a trusty squire
Jul. 6th, 2026 07:38 amI have a friend (she's on Dreamwidth! She'll recognize herself if she reads this) who in the past has done free volunteer tax help for people come tax season.
It's an amazing help not just because taxes can be a nightmare to figure out for yourself and paying someone else to do them can be pricy but also because the mere fact of another person helping you can be hugely encouraging. And this is true for other miserable bureaucratic tasks as well--anything related to healthcare or unemployment claims or disability, or applications for other social supports. Or other stuff! Contacting any large organization about anything, really.
I've been thinking about this because I and a friend have been doing a lot of this kind help for the Eritrean families I've mentioned, and it's clear to me that all of us could use this kind of help and support from time to time. I know I can! And when someone does help me, I'm so profoundly grateful, yes of course for the practical help, but also for the human kindness. (Side note: people who are supposed to help but who are dismissive, impatient, condescending, etc. do outsized harm; probably most of us have had that experience too.)
So if you have a friend who's facing a bureaucracy monster, and if you have an hour or two you could spend with them, maybe you could offer to be their squire as they take on the monster. (Not talking about tax consulting! My friend who offers tax help gets special training for that! But this other stuff doesn't require that.) And if you're the one facing a monster, maybe you have a friend or an acquaintance you wouldn't mind by your side in the fight? People can be flattered and honored if you ask them ...
It's an amazing help not just because taxes can be a nightmare to figure out for yourself and paying someone else to do them can be pricy but also because the mere fact of another person helping you can be hugely encouraging. And this is true for other miserable bureaucratic tasks as well--anything related to healthcare or unemployment claims or disability, or applications for other social supports. Or other stuff! Contacting any large organization about anything, really.
I've been thinking about this because I and a friend have been doing a lot of this kind help for the Eritrean families I've mentioned, and it's clear to me that all of us could use this kind of help and support from time to time. I know I can! And when someone does help me, I'm so profoundly grateful, yes of course for the practical help, but also for the human kindness. (Side note: people who are supposed to help but who are dismissive, impatient, condescending, etc. do outsized harm; probably most of us have had that experience too.)
So if you have a friend who's facing a bureaucracy monster, and if you have an hour or two you could spend with them, maybe you could offer to be their squire as they take on the monster. (Not talking about tax consulting! My friend who offers tax help gets special training for that! But this other stuff doesn't require that.) And if you're the one facing a monster, maybe you have a friend or an acquaintance you wouldn't mind by your side in the fight? People can be flattered and honored if you ask them ...