I'm not for kink shaming but I'm gonna be real detrans and misgendering kinks can very easily be pipelines to groom trans men into detransitioning in real life. I feel like it comes from the isolation of being transmasc, and how we're only seen as desirable when we're performing femininity (you know the common story of young tboys being groomed by older cis guys who don't see them as men so they detransition? Doesn't it seem familiar?), especially performing femininity sexually. You either keep it very strictly fantasy and make sure you've got everything under control or you're at a pretty high risk of getting groomed.

I’m for kink shaming.

This take makes sense if your baseline understanding of kink is that it’s neutral. Just something that people are into for some reason and there’s no concerning psychology or system of oppression behind it.

Whereas my viewpoint is that kinks have a psychology and a trauma and a system of oppression that leads to their development in the first place, so we have to think about why people are engaging in them.

I see detrans kinks as very similar to a d*ke-breaking kink. Not just because the mostly male fetishizers of these two kinks are often one and the same. If I met a lesbian who was into this, I would be very concerned for her mental health, and I would question what trauma and oppression led her to the point of wanting to engage in that. I would say she probably needs therapy. Same goes for transmasc people.

And I would especially question any person (cis or trans) who wanted to engage in it as the perpetrator of that fantasy, as to how they may be involved in those systems of oppression and why the erosion of your boundaries and your right to self-expression would get them off.

I’m kink-negative in the sense that I think it’s fucking weird if someone wants to harm you physically or psychologically in the bedroom. I’m kink-negative in the sense that in a better world, no one would have a kink for literal conversion therapy rape. I’m kink-negative when it comes to the perpetrators, not the victims (real or imaginary) in these scenarios.

You can hardly even find actual detrans people in the detrans tags because it’s so full of this shit. That makes it hard for people to find support and community, without their suffering being sexualized or redirected into the pursuit of patriarchal femininity.

No not fucking co opt my post to put it on fucking radblr again.

Jesus fuck. Just wow.

a) using v-coding as some gotcha for oppression points is VILE and transmisogyny

Disgusting piece of shit

b) trans men ARE abused and raped in prisons. And you no knowing and caring really showcases the invisibility in that regard

And the only reply to this:

Again using a long somewhat debunked, tiny study, again using it for oppression points and to play the victim.

If these people aren't trolls, they're completely addicted to being victims and transphobic. They're not safe to be around for any trans person. They could never be normal about trans women, especially given that they use the suffering of trans women as a talking point against trans men with no empathy whatsoever

@/melodies-stereo and @/shadowspussy for the blocklist

ISFF is a racist, transphobic rape apologist and I believe that her attempts at attacking those who keep her accountable being disguised as "transfeminism" is disgusting.

Being a rape apologist and blaming victims

Saying racist shit and talking about how she's being murdered

But constantly reblogs posts bout racism 🙄

The weird pedophilic shit

We love a self aware about her racism French woman who also hates Native Americans 🧡

I think she forgot sex-repulsed aces exist

Suicide baiting and the suicides

She accepts pedophiles more than trans men

I still get angry when I remember the "transmascs are appropriating transfemme culture by loving the Ikea shark" discourse.

Because not only is it a mass-produced, corporate plush that can be bought by anyone in the world for $30, but also... what an insult to people who have undergone real appropriation of things they actually created, that actually WERE key parts of their culture. What an insult to indigenous people whose religious and other ceremonial fashion was stolen because it "looked cool." What an insult to black musicians who spent years having every kind of music they made derided as "not real music", only for said genres to enjoy blasts of popularity once white people stole it. What an insult to people of color who have their culture presented as zany wacky amusement park fare instead of being respected.

Some groups of people are actually having their culture stolen, and you think it's appropriate to make this claim about a shark plushie anyone can buy that wasn't even designed by a transfemme in the first place? A plush made by a company that, for the record, has historically engaged in slave labor to make their products.

Which is so fitting, because it means this group of people is appropriating the term "appropriation" from people who have actually experienced cultural appropriation.

You aren't victims of cultural appropriation. What you are is gatekeepers. Blahaj no more belongs to you than Dig 'Em the Honey Smacks frog belongs to enbies.

Now if you want to talk about someone in the sphere of gender minorities who has undoubtedly been the victims of appropriation, let's talk about how the terms AMAB and AFAB (and CAFAB and CAMAB) were stolen from the intersex community, shall we?

"Nobody hates you for being a man" but several people have told me to my face that they would respect me more if I was non-binary. When I identified as non-binary people treated me much better. I dealt with much less transphobia from so-called "allies". Some of this is due to exorsexism—I wasn't trans enough for it to be "worth it" to be transphobic toward me. But still. Being a man, a trans man, has made people hate and disregard and ignore me significantly more.

Racist white queer people love telling on themselves jfc.

"Lynching was bad because it took away due process because some people who were lynched did what they were accused of and to deny that is MRA victim blaming" is such a wild fucking take in the year 2026.

LIKE BESTIE LYNCHING IS BAD BECAUSE IT IS A HATE CRIME EXECUTED BY WHITE SUPREMACISTS HOLY HELL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Like are you non-American do you just not understand what lynching is? If you are American what state did you go to school in and how old are you now because if you're young and in a red state MAYBE I can stretch my empathy to understand your utterly racist take, but if you're a grown ass American adult with full access to the World Wide Web and a local library how have you gotten this far in life without understanding this very basic, well known fact about the history of racism and racist hate crimes in America.

I really need to start reporting more people before I block

"beam that kills tmes" is just transphobia. It's just wishing violence on trans people. People who say it are transphobic especially transandrophobic and exorsexist and that's all there is to it

Watch people go "akshually 99% of people are tme". Because that's always the cop out. But then the same people proceed to use it interchangeably with "trans men/mascs"

But also: Hey. Maybe wanting to kill 99% of humans isn't so great either. Maybe wanting to kill everyone who isn't exactly like you isn't a good stance. Just a thought

Look this is not my lane I don’t even go here but too many anti censorship ao3 users follow me so I think it’s worth it to say a lot of y’all are being fucking weird about wattpad users. Which against the popular belief that are all sensitive teenagers most of them are actually Hispanic bc ao3 is not popular in latam. And calling them refugees and immigrants and stupid and puritans and ruining a platform (which is fanfic btw it’s never that serious) is really fucking weird and even taking out that most wattpad users are not Anglo-Saxon the way y’all speak about these supposed ‘refugees’ and ‘immigrants’ has very racist connotations

Hello AO3 user. A community from a different fanfiction site with a huge hispanic and otherwise non American/Anglo-Saxon user base is moving to your platform. Your task is to not refer to them as annoying migrants/refugees and talk about how you're so much better than them when they get culture shock after moving to a different site.

Transfeminism is getting mutual aid avenues for trans people taken down. Do you even hear yourself. Do you even hear yourself.

Wow. "I was victimized so everyone else should suffer too"

Also, we've completely stopped pretending that "tme" doesn't just mean trans men/mascs, huh?

Ive said something like this before but one of the most morbidly funny side effects of people arguing about if trans men belong in "the queer community" is how often it reveals they dont know any cis queer men and dont think of them as part of the "the queer community" either. "Are masculine men allowed to be queer? What about people's fear of masculine men?" Have you never seen pictures of a pride parade before. Is this your first day being queer. Do you know what a bear is. Are we having the "bears arent really gay" debate in 2026 but call it feminist now.

The great online queer minds of our generation all trying to come up with reasons why the most enlightened thing a trans guy can do is detransition and the best they can come with is "it just freaks me out that James is gay AND plays basketball! It's like he isnt gay at all" its a fucking tiktok reboot of saved by the bell with you people, I swear to god.

"transmascs love misgendering themselves" hey so are you aware that everytime we try to create inclusive terms we get made fun of? Did you not see how mad TERFs got over the terms "birthing person" or "uterus owner"? We literally can't use terms that wouldn't misgender us because when we do other queer people and people outside the community turn it into a joke.

actually I think all radfems should still be called terfs even if they are trans themselves, not tirfs or trfs or transradfems. a trans woman who only supports other trans women and hates trans men is still a trans exclusive radical feminist, shes just exclusive of trans men who still need to be protected and included in feminism. and the same goes for transmisogynistic trans men, of course. I dont think terf ideology matters much who you are, and if you really look into the politics of trans terfs, you see they carry a lot of the same toxic and poisonous views that cis terfs do. its just turned inward until they hate every trans person thats not their perfect definition of acceptable. they took the same carbon copy terf ideology from cis bigots and pryed it open juuust enough to fit themselves inside

this is exactly what I've been saying; excluding any trans people is TERF behavior

Look this is not my lane I don’t even go here but too many anti censorship ao3 users follow me so I think it’s worth it to say a lot of y’all are being fucking weird about wattpad users. Which against the popular belief that are all sensitive teenagers most of them are actually Hispanic bc ao3 is not popular in latam. And calling them refugees and immigrants and stupid and puritans and ruining a platform (which is fanfic btw it’s never that serious) is really fucking weird and even taking out that most wattpad users are not Anglo-Saxon the way y’all speak about these supposed ‘refugees’ and ‘immigrants’ has very racist connotations

I reeeeaaalllyy don't like how widespread gender realism is in supposedly feminist circles on this website. You are one step away from becoming a radfem.

"Woman" is a socially constructed category and "women" have nothing intrinsic in common, other than viewing themselves as whatever "woman" is defined as in their society, or being judged by the standards of whatever "woman" is defined as in their society. Gender is as "real" of a category as race or neurotype, which is to say, it's not objectively real at all. It's an artificial category created on the basis of perceived shared traits among certain people. The people came first, they were grouped into their artificial category later. There are no intrinsic differences between men or women or nonbinary or multigender people.

Do you actually believe gender is a social construct or are you just mindlessly repeating the phrase because it sounds cool

Watching the queer way of interacting with gender go from "Gender is a social construct that can be fun to play with but at heart is a dangerous toy because it has been used for generations to oppress and divide people." To "Everyone has a perfect crystal of true gender which you must deeply introspect to discover, and you can be wrong about its nature." Has been a disaster.

White gays gotta go