Journal created:
on 12 June 2008 (#15850575)
Updated:
on 7 December 2009
Name:
Fear of Pregnancy--Testimonials and Information
Membership:
Open
Posting Access:
All Members , Moderated
Description:
Living with a Phobia of Pregnancy and Childbirth
Well, since you’re here you either did the random journal thing or are interested in the phobia of pregnancy and/or childbirth.
My idea of this place is as somewhere people can come to talk about their tokophobia (or tocophobia, spellings vary) safely and without hearing all the same old replies (“Everybody does it!”, “You forget all about the pain when you hold your baby!”, “Go natural!”, “Go medical!”). This may just be a place for telling *somebody* who will understand. Er, yes, because we needed another “Let me tell you, lj” community.
So, what this community is:
A place to discuss primary and secondary tocophobia and share resources regarding this fear.
A safe place. No being rude to other posters. If you can’t say something nice or something helpful without being rude... you aren’t needed here.
Gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, asexual, and straight friendly.
Pro-choice but tolerant of pro-lifers. Just agree to disagree.
A place for women, regardless of childed status, to meet peacefully. There may be a higher percentage of childfree women here than elsewhere. There may well be women here who desperately want children but are just as terrified of the process involved as tocophobic childfree women. BE NICE TO EACH OTHER. Regardless of your “side” don’t ask, “But why do/don’t you want children?”
I don’t want to be a mommy in real life, so I certainly don’t want to play mommy to women who are old enough to know better.
Watchers are welcome, trolls will be banned.
What this community is not:
A place to discuss abortion. Try abortiondebate if that’s how you get your kicks.
A place to push therapy: if it’s not hurting anyone but yourself (or if you don’t feel you’re hurting at all) you don’t *have* to go to therapy. Conversely, if you want to go to therapy there is no shame in it.
A front line of the mommy wars. For instance, if the question of natural vs c-section arises (as well it may) please be respectful. The same goes for breastfeeding, cloth diapers, etc, etc.
Other Stuff
Unmoderated membership and posting now, subject to change without notice.
I'm not really interested in being a mod: if anyone wants to take over, send me a message.
My idea of this place is as somewhere people can come to talk about their tokophobia (or tocophobia, spellings vary) safely and without hearing all the same old replies (“Everybody does it!”, “You forget all about the pain when you hold your baby!”, “Go natural!”, “Go medical!”). This may just be a place for telling *somebody* who will understand. Er, yes, because we needed another “Let me tell you, lj” community.
So, what this community is:
A place to discuss primary and secondary tocophobia and share resources regarding this fear.
A safe place. No being rude to other posters. If you can’t say something nice or something helpful without being rude... you aren’t needed here.
Gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, asexual, and straight friendly.
Pro-choice but tolerant of pro-lifers. Just agree to disagree.
A place for women, regardless of childed status, to meet peacefully. There may be a higher percentage of childfree women here than elsewhere. There may well be women here who desperately want children but are just as terrified of the process involved as tocophobic childfree women. BE NICE TO EACH OTHER. Regardless of your “side” don’t ask, “But why do/don’t you want children?”
I don’t want to be a mommy in real life, so I certainly don’t want to play mommy to women who are old enough to know better.
Watchers are welcome, trolls will be banned.
What this community is not:
A place to discuss abortion. Try abortiondebate if that’s how you get your kicks.
A place to push therapy: if it’s not hurting anyone but yourself (or if you don’t feel you’re hurting at all) you don’t *have* to go to therapy. Conversely, if you want to go to therapy there is no shame in it.
A front line of the mommy wars. For instance, if the question of natural vs c-section arises (as well it may) please be respectful. The same goes for breastfeeding, cloth diapers, etc, etc.
Other Stuff
Unmoderated membership and posting now, subject to change without notice.
I'm not really interested in being a mod: if anyone wants to take over, send me a message.
abortion, asexuality, babies, bisexuality, celibacy, childfree, children, contraception, fear of labor, fear or pregnancy, gay, homosexuality, labor, lesbian, phobia, pregnancy, primary tokophobia, pro-choice, pro-life, secondary tokophobia, sexual abuse, sterilization, tocophobia, tokophobia, women