"Why do aros/aces get so defensive about people shipping aroace characters" I don't know maybe it has something to do with the fact a third of people believing asexuality can be cured and asexuals being as likely to experience conversion therapy as gay people? Maybe the ever presence of the idea that aro/ace people can be cured by therapy or meeting the right person makes people react negatively to that idea being projected onto one of the few pieces of representation they have? Just a thought.
similarly to how you should never trust gamers with a nonbinary character i feel like you can also never trust a fandom with an aroace character. whether it's explicitly canon or implied it just ends up the same
every time an allo person wants to ship an aroace spec coded character they should write an essay with MLA format citations on how this serves the themes of the story and is necessary for the character and how their ship is any different than the relationships said character already has and they should also send $500 dollars minimum to at least one aroace person in their fandom
"but people can do whatever they want!!!" i don't caaaaaare go examine your biases and cry about it or i'm blowing both of us up
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Media: Here's an aroace character! We didn't use the word aroace because it didn't exist when our media was made but we did explicitly say this character has never been attracted to anyone and does not possess any emotional feelings attached to sex or relationships.
Fans: Well actually since they didn't use the word aroace (which didn't exist when the media was made) this means that their lack of attraction is somehow not innate and can be fixed by meeting the right person (please ignore how this perfectly mirrors homophobic "you're not gay you're just struggling with same sex attraction and you'll meet the right one someday" rhetoric) and that right person is (looks for closest friendship this character has) is someone of the same gender so this character is gay and if you disagree you're homophobic.
I'm actually so surprised this post is still getting notes months later and hasn't gotten me any hate yet. Anyway this post was about them.
My greatest fear as a comics fan is that R*ct*r and/or Shatt*rst*r will be adapted into MR and then there'll be a new landslide of people (worst of all, gamers) Aware of them and I'll be one of maybe three people who cares Star was originally aroace. And with Ap*c*lypse being adapted this season we're getting dangerously closer to the chance that damn game adapts the worst R*ct*r characterization if all time as well.
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To be quite honest with you all I do think that aro/ace-spectrum fans in fandoms where people are desperately inventing crossover ships and humanizing non-human characters in order to have a conventionally attractive guy to ship the main character with, instead of possibly having to enjoy a story with no romance in it, have the right to refer to everyone else as cowards.
Sorry you almost had to entertain the idea that people like me exist, I'm sure that was very painful for you.
This post has officially reached the "Let people enjoy things" crowd so I'm just going to come right and say it: Do I or do I not also count as a people.
While I don't think it's the exact same as erasing the sexuality of an individual character who has an asexual orientation, I do think it's worth considering why so many people's reaction, (both creators and fans alike!), to a biologically asexual species is to disregard or "fix" that fact so they can ship them sexually and what that says about the pervasiveness of compulsory sexuality.
#not even rock aliens or vampires or whatever can escape compulsory sexuality#i say it's not the same (at least to me) because people read biologically asexual species more as fun speculative biology quirk#rather than orientation#so i don't think it's coming from the same conscious place as when people erase a human asexual character's asexuality#or an asexual character from a non-human species with diverse sexual orientations for that matter#or even a one of a kind sentient android that's clear in its uninterest towards sexuality#all of those cases read more as “this is who that person individually is”#rather than “ehhh it's just speculative biology it doesn't really matter of i change it”#ace#asexual#allonormativity#compulsory sexuality#foenixed.txt
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"Why would this character be jealous of their friend's romantic relationships? Clearly they're in love with them" I don't know if you guys have ever Had Friends but it's actually pretty common for people to feel jealous if their best friend suddenly has less time for them and is prioritising someone they just met over them. That's not inherently romantic, that's the general human desire to be valued by the people you value.
The amount of stories I've read under this post of people being abandoned by their friends and family when they get in relationships... I need a gun. You need a gun. We all need guns.
Hearing Phil Lord in the director's commentary say that he asked post production to time the scene of Grace and Stratt talking right before the astrophage explosion as romantic [shudder] at least Sandra Hüller and Ryan Gosling didn't get the memo.
Truly an insane statement that most of the PHM fanfic on AO3 of all places is gen. When does this ever happen.
#like we need to hold the line#it's also unreal how popular of a hc aroace grace is given the narrative doesn't beat you over the head with him saying stuff like#“i've never dated i'm just not interested” or any other overtly aroace seeming rejections of relationships like that#he's just been in one underwhelming past relationship and shows no active interest in romance during the story#project hail mary#ryland grace#aro#ace#aromantic#asexual#foenixed.txt
Most of the translations of Project Hail Mary into other languages are so boring, they're all shit like "The Astronaut" or "Project End of the World", "Project Last Chance", "Escape from the Apocalypse", "Salvation Project" "Saviour", "Project Desperate Attempt", "Extreme Return". No fun at all.
There is however one great exception, Cantonese, which I have to give props for translating it as "Doomsday Mother Mary Ship". That shit rocks.