MYDEI

@qaivan / qaivan.tumblr.com

No /P or /Fam tonetags. Only use He/Him if given permission. If I recoin something, please tell me as soon as possible.

I hate that there's no room for nonbinary people in media. When a character's gender is "ambiguous" (neither seen as masculine nor feminine) and solely referred to with neutral terms such as "they/them" and person, individual, etc, people can't stand that. They can't stand the idea that a nonbinary person wouldn't want to be a boy or girl, isn't a boy or a girl. They have to be a girlthing or a boything (why are all nonbinary people things? Why is it never girlenby or boyenby?), they have to be transfem or transmasc. When they're put into relationships, they have to be either lesbian or gay. Nobody can be cenelian or enbian or diamoric or gai or strayt or trixic or toric. That doesn't exist.

I'm sick of it. I'm sick of seeing nonbinarity be shoved into category after category after category when the whole point of being nonbinary is that we want to opt out.

Exorpunk

The subculture and identity (like amatopunk, for example) that staunchly rejects, fights against, and directly opposes exorsexism and binarism. It's about redefining gender, abolishing the sex and gender arities, and being loudly supportive of nonbinarity. It is for nonbinary and anonbinary folks, but it is not exclusive to them; in fact, it is encouraged that binary people be exorpunk.

Some other topics exorpunk is about:

  • Recognizing gender, especially nonbinarity, as a spectrum
  • Rejecting bioessentialism, gender essentialism, and the idea that male and female/masculinity and femininity are opposities
  • Rejecting transmedicalism, truscum, and embracing the many ways of transitioning as a nonbinary person
  • Opposing the idea that gender qualities (such as masculinity, femininity, neutrality, etc) go hand-in-hand with gender, as this is used to uphold the western binary
  • Abolishing exorsexism, binarism, gender arity, and sex arity
  • Opposing labels that sort people into gender arities, as well as the people who sort us
  • Not only adopting, but popularizing, nonbinary (societal-wise and gender-wise) and neutral alternatives to binary sayings and labels
  • Uplifting and learning about the (gender) identities of POC which don't fit into the western binary
  • Fighting colonialist and western ideas of queerness and gender, especially when they're pushed onto marginalized cultures and awestern identities
  • Uplifting intersex people, who are often the targets of exorsexism (alongside intersexism, of course)
  • Supporting nonbinary people, encouraging them to be loud about their identity

Flag meaning:

  • Black: Lives lost due to transphobia, exorsexism, binarism, and intersexism; the struggles that those outside of gender and sex arity face
  • Blue: Activism, education, and freedom
  • Green: Awestern gender identities and gender identities of poc that dont fall under the western binary
  • Deep Yellow: Joy, encouragement, positivity; intersexness and allyship towards intersex people
  • White: A color often used in flags to represent nonbinarity and community alike
  • Symbols are self-explanatory.

Here are alternative flags for those who focus on how exorsexism affects intersex people and POC/awestern folks. The exorpunk flag is already inclusive of them, so this isn't to single them out. Instead, it's for those who want to highlight the fact they combat these sides of the issue. I am white and perisex, but I had my intersex and POC friends give input on these.