Mail order brides
[Hmm, found 2 melmac coffee cups on the way here. And a (microwave?)bundt pan I might pick up later.]
An ex of mine started writing to a girl from a large poor Catholic (Indonesian? Asian?) nation. She had "clocked a nun" as he put it, and was "crazy" after they got married. She was horribly shy, would not come over to our house, tho' the ex was great friends with my mom. They drank together all the time, he was just charming.
She clocked a nun? I thought, okay she is crazy. Then years later, it's like, how stupid am I? She went to a convent school, then was so desperate and low on opinion of herself as to marry this a-hole, and she hit a nun? Score another horrific marriage for the Catholic church, sorry. She was from a poor family, needed to get away from the people who raised her to be a victim, and who vicitmized her.
You can't think straight your whole childhood, then you think you see a way out, and you have a baby right away with a fast-talking schizophrenic alcoholic who comes from an abusive, user Catholic family. The ex's mom was just keeping her place in church, a choir-member, and she struggled to get pregnant, had 2 kids.
First one, the ex, just fell and screwed up all he did apparently, is the schizo rehab-avoiding selfish verbally abusive and physically threatening creep. He married his mail order bride, telling me how many problems they were having & how crazy she was. And how horribly shy. And he traded in the expensive car his rather well-off parents gave him to marry her--he told me "I haven't even got none yet"--he was all about at least getting sex.
He had proposed marriage to me, saying, we could juth get one on of those pre-nuptial things, see a lawyer. He was such and asshole and it was one of those things where I kept telling myself to leave, and couldn't get myself to do it, I was so pitiful.
Finally I did "get a job, dump Bob". Poor mail-order bride, she didn't know any better and I
...bah, story continued, I gtg...
[edit, 6-9-10] I guess my point there is that the ex married this unsuspecting girlfrom dirtville Philippines and then got her pregnant, divorced her and kept the baby. Every time I think about them it makes me sick, there were either things I don't remember about him, or I was so sick and deceived that I just thought he was an unpleasant guy, instead of psychotic.
And the baby--she fits his profile--Catholic, female, long hair (he had a thing for long hair), a virgin whose family doesn't care about her. Well, it'll be a miracle if she remains unmolested.
An ex of mine started writing to a girl from a large poor Catholic (Indonesian? Asian?) nation. She had "clocked a nun" as he put it, and was "crazy" after they got married. She was horribly shy, would not come over to our house, tho' the ex was great friends with my mom. They drank together all the time, he was just charming.
She clocked a nun? I thought, okay she is crazy. Then years later, it's like, how stupid am I? She went to a convent school, then was so desperate and low on opinion of herself as to marry this a-hole, and she hit a nun? Score another horrific marriage for the Catholic church, sorry. She was from a poor family, needed to get away from the people who raised her to be a victim, and who vicitmized her.
You can't think straight your whole childhood, then you think you see a way out, and you have a baby right away with a fast-talking schizophrenic alcoholic who comes from an abusive, user Catholic family. The ex's mom was just keeping her place in church, a choir-member, and she struggled to get pregnant, had 2 kids.
First one, the ex, just fell and screwed up all he did apparently, is the schizo rehab-avoiding selfish verbally abusive and physically threatening creep. He married his mail order bride, telling me how many problems they were having & how crazy she was. And how horribly shy. And he traded in the expensive car his rather well-off parents gave him to marry her--he told me "I haven't even got none yet"--he was all about at least getting sex.
He had proposed marriage to me, saying, we could juth get one on of those pre-nuptial things, see a lawyer. He was such and asshole and it was one of those things where I kept telling myself to leave, and couldn't get myself to do it, I was so pitiful.
Finally I did "get a job, dump Bob". Poor mail-order bride, she didn't know any better and I
...bah, story continued, I gtg...
[edit, 6-9-10] I guess my point there is that the ex married this unsuspecting girlfrom dirtville Philippines and then got her pregnant, divorced her and kept the baby. Every time I think about them it makes me sick, there were either things I don't remember about him, or I was so sick and deceived that I just thought he was an unpleasant guy, instead of psychotic.
And the baby--she fits his profile--Catholic, female, long hair (he had a thing for long hair), a virgin whose family doesn't care about her. Well, it'll be a miracle if she remains unmolested.