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kossai is very visual . there is one bare minimum that need to connect with any given courtier effectively , and that is picture . take concentrated effort to establish hook without picture , and so that is first part of record someone new - if not full picture , then at least description of traits to build one later .

of course courtiers with multiple regular forms can throw spanner , but usually prioritise preferred form , " generic form " that encapsulate most common traits like hair colour or number of fingers , or if practical to do so , include all forms - exact approach is down to courtier preference .

often kossai make these pictures , no harm no foul there . where things can get more dicey is when find random pictures which line up incredibly well with someone . sometimes this picture is specific character , and courtier's identity line up with stated character whether mainstream or niche .

sometimes , identity do not line up , but still look similar enough to adopt picture . even if redraw with that courtier's specific personal quirks , will still look very similar . ( one courtier , for example , use picture of mass-market BJD - only major difference is that add rabbit ears . )

in any case this all pose another good reason for anonymity and non-reveals - people show up and exist regardless . can not just change essence of self to avoid violation , but can avoid public connection and identification . fortunately already prefer that anyway , but real shit predicament for collectives who prefer publicity . risk use of true-to-heart pictures , or come up with some cover form that is less comfortable ?

Current Mood: thoughtful
Current Music: iii. steps upward ~ metamorphose string orchestra

just think about why , in first place , front have time limit for kossai . everyone is little bit different , but general threshold is 2 or 3 hours . can stay beyond this technically , but will increase in agitation and exhaustion exponentially . sometimes can extend threshold with favourite activities and comforts , but still not infinite .

think ought to borrow from changeling the dreaming again here , banality - actions and ideas which suppress faerie glamour and selfhood . there is level of banality this human world demand : language , for one . social interaction that do not , whether inadvertently or purposefully , hurt others . ability to curb impulses , sometimes even kind ones . rules to follow for what appropriate human conduct look like .

part of what eira provide is baseline tools to handle these needs of banality . even courtiers with low language use can , if necessary , lean on eira to provide - at cost of temporarily mangle self . but even when individual meet or exceed eira's baseline , these tools still hurt to use , still wear out .

favourite things can help with rejuvenate and shake off some of banality , especially when able to engage without language use . but sometimes that is harder than sound - might need to look up crochet stitch tutorials , or read from pattern and interpret words into actions . sometimes others talk too much , and then have to compensate and drown out - sometimes only thing that can drown out words is other words .

can also try to trance out , meditate , enter states that ought to be less banal - but unless circumstance is perfect as is , eira is always ready and on guard to kick back in , so rarely get to feel full effects . sometimes can be so much of fight that ultimately feel worse after try .

and this is on top of also have to face physical pains , several marginalised positions in society , plus traumas and safeguards which arise from those . these things too contribute to banality .

everyone , eira too , is always faerie . where struggle is in all of these banal needs to navigate world of humans . eira can provide tools , but can not negate . this is what give limits in front - any courtier can only handle for so long , even in ideal circumstances . in that case , large population is essentially blessing - anyone can have turn around front , and then still have lots of time to rest before next one .

Current Mood: tired
Current Music: la promise ~ lydwen

crosspost from tumblr , which adapt from ranty thoughts .

simple comic with header, 2 middle panels, and footer. header read, in quotation marks, "every large collective is polyfragmented!" in answer to this quote, subheader read "nope!" // middle left panel define polyfragmentation with 4 bullet points in red: 1. term generally tied to highly dissociative collectives with levels of trauma deemed as profound, 2. may have large population of fragments or less-elaborated members, 3. functions may be deemed as complex, such as layered headspaces, modular fragments, and/or highly splintered barriers, 4. definition is not always super clear, which lead to misinterpretations. // middle right panel define large population with 4 bullet points in blue: 1. not inherent to any origin; may also be gateway, spontaneous, created, non-polyfrag dissociative, etc., 2. not necessarily populated by fragments or less-elaborated members, 3. functions may not have additional fragmentation or complexity; large but unlayered headspaces, "simple" barriers, no modularity, etc, 4. definition is not always super clear, which lead to misinterpretations. // footer panel show blobby stick figure, who elaborate, "even this is simplification. point of this is not to determine that there is any specific way which polyfragmentation will always look, but instead that polyfragmentation is not generalised term for every large plural collective, and there is still (loose) set of criteria. frankly, some polyfragmented collectives may not even identify main population as very large, simply because most of that population is fragmented, modular, or just absolute pain to track and accomodate."

recent rant , redone in comic form . not every large collective is polyfragmented !

while polyfragmentation is not always easy to define , and communities may adapt in ways psychiatric literature do not account for , do believe in importance of keep some kind of barrier between polyfragmentation and large population - collectives can be large even without polyfragmentation , and small even with polyfragmentation .

Current Mood: determined
Current Music: follow your star ~ mike rowland

something that never really take individual note of before is front threshold . know general rule is about 2-3 hours before too tired and cranky to continue , but some courtiers can go beyond that . sometimes this is just personal extension , like someone who can go 4-5 hours regularly , but other times this tie to ... well , happiness !

so that is just another reason for everyone to note down some of favourite activities and things . of course some of this is not controllable or accessible , like ... personally feel most comfortable and refreshed when all swampy and wet , but not every day is shower day and also do not have access to water parks , so often can only handle lower threshold . but , if have these things on note , then can recognise why hit threshold and be nicer to selves ! ( sometimes might try and push past threshold just to reach comfort , but by then comfort can not do very much to help , so then just feel bad that even comfort manage to fail and turn into whole cycle of blah . )

Current Mood: optimistic
Current Music: lambent light ~ sky: children of the light ost

crosspost from tumblr .

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plurality and transgender identity honestly exist as similar frameworks , like . at first brush , there is medicalised definition . this definition still exclude plenty of experiences , and to be very clear , even in medical fields there is argument of how to treat . some want to give full support , some would say with cautious acceptance but not too radical , others would say total elimination of this " broken core " by any force necessary .

medicalised plurality : diagnosis of DID/OSDD , extreme amnesia and dissociation , must be viewed as one fractured self

medicalised transgender identity : diagnosis of gender dysphoria , extreme depression and suicide risk , must be viewed as mind-body mismatch

some people fit these definitions . some of those people still get denied help , because simply not " severe enough " , or happy existence seem too exaggerated and unreal . community definitions can be looser , though will still find corners of communities that argue for strict medicalised definitions , in hopes to protect place among normal society at large - " normal society " where people may still outcast , but hopefully not too badly .

community-defined plurality : someone with multiple people inside of head , usually with switches of front .

community-defined transgender identity : someone with gender identity that mismatch with gender doctors assign at birth .

and yeah , these can work ... better , but there is still lots missing . definitions of plurality that focus on state of total individualisation from one another miss mark for pretty much anyone who is median , as well as anyone who can not switch , anyone who experience roleplay as more-than-muse but still not-quite-other , and anyone who feel that multiple selfhoods exist but not necessarily all at once . not to mention this spring arguments , both internal and external , about how much " personhood " is required to count , and how to even measure this in first place . if someone within collective seem to only display one emotion , is that proof of single-emotion existence , and therefore proof of less personhood , or is there another circumstance at play ?

definitions of transgender identity that focus on difference from assigned gender at birth also miss mark for many , and intersex people especially . someone who is intersex may have birth and legal assignment of one gender , but social treatment as another . perhaps assign one at birth , then later reassign another one in puberty . or grow up effectively degendered , where no one trust in assignment to begin with , outcasted regardless . this is not even to mention how surgical and hormonal treatments get used against intersex people , such that even intersex person who would technically be cisgender under this definition due to surgical force do not feel experience to be cisgender .

of course , all of that can be kind of hard to wrap up in simple talk about simple labels - and think if want to talk about specific experiences , that is not necessarily wrong . but do prefer to view both of these as more umbrellas - these words provide framework to talk about wide array of experiences .

personal framework of plurality : experience of selfhood(s) and/or personhood(s) that may be more than one , not solely one , and/or on boundaries between one-and-many

personal framework of transgender identity : experience of gender that defy expectations of one's legal assignment , societal assignment , social role , and/or one's own past experiences

frankly even these definitions have some kind of rigidity by nature of words , and especially when already struggle with language expression to begin with , but general idea here is this : if someone feel that these words give framework to better understand identity and improve life experience , then should be welcome to use .

maybe this will not turn out to fit right , and that is fine . maybe place within these frameworks will shift , and that is fine . maybe will always remain where first plant flag , and that is fine . there will also invariably be people whose experiences could fit these loose definitions , but feel as if just not right place to be - and that too is fine .

Current Mood: thoughtful
Current Music: soporific ~ faery magicking

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Entries tagged with topic: plural experience: any

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