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Wow, thanks for approving my membership.  I'm honored.

Anyway, as this is my first post, I might as well make it an introduction.  I'm 56 and have worn modest clothing all my life.  No particular religious reason;  it's just that I recall always seeing my maternal great-grandmother and grandmother with their heads covered and in long skirts.  Perhaps it was religious for them, or there was some other reason — I never did find out — but for me, I guess it's just a lifelong habit.  I'm not comfortable dressing any other way, which means long skirts or dresses, long sleeves (at the very least, three-quarters), covered collarbones, and a headscarf of some kind.  I will occasionally wear salwar if the accompanying tunic comes down to my knees;  preferably, mid-calf.

Depending upon my outfit of the day, I've been mistaken for Muslim or an observant Jew, although I am neither.  I've dressed in a lot of different brands over the years — some quite nice, some not so great — but SHUKR is my overwhelming favorite these days.  Their skirts are the BEST, and the quality can't be beat.  As I wrote in my own journal, I'd say the prices are comparable to J.Jill, only with much better fabrics and construction.

Oh well, that's enough.  Time for me to jump into the conversation and see what other people are encountering in their efforts to dress modestly

  
 

Hi...I was just approved and want to intro:

I live in New York City and I own a retail shop that specializes in custom picture framing and gifts. I have been married for over 15 years (will be 16 in May) and besides my husband, I live with my adult nephew and mother-in-law.

I am waaay to addicted to facebook games and I love to knit; however, I am not as advanced as I would like to be...I mostly make scarves, blankets, and potholders because I am too lazy to get gauge. Another set back is I broke my wrist this past October and it's still not right yet.

I'm a Christian (Episcopalian) and I always felt that you could be both fashionable and modest at the same time.

I look forward to getting to know everyone. My camera is on the fritz and my cell phone camera is all I have so I hope to post pictures on occasion...I like to comment though.

Hello! I'm Larissa; pleased to be new here.

I'll ask my question first, then add in some way-tl;dr backstory.

Does anyone have any crochet patterns for head coverings? I'm thinking along the lines of the two-piece hijab sets that are sold, like this: http://www.muslimbase.com/product_…

I have two sets, but I think they're in storage . . . I've no clue where they are. I have no money, but I can crochet and I've got plenty of yarn, so I was hoping for a pattern so that I could make myself a set. I'm not under any religious or spiritual obligations (I'm an atheist, which is what I meant by "most distrusted minority in America ftw"; an attempt at humour that backlashed, and I apologise for any hurt feelings); I simply love hijab and modest clothing and am planning on slowly edging into it all. I also have very long hair, but it wraps up into a bun quite nicely.

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I've been hanging around for a while and thought I'd do an actual intro post. My name is Amy and I'm Anglican, raised Pentecostal, and dressing modestly mostly because I'm more comfortable with myself and how the world seems to interact with me when I do. My standard is fairly loose and based on the dress code of the high school I went to - no tank tops or very short sleeves, skirts at or below the knees. This is kinda ironic given how much I HATED it then, but we lived in the middle of nowhere and I didn't have you lovely ladies or the thrift shops I can now raid for skirts then either. :D I started seriously getting rid of the pants and tighter stuff after I had brain surgery two years ago and found it harder to dress myself, now I look at what I was wearing then and wonder why I wore it in the first place.

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That's one of my favorite skirts, I picked it up at a Goodwill for something like $8, and since it doesn't have any slits it's a great one for winter. Usually I'll wear another skirt under it to warm it up a bit which works pretty well. I have some lighter skirts that get worn under heavier ones that have knee high slits, today's is a jean skirt with a knee high slit and a green cotton gauze under it. I'm working up toward doing more doing more headcovering, my partner is agnostic and slightly confused how he ended up with a church girl, but very supportive. :)

Hi there. My first confession is that I've never really been a modest dresser. I tend to wear low-cut tops sometimes. However, I'm starting to take a look at not wearing low-cut tops because I don't want people to be staring at my "C"-sized breasts while they're talking to me. I think I found this site in the first place because I really like wearing head scarves and other head coverings. I will admit that I do this purely out of a sense of style rather than any religious foundation.

However much I do like headscarves, I have medium-length fine hair and not a lot of it. When I wear headscarves, I tend to tie them on top of my hair. I like the look of them tied under someone else's hair, but you can see the knot under my hair and it just looks bad. I looked through the tags and I couldn't find another question like this. Are there other ways I can wear these scarves and coverings without tying them under my hair. 

I have tried the pre-tied coverings, but they slip right off my hair. Should I get color-coordinated hair clips to help them stay on? 

Thank you so much! Nice to meet you all!

Greetings folks - am fairly new to all of this - I am not of a religious background, though starting to return to Buddhism which I practiced for a few years in my 20s. I am probably "modest-lite"... more like Mormon level of modest (clean cut, sweaters, khakis) than tznius or anything close. It is more about not attracting attention to myself, encouraging the lower urges of others without knowing my mind first. I wear an ordinary racing style swimsuit at the pool, ordinary gym clothes at the gym. I still glam up for the right occasions. I am finding more there is a state of mind than state of dress, for me.

Modesty came first then did the spiritual re-connecting. I began to draw connections between Buddhism and modesty but this is more of a personal insight and I have heard no other Westerner ever talk about this. Western Buddhists tend to be individualistic and that's exactly the kind of mindset I am trying to break in myself.

What I'm curious about is... what resources are there about modest *speech* and *thought*? Are there places where people talk about this?

It is so easy to be immodest in one's speech, and I am so tired of hearing people's sexual references - not that I feel I am better than anyone but more like, I find myself feeling sensitive to the messages around me. Recently I have become aware of how much immodest talk has infected people, most of my friends have done it. I want to keep such things personal/sacred. I am beginning to see the value in having tight boundaries in groups of people, between who are your intimates and who are your friends, though this is not strictly speaking a modesty thing.

How has modesty bled over into your speech/thinking?

Thank you!

Are intro posts allowed? I've looked on the info and couldn't find anything saying they're not, but please tell me if I need to delete this!

I'm not religious, but I like to dress modestly for personal reasons. For a while, it was that I felt too "gross" to wear anything remotely revealing - but then I got thinner, perhaps more attractive, and STILL I wanted to keep myself covered. I'm not all that modest compared to many of the community members. . . No religious laws influencing me, so I pretty much just keep my shoulders, my upper arms, my chest, and most of my thighs covered. Oh, er, and my midriff, but I think with the other qualifications, that is kind of obvious? And I often prefer to wear longer shirts. If you can see the crotch of my pants or something, I usually tug at my shirt all day. Ha ha.

After lurking on here for a bit, I realized I pretty much dress with modern Mormon standards. Well, there you go.

As you can imagine with my lenient rules, I don't have all that much trouble finding clothing. . . Not casual clothing, anyway. I struggle with finding formalwear and swimwear. And I LOVE to see how religious people follow their religion's modesty laws through their fashion! (:

I hope this isn't too long and unnecessary.

Um. Hi!

i honestly sit here and half-laugh at myself when i read this forum. why? because i have a total of *one* requirement in dressing. it must not hurt me.

i have nervous system issues. i have chronic pain. i have days when my skin is hurting so bad i'd rather be nekkid....but i'm also turning blue with cold (i'm wearing fleece jammies and socks at the moment, the house is comfortably warm, and my hands still have a bluish tinge to them. *shrugs*) so that really isnt an option, let alone the "you're frightening the children!" issues that would be raised by the neighbors.

i'm all of 5'1" if i stretch. i'm *ahem* built for comfort and not for speed. (fluffy, in other words. well-padded. rotund, even.) so most skirts that fit me? hit me mid calf or longer. i cant stand anything up on my neck, so i'm probably less on the modest side there. i have generous upper frontal chest protrusions that cannot be easily camoflauged.

i'm definitely not dressing for fashion, nor because my religious beliefs ask it of me...though i respect those who do have religious-required modesty.

what i need is skirts that dont hurt, shirts that dont strangle me, and shoes that dont hurt (i know, shoes arent regularly discussed here, but dang. i'm a 5.5 or 6 wide. and you just cant find them at all. its white tennis shoes (ugly) or barefootedness to find comfort). anybody got a link?

may you all find clothing that suits you perfectly
kitten

I, am a black female living in NYC. I have come to a place in my life where modesty is important to me. I found JUNEE's in Brooklyn and am so happy to be able to dress in a way which is stylish yet modest. I discovered this site though a google search for other modest clothing stores and I'm so happy for the shopping tips and similar minded women. I'm enjoying the posts here.