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@stormofstarlight

Storm/Star/Virgil/Wolf | 20s | They/them. Xae/xaem/xaers. Fae/faer/faers. Ei/eir/eirs. Noi/noise | Autistic. Aroace. Gemini sun & moon, virgo rising. AO3: stormofstarlight Sideblogs: emoprincey, aroaceattorneys, lilaclapis. Profile picture description: A glass dragon eye with a slit pupil set into purplish scale-patterned fabric. Header image description: The "Always has been" meme. One astronaut is looking at the earth, which has a picture of a croc overlayed onto it, and is saying "Wait, it's all crocs?". The second astronaut is pointing a gun at the first and saying "always has been". / End ID.

Pronoun guide!!

Since I use neopronouns, I've decided to make a guide to help people use them XD

Here they are next to my other pronouns for comparison!!

They/them/theirs/themself

Xae/xaem/xaers/xaemself

Fae/faer/faers/faerself

Noi/noise/noiseself

Ei/eir/eirs/eirself

Pronunciation:

Xae/xaem/xaers - zay/zem/zairs

Fae/faer/faers - fay/fair/fairs

Ei/eir/eirs - ay/air/airs

Example sentences:

Xae went for a walk by xaemself. Xae took xaer book with xaem

Fae went for a walk by faerself. Fae took faer book with faer

Thanks for reading!!

Can we be nicer to people who are on the aro/ace spectrum who aren’t aroace please? Aroallos and alloaces and aplatonic folk and cupioromantics and those who want queerplatonic relationships and those who don’t and aros who date and aces who have sex and people who don’t fall on the “sex-favourable to sex-repulsed” line because they feel like it doesn’t describe them well enough and greyromantics and demisexuals and those in polycules and selfshipping communities and those who fight for aro/ace visibility and those who don’t and those who haven’t fully come to terms with their identity yet and this community is such a beautiful place can we see it beyond “uwu innocent aroace doesn’t know what sex is” please god I am begging you

the bad news: I now hate my current wip and strongly believe there isn't a single joke in it that lands

the good news: I know my process enough to recognize this as the slump that I hit in everything I write when it's like three-quarters-ish done

the bad news: the only way out is through

the good news: I do know the way out!

the bad news: yeah but it's through

making a cross stitch that says "I am funny and he would fucking say that" to hang directly above my monitor

"hey toast you stayed up past midnight because you were working on the fic and not because you were procrastinating by making a hideous pattern for a joke cross stitch" have you never met a writer before

gonna tell my kids this was live laugh love

  • british is not synonymous with white
  • european is not synonymous with white
  • the world is not divided into USA (melting pot), white countries and brown countries
  • "um you know the type of person I mean when I say british" hey do you think this line of thought may have Implications

this post is about black and brown people in britain and europe who are just as british and european as their white neighbours. everyone in the notes taking it as a cue to yammer about distinctions between types of white people in britain and europe is doing exactly what the post describes. shut the fuck up.

Fun how the bystander effect was coined to cover up how cops are bigoted cowards who let a queer person die and stockholm syndrome was coined to cover that the cops handled a hostage situation so badly the hostages trusted their captors more than the cops.

YES YES YES

MULTIPLE BYSTANDERS TRIED TO HELP IN THE "Bystander effect" ANECDOTE

"Stockholm Syndrome" WAS A THEORY BASED OFF THE SPECULATION OF A SINGLE PSYCHIATRIST WHO MADE NO INTERVIEWS OF ANY VICTIMS

I'M 👏 SO 👏 ANGRY 👏

Human relationships are not transactional but they are reciprocal, which I think many of you with your ‘i don’t owe anyone anything’ shtick are too happy to forget

Transactional: everything has to be exactly 50/50 all the time, pay me back for the £5 sandwich or buy me something worth exactly £5, I refuse to make an effort for you if there’s nothing in it for me

Reciprocal: you were there for me when I needed help, and I’m going to do the same for you, it doesn’t matter if one of us needs more or is capable of less, because the point is not equivalent exchange but mutual care

hey guysss so unfortunately the rumors are true and im leaving the narrative. Buttt the good news is my absence will create such a gaping hole in your lives that it will become a sort of presence itself, and so in a way it will kind of be like i never left! But i am. Leaving just to be clear.

brainfreeze is my favorite pain response because it’s literally your body telling you to stop eating fucking snow, you jackass, what is wrong with you

Strange racists and homophobes on the internet seem to have access to an alternate way cooler version of TV than me. "every white character on TV is in an interracial relationship" "every show has a gay couple in it" "main characters keep having to secretly be bisexual and nonbinary" "every show has gratuitous full frontal nudity" like damn promise?? What channel???

as a black gay person real like where y'all be finding this stuff pass the name

for real though, those DO NOT WATCH OR YOU'LL CORRUPT YOUR CHILDREN lists put out by conservative christian family groups is where I find all the stellar tv shows. Like, shit I didn't know half of those existed, thanks for finding them for me, gonna go watch 30 hours of gay tv now!

I think I know how this works.

For personal context, before I went to the '98 Burning Man festival, one of the things I'd read from a couple different journalists was that "everybody" runs around naked. Which, fine by me, I'd already spent a lot of time in clothing-optional spaces, I'm not fanatic about it but it's nice.

So I got there early and set up a public shade structure on one of Black Rock City's main roads and spent most of each afternoon just watching the crowds go by. I don't remember seeing more than one actually naked person the whole week. I think a topless woman passed by my intersection maybe every half an hour, sometimes once an hour. So why in the hell were people, normally pretty smart and observant writers, coming away with the impression that everybody was naked?

Then I remembered an unrelated passage from Joel Garreau's great book about the history of the outer-ring suburbs, Edge City. Mall developers told him flat-out that they tried to keep the crowds in their malls less than 5% black. Not because they themselves were racist, but because they had determined, experimentally, that if more than 5% of the people in the mall are black, the median white shopper will wrongly describe the mall as at least half black, as mostly black. And not a few of them would describe it, at 6% black, as a mall where "only black people go." Why?

Because, emotionally, they were still upset over the last one when the next one came into view.

Same as the journalists describing Black Rock City as all naked. Same as the right-wing religious culture warriors describing television as entirely mixed-race and gender non-conforming. Not because it's even vaguely true, we know that, but because they haven't gotten over their discomfort over the last one by the time the next one comes along. The anger, not the stimulus, is the part that's continuous, so their mind lies to them that it's "all" the thing they can't get over.

What’s the solution then? Or if there’s no solution, should we make things even queerer and more diverse?

Adding this from a comment on Reddit:

"If there's no solution, should we just make things even queerer and more diverse?"

Unironically, yes. Edge City was written in 1991 - do you think 5% is still the threshold for the "median white shopper" to describe the mall as half black, 35 years later? I'd be very surprised if so.
Except for a small minority of extremely hateful people, things like outrage and discomfort can't be sustained. They fade with time and exposure. This is the same idea with the Overton Window, it's what we mean when we say "normalization".
For some people, and in some ways, that idea of "normalcy" is locked where it was in your childhood, but most people are more pliable than we like to think. Marketing and propaganda are massive industries for a reason - what we see affects how we act and how we see the world, often without us realizing and in ways that aren't comfortable to admit.
So yeah, making things more queer and more diverse isn't giving up on a solution, it IS the solution.

Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/CuratedTumblr/s/5k5VwmIZwR

Pro-censorship wattpad refugees drama is so funny to me because when I started using ao3 as a kid I was a devout mormon and I thought that reading anything even remotely pornagraphic was a sin and would ruin my life. So when I was 13 and found ao3 I went "oh awesome I found a fanfic website with a filtering system so I won't ever randomly stumble into porn. This is great! I was really worried about seeing something I didn't want to see on the other platforms." I didn't read any smut online until like three years later. If a mormon 13 year old can figure out 'don't like don't read' wattpad users can too cmon you guys i believe in you.

going to start calling it ethical monogamy. catch me giving a fuck

"i mean yeah it's fine that you're in a monogamous relationship, man, but, like, you're letting her have friends, right? she can go out and you won't freak out? her texts are private? she doesn't just say 'alright sure' every time you want to have sex? you interact with her friends and family without trying to make her look good? i just wanna make sure this monogamy is ethical"

the other week i was talking to a girl and she told me that her boyfriend made her cut off one of her friends (or only see him at group settings) because he was jealous. and in the meantime that man got shot and died. and she missed out on her last two years with him. and i started seeing fucking red