
shes 2 yrs older then me .
but even though i dont know her i have the hugest crush on her.
i dont know what to do
or if i can do anything.
i just sometimes have the urge to let her know how beautiful i think she is .

any advice would be nice.
i just need
to know what to do about it.

which the only thing i can think of is to do nothing.
any reply would be nice.

I have been dating a guy for over 6 months now. We do all sorts of stuff together, movies, goffy golf, and long phone callls. But for the past month I've wondered if we've be better as just friends. At this point that's how I look at him. I tell my friends about it and how after all this time we haven't even come close to kissing. I wanted to several months ago, but now I don't know if I want to kiss him anymore.

Next, there has been a guy that I have know for a long time, 8 years, and since the first time I met him I've had feeling for him. I know he liked me during our junior high years and our sophmore he pretty much told me that he liked me, but after that he didn't come after me anyfurther. I think that he may still like me, I know I still like him, I just wish he would tell me.
But, now there is a little block, a girl in my art class, who knows that I like the boy, likes him too and has told him that she likes him. I'm afraid that I may never get the chase to be with him. I would be happy just for one date with him. I think that she is just looking for someone because she and her boyfriend broke-up before christmas.

I don't know what to do. Do I end my relationship with my curent bf and see if the other likes me? Or do I just leave things the way that they are? I don't want to get hurt and I don't want to hurt those other two people. Help please.

OK, I think I seriously screwed up............
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I've been on and off with this guy. Long distance. I want to make this brief, so I’ll put it behind a cut.. I really want help. I don't want "dump him" or something simple.. just real, heartfelt advice from someone who understands the situation..

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