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HI! this is my blog. it's about 50% comics mostly DC (bat fam and Young Justice) but I got a soft spot for Spider-Man, and 50% fandom stuff Skam (and Druck), Queer As Folk Young Royals, Carry On, Raven Boys, IT, Stranger Things, Chucky (TV), Percy Jackson. I'm always here for anything gay. I am political at times, deal.  I love messages and asks so feel free to send them.
Anonymous asked:

hello, i chanced upon your post likening harnesses to stilettos for gay men in particular. i am interested if certain types or designs of harnesses have certain implications (ex. design suggesting someone is a top or bottom), and how function might influence aesthetic? i was under the impression that there was some sort of messaging, which is why i haven’t grabbed a harness despite thinking that i would feel very powerful with one.

So I'm not a leather person outside a passing interest, and being a fan of Tom of Finland

so I'd say, I'm sure there are messages with-in particular leather subcultures

however harnesses are SO! common in gay world that no one will assume anything if you buy and wear the common designs, literally you can't go to a gay event/bar/party/whatever without seeing at least one person wearing

but really I don't think anyone will jump to anything if you wear something more unique than these very common designs

I think it's important to just do things that make you happy and not worry about imaginary people who might or might not inside their own mind be thinking stuff.

Hey I dunno if you remember me, but I was the one who asked about the history of the kink harness. It turned up in leather magazines in the mid 1970s?

If you're still interested, I have a theory as to where it came from.

I happened upon these harnesses in a music shop. They're for carrying saxophones and other brass instruments that get heavy if you're gonna hold them and play them all night at an event. And goodness they look familiar.

Could it be that the harness snuck into the leather scene from the gay music scene? I imagine vintage versions of the harness would have been made by the same leather wear manufacturers who made biker gear, so it could have appeared to the same people. And there have been plenty of gay musicians who might have popularized wearing their harness off stage - or, come to think, worn their harness at a club event where they were playing.

I can't find any references to any specific musician that might have popularized it, and I also can't find vintage examples of saxophone harnesses and how they looked - for all I know, it's too modern an invention to have been influential in the 1970s. So lacking evidence, it remains a theory/guess. But it would fit, no?

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  2. well its certainly a theory, I mean there's long running "jokes" that aren't totally jokes about gays and marching band in high school. I mean I know everyone associates drama club with high school gay boys, but marching band is another very common gay teenage experience so who knows. You'd have to look up when that style of harness came into being but for all we know some 20something was looking for something to wear to the leather bar and dug one of these out of the back of his closet and the rest is history. I mean after all another famous piece of gay wear, the jockstrap was once a universal piece of high school gym equipment

you know its telling how few people on the internet actually spend time outdoors in general and around actual gay men in particular

because to hear even Tumblr the "gay gender website" talk people only wear harnesses while strapped into a sex swing while being fisted

but the reality is that the harness, both leather and spandex, in gay male world is like stiletto pumps, a bright red lip stick, a short skirt or push up bra.

sure some people are wearing those things because they're about to get laid or hoping to. But lots of people wear them just to feel sexy, confident or powerful. And there's nothing X rated and "shouldn't be seen in public" about any of that.

lots of gay guys wear harnesses to bars or clubs not because its a sex thing, but because its a sexy thing, they feel attractive and confident.

I get that gay men feeling attractive and confident terrifies people, but if you're at Pride and a guy walks past you in jeans and a harness, either shirtless or over his shirt, he didn't violate your civil rights or do a sex thing in front of you, he's wearing a totally appropriate outside that makes him feel confident and powerful.

grow up, deal.

I've been feeling tired and uninspired through most of May, not terrible, but somewhat drained

but today some part of me started to shake awake, I don't generally go for woo-woo shit but I can feel Pride and like last week I was like "ugh, Pride I don't think I can" and today I'm like yassssss pride baby

"My body feels jittery, like I just got a hit of something. Like I'm waking up, maybe? It feels like I have glitter in me. Like I used to have glitter in me--my blood and skin and hair and eyes--and I was special, because I fucking sparkled. And then it drained out, and I forgot to refill it for a while, but now it's back. I took a big hit of glitter. And now I'm sparkling again. I know, I know, it's super gay. But so am I"

-Jack of Hearts (And Other Parts) by L.C. Rosen.

  • The Long Run by James Acker
  • Teenage Dirtbags by James Acker
  • Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli
  • Another Dimension of Us by Mike Albo
  • Wonders of the Invisible World by Christopher Barzak
  • Alan Cole Is Not a Coward by Eric Bell
  • Alan Cole Doesn’t Dance by Eric Bell
  • The Darkest Part of the Forest by Holly Black
  • In Other Lands by Sarah Rees Brennan
  • Felix Yz by Lisa Bunker
  • Last Bus to Everland by Sophie Cameron
  • Dragging Mason County by Curtis Campbell
  • The House of Impossible Beauties by Joseph Cassara
  • Peter Darling by Austin Chant
  • Carry the Ocean by Heidi Cullinan
  • The Love Interest by Cale Dietrich
  • Dear Mothman by Robin Gow
  • Half Bad by Sally Green
  • Half Wild by Sally Green
  • Half Lost by Sally Green
  • Heartbreak Boys by Simon James Green
  • Gay Club by Simon James Green
  • You’re the One That I Want by Simon James Green
  • We Contain Multitudes by Sarah Henstra
  • Totally Joe by James Howe
  • After School Activities by Dirk Hunter
  • At the Edge of the Universe by Shaun David Hutchinson
  • The Past and Other Things That Should Stay Buried by Shaun David Hutchinson
  • We Are the Ants by Shaun David Hutchinson
  • The Five Stages of Andrew Brawley by Shaun David Hutchinson
  • A Complicated Love Story Set in Space by Shaun David Hutchinson
  • The Boy Who Couldn’t Fly Straight by Jeff Jacobson
  • Haffling by Caleb James
  • The Lightning-Struck Heart by T.J. Klune
  • A Destiny of Dragons by T.J. Klune
  • The Consumption of Magic by T.J. Klune
  • A Wish Upon the Stars by T.J. Klune
  • The Extraordinaries by T.J. Klune
  • Flash Fire by T.J. Klune
  • Heat Wave by T.J. Klune
  • The House in the Cerulean Sea by T.J. Klune
  • Openly Straight by Bill Konigsberg
  • The Bridge by Bill Konigsberg
  • Destination Unknown by Bill Konigsberg
  • The Gentleman’s Guide to Vice and Virtue by Mackenzi Lee
  • Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan
  • Every Day by David Levithan
  • Boy Meets Boy by David Levithan
  • Ryan and Avery by David Levithan
  • How to Repair a Mechanical Heart by J.C. Lillis
  • Take a Bow, Noah Mitchell by Tobias Madden
  • The Minus-One Club by Kekla Magoon
  • When Ryan Came Back by Devon McCormack
  • Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston
  • Fraternity by Andy Mientus
  • The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller
  • The Art of Starving by Sam J. Miller
  • Hero by Perry Moore
  • I’ll Give You the Sun by Jandy Nelson
  • More Than This by Patrick Ness
  • Junior Hero Blues by J.K. Pendragon
  • The City Beautiful by Aden Polydoros
  • When Everything Feels Like the Movies by Raziel Reid
  • Kens by Raziel Reid
  • Emmett by Lev A.C. Rosen
  • Jack of Hearts (And Other Parts) by Lev A.C. Rosen
  • Camp by Lev A.C. Rosen
  • Carry On by Rainbow Rowell
  • Wayward Son by Rainbow Rowell
  • Rainbow Boys by Alex Sanchez
  • Rainbow High by Alex Sanchez
  • Rainbow Road by Alex Sanchez
  • So Hard to Say by Alex Sanchez
  • The 99 Boyfriends of Micah Summers by Adam Sass
  • The Darkness Outside Us by Eliot Schrefer
  • How to Get Over the End of the World by Hal Schrieve
  • All Kinds of Other by James Sie
  • They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera
  • History Is All You Left Me by Adam Silvera
  • More Happy Than Not by Adam Silvera
  • Grasshopper Jungle by Andrew Smith
  • Freak Show by James St. James
  • Ray of Sunlight by Brynn Stein
  • The Dangerous Art of Blending In by Angelo Surmelis
  • 366 Days by Kiyoshi Tanaka
  • The Language of Seabirds by Will Taylor
  • Cemetery Boys by Aiden Thomas
  • Wild and Crooked by Leah Thomas
  • Because You’ll Never Meet Me by Leah Thomas
  • Spin Me Right Round by David Valdes
  • Always the Almost by Edward Underhill
  • Hell Followed With Us by Andrew Joseph White

I've yet again updated my very big list, if you've read any of these let me know, if you need help picking one just ask!

Anonymous asked:

I'm laughing my ass off currently because I'm on a work trip down on the wetlands and I just passed the gayest store I've seen, it was a ber alpha macho sports underwear store theme around "with god is your ancestors" type shit and it looked so fucking gay Thier "female" section just looked like the Twink changing room at a gay strip club

.... excuse me? what was the theme?

and also I'm just imaging people getting off a swamp boat to step into this gay underwear and God shop in the middle of the Florida Everglades

What Joe Biden has Done for LGBTQ+ People

I wanted to list out everything The Biden Administration has done for Queer people in the last 3 and a half years, but according to GLAAD it'd been 337 moves (and I noticed they missed a few things...) there was just no way to list every ground breaking first Queer person ever nominated to fill this or that job, every ally with a historic LGBT rights record nominated for a top job, every beautiful statement of support, every time he tried to get Congress to pass the Equality Act (support it!) So I've gone through and done my best to pick the ones I think were the most important, but everyone should check out the full list!

Day 1: Signs executive orders banning discrimination and ordering a full review of all federal agencies policies to better include and support LGBT people

Pete Buttigieg becomes the first openly gay person nominated and confirmed for a cabinet level post as Secretary of Transportation

Department of Housing and Urban Development implements LGBTQ protections in housing, becoming first federal agency to implement Pres. Biden’s executive order

Department of Justice Civil Rights Division issues an official memo that the Supreme Court's Bostock decision against LGBT workplace discrimination also applies to education through Title IX

HUD withdraws a Trump Administration proposed rule change, and reaffirms trans people's rights to seek shelters matching their gender identity

The State Department and later Homeland Security announce babies born to Queer couples overseas will be American citizens if one parent is American, in the past the child only qualified if they were genetically related to the American citizen parent.

The Justice Department files against a West Virginia law banning trans students from school athletics

Department of Veterans Affairs announces it will offer gender confirming surgery for transgender veterans. There are an estimated 134,000 transgender veterans in the U.S. and another 15,000 transgender people serving in the armed forces.

The State Department creates an X gender marker for passports and other documents, allowing gender affirming identification for non-binary and intersex people for the first time.

The Census Bureau for the first time issues a Survey with questions about sexual orientation and gender identity

On the 10th anniversary of the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, Veterans Administration announces that soldiers discharged for homosexual conduct, gender identity or HIV status qualify for veterans' benefits

Dr. Rachel Levine becomes the first trans person confirmed by the US Senate when she was nominated to be Assistant Secretary for Health, she also became the first trans flag rank officer when she was sworn in as a 4 star Admiral for her job as head of the Public Health Service Commissioned Corps, his makes her the highest ranked trans person in government

Holds the first ever vigil in the White House for Transgender Day of Remembrance

HHS announces rule change to reinstate and expand protections against discrimination in the Affordable Care Act, including denying coverage for gender-affirming care.

Social Security Administration reverses a Trump Administration policy and allows benefits claims by surviving partners in same-sex relationships, whose partner died before marriage equality was legal

President Biden signs the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act (a bill he helped originally craft in the Senate) which for the first time has grant programs dedicated to expanding and developing initiatives specifically for LGBTQ survivors of domestic violence

The TSA announces new technology and policy shifts to improve the customer experience of transgender travelers who have previously been required to undergo additional screening due to alarms in sensitive areas.

The Social Security Administration allows people to edit their gender and name on records for the first time without legal and medical documentation

The US Air Force announces it'll offer medical and legal aid to any personnel families affected by state level anti-trans youth bills.

Karine Jean-Pierre becomes the first Lesbian to serve as White House Press Secretary

Veterans Affairs announces survivor benefits now extended to partners from relationships before marriage equality was legalized in 2015

President Biden signs the Respect for Marriage Act into law enshrining protections for marriage equality for same-sex and interracial couples

The Department of Ed announces new rules around athletic eligibility under Title IX, declaring blanket bans on trans students violate the law and setting up strike standards for schools

The White House announced a suit of new protections for LGBTQ people, including a new job at the Department of Ed to combat book bans, a joint DoJ Homeland Security effort to combat violence and threats and HHS evidence-based guidance to mental health providers for care of transgender kids

President Biden signs an Executive Order directing HHS to protect LGBTQI+ youth in the foster care system, a rule they later passed requiring Queer foster children to be placed in affirming homes

The Biden administration joins families of transgender youth in Tennessee and Kentucky in petitioning the U.S. Supreme Court to review and reverse a circuit court ruling allowing a ban on mainstream health care to be enforced

The Department of Education's Civil Rights office opens an investigation into the death of Nex Benedict. President Biden in his statement said: "Every young person deserves to have the fundamental right and freedom to be who they are, and feel safe and supported at school and in their communities. Nex Benedict, a kid who just wanted to be accepted, should still be here with us today. Nonbinary and transgender people are some of the bravest Americans I know. But nobody should have to be brave just to be themselves. In memory of Nex, we must all recommit to our work to end discrimination and address the suicide crisis impacting too many nonbinary and transgender children.”

In high school one of my fellow gay classmates was assaulted in the bathroom. Some redneck picked him up by the throat and threatened to kill him if he ever used the bathroom in school again. The school refused to do anything because there were cameras everywhere in school and the policy was to have video evidence or a teacher witness before serious discipline, the one place without cameras? the bathrooms of course. I didn't go to the bathroom once in high school. When I had to stay after school for Drama Club or whatever, I'd sneak into one of the single toilet teacher bathrooms with a locking door and pray there wasn't a teacher in the hall when I came out otherwise I'd get detention, which is of course more than ever happened to the kid who lifted a gay kid off the floor by his neck and called him a faggot.

Two former librarians of the Sterling Free Public Library in Sterling, Kansas have filed a lawsuit claiming they were fired over a June library display featuring a rainbow symbol that was mistaken for a Pride Month display.

The library’s board fired library director Kari Wheeler and assistant librarian Brandy Lancaster on July 5 after library employee Ruth Splitter complained to the board about the display. Lancaster created the display as part of a national summer reading program with the theme of “All Together Now,” The Topeka Capital-Journal reported.

The display featured a rainbow infinity symbol, a logo often used by neurodivergent and autism rights advocates, along with a heart and the words, “We all think differently.” The display also featured a rainbow image of a child in a wheelchair and a quote from Black writer Maya Angelou that said, “In diversity there is beauty and strength.”

On June 22, Splitter, a temporary summer library employee, complained about the display to Lancaster, saying she found the “gay Pride” symbol offensive and going into “an anti-LGBT diatribe” even though Lancaster explained that the infinity symbol represented neurodiversity and autism.

Splitter then complained about the display to Michelle Miller, vice chair of the library board. Miller reportedly told Lancaster that she could get her fellow board members to have Lancaster take down the display.

“I am totally fine with diversity of skin color display, just not represented with rainbow colors,” Miller texted Wheeler, the director, according to the lawsuit. “I do not want any kind of rainbow display especially in this month. We have a conservative town and as a library do not need to make political statements (see Target and Budlight as negative examples). I certainly do not want the library to promote LGBTQ agendas.”

Wheeler removed the display, thinking its removal would just be temporary until the board advised her on how to change it. Instead, two weeks later, the board decided that it had lost confidence in Wheeler and Lancaster and voted to fire them.