sometimes when two people love each other very much something bad happens
When Im in an ultimate yearner competition but Kris deltarune shows up
oh! the Black lead is annoying and insufferable and u want him to die? but you like the other two (white) leads just fine? oh the Black woman who's made morally questionable or evil decisions is irredeemable and no matter what new information you learn there's just "something off about her"? but the white woman who's made morally questionable or evil decisions is understandable or even just yass evil girl boss moment slay? three page essay due on my desk monday explaining why. with citations. the rest of the class and i are dying to hear your analysis.
‼️ THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT SHIPPING DISCOURSE ‼️ THIS POST IS ABOUT ANTIBLACKNESS IN FANDOM AND PEOPLES' UNEXAMINED BIASES AGAINST BLACK CHARACTERS ‼️
someone accused me of feigning a sexual attraction to spiders for clout. there's easier ways to get clout, man.....
Someone once called my 22 minute hand sewn 18th century buttonhole tutorial video "Empty, clout driven content" so I think some people will just say anything.
Had a soul-searing moment where I sat unblinking trying to figure out what a "hand sewn 18th century butthole" could be for, until I read that again.
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retracing ur steps to remember what u were about to say/do is so funny like yeah let me go stand next to the microwave for a second i think i dropped my thought over there. & then it works
there is a very specific type of political enlightenment when you allow yourself to acknowledge bad people can be attractive and funny and intelligent and still be bad people because those things don’t quantify morality
“i’ve never met a pretty racist” “republican makeup” etc etc is all just enforcing the idea that being conventionally unattractive is a moral failing. stop doing that. it’s an actively dangerous idea to spread
I don't know about "republican makeup" but we do live in a time where "Mar-a-Lago face" is literally a way for republican women to prove their loyalty to the cause via plastic surgery.
So while yes, generally I agree with your point, we do live in a time with looksmaxxers (i hate that I learned this word this year) and "tradwives" and they are all fascists and the ultra-conservatives very much have made visual presentation conformity, especially via plastic surgery, to a specific set of features a thing. Whether you consider them "attractive" or not is a matter of personal taste, and there are absolutely people who naturally fit closely to it and are not conservative and shouldn't be presumed to be, but when you know plastic surgery is involved, it has very much become a way to visually signal a personal indentity in the same way wearing a rainbow pin does (also something to be said about conservatives advertising they are of a wealth to pay for that many plastic surgeries).
If you are actively choosing to alter your appearance in ways that are broadly understood to signal certain cultural affiliations and people respond accordingly, that is definitively different from judging someone's morality based on whether they'd be cast in a hollywood movie. Obviously it's not great to race to assumptions based on a single factor, but please tell me we haven't left the body positivity movement so far behind us that we can't tell the difference between conventional attractiveness and fashion/style choices
Honestly making new friends in my late 20s early 30s has in some ways been indistinguishable from dating except the courtship period is not romantic or sexual. I think people need to revisit the art of flirting in a friend way…like presenting your best self to a person and genuinely glowing when they return the gesture. And letting people influence and change you and getting excited when you have a chance to talk to them. That’s what makes getting to know someone fun in the first place…everyone in those advice threads about how to befriend people is basically describing how to have Coworkers not friends. “Go to a bar and hang out and start a conversation” you can do this but you have to follow up the first encounter with putting your best foot forward instead of just listlessly hoping for the social approval of the other party!!!!