being aroace and wanting a partner is one weird experience. like yes i desperately crave a queerplatonic partner but every aroace person i know experiences some degree of attraction in a physical, sexual or romantic way and i just. do. not... what can i bring to a partnership? autism, multiple physical disabilities, and a lack of social battery that makes it hard to interact with people on a daily basis but i love to love and i love my friends super deeply

Black Aroace

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What I say: Damn, that guy's hot.

What I mean: I love that facial structure. I need to study it, learn to draw it, and use it for my art. Also, I want that haircut.

Yeah, I know "not all aro/aces" and all, but please don't use "not all aro/aces" as an excuse to not explore anything exclusively aro/ace ever. Otherwise any trace of aro/aceness might end up effectively lost to fandom osmosis.

To sum up... If you wouldn't be homophobic that way, please don't be aphobic that way.

Coming Out as AroAce-Things People Say

Here's a list of things people have said to me when I came out as AroAce to them.

It's just a phase.

I can fix you.

Doctor House cured someone who thought they were asexual. Perhaps you just need to see a doctor.

Maybe you just haven't met the right person yet.

Don't worry, you're still young. When you get older, you'll change your mind. (Note: I was twenty-five!)

You just made up this sexual orientation because you want to feel special.

You'll be alone forever.

I'm sure you'll find someone. Don't give up hope!

What do you mean you don't feel sexual and romantic attraction? Everyone does. Maybe there's something wrong with you that a doctor can fix.

Does that mean you want to become a nun?

That's not a real thing. Surely, you're making that up.

How sad. You're so pretty! Is there a cure?

I'll pray for you. I'm sure Jesus can set you on the path of righteousness and make you whole once more. My church meets on Saturdays. Do you want to go with me? The pastor is the kindest soul you could ever meet. I'm sure he could help you.

Oh, you're just scared to date someone. You know, I have a friend who's really nice. Do you want his number?

Are you sure you're not just a lesbian?

What's that? It sounds like the name of a stripper club.

Perhaps if you wore makeup and grew out your hair, you could get a boyfriend. No problem.

How interesting! I never heard of such a thing before. Huh...You learn something new everyday.

That makes sense.

AroAce? What's that? Is it contagious?

That's cool. Do you AroAce people have your own flag? (Blank stare from me.) Sorry, I just really love flags. (I show him the flag.) Wow! It reminds me of the beach.

A isn't for ally? Are you sure? I read on a forum a while back that the A stood for ally. Maybe you got your facts mixed up.

Don't be silly. There's no such thing as an AroAce. Stop making things up!

sister's boyfriend: You're f-- delusional! AroAce isn't a thing. You just can't accept the fact that no one wants to date a psychotic b--. You don't stand a f-- chance of getting a boyfriend until you get some psychiatric help first. (Note: Fortunate for him, I kept my cool and didn't push him down the stairs.)

Well, that's all I remember/have written down. Until next time, take care and stay curious.

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I'm aroace

But sometimes I experience the horrors(hypersexuality)

I don’t think allo people understand: you get everyone else. Almost every single fictional character is allo. Every character that exists is allo until proven aro/ace/aroace. So on that rare occasion when we actually get representation, and when it’s genuinely good representation, please just let us have it. Many allo people are respectful, and I thank them for that, but it’s impossible to ignore the massive problem in fandom culture of downplaying the importance of, or even downright erasing, an aro/ace/aroace characters’ identities. Aro characters are shipped all the time, which is fine if you understand the nuances of the identity and see that it is a complex thing to be aromantic, but I see a lot of people who don’t, and think that they can say ‘oh but aro people can date’ as an excuse to ship a character. This happens with ace characters too, they are sexualised in fandom all the time (I’m not talking about any characters specifically, but I’ll tag a few who come to mind). Again, this is understandable if you understand, but if you are sexualising an asexual character just because you find them hot or just for the sake of it, surely you understand why we are upset. This is not me trying to pick a fight, I’m just an aroace who is frustrated. 

You guys get everyone else. Just let us have the few who we see ourselves in. 

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💚 Green - Aromance, unique perspectives aros have toward attraction and romance

💚🤍 Light green - Aromantic attraction and unique ways to feel romantic, platonic, and tertiary attraction

🤍 White - allotertiary aspecs and alloplatonic aspecs in solidarity with atertiary aspecs and aplatonic aspecs

💜🤍 Light purple - Asexual attraction and unique ways to feel sexual, romantic, and tertiary attraction

💜 Purple - Asexuality, unique perspectives aces have toward attraction and sex

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me and who (platonic)

"asexuals and aromantics dont face discrimination!1"

then why is their an anti-asexual and anti-aromantic tag? and also just in general yeah we do, constantly told that we "just need therapy!" and that "your not apart of the queer community if your just asexual/aromantic!!"

this doesn’t even mention correctional rape partnering and nonpartnering aces have dealt with, so yeah. Are we not descriminated against?

okay but seriously why do i only start feeling attraction once something is so far from being real that other ppl start calling it concerning-

i dont like relationships at all, but when it's fictional and not at all real suddenly im all for it jhghfdcfhgbjh