This has been a while coming...
Well, it's been forever since I wrote in here, or even logged in to this journal. Uh. Life's pretty awesome. Job good, boyfriend attained, new computer get, drowning in Christmas music, etc etc. There's one thing that's been bothering me lately, and it's something that deserves a public airing.
I roleplay a lot, online and off, and inevitably there is drama. Offline, when faced with drama, I attempt to resolve things by being calm, logical and empathetic, and the occasional impassioned disagreement aside, I have never lost a friend to misunderstanding. I have never cut anyone out of my life, nor have I been cut out myself. Part of this is luck, and part of it is being good at people.
Online, I have been less successful. Over the past year I made the decision to be more selective in who I interact with in online games. I have chosen to ask certain people to not interact with me, in an attempt to avoid drama. I did not succeed in that goal, though those people honored my request. I lost people I had considered friends over the course of this decision, and alienated others who might have become friends because of it. It seems that no matter what I do, I lose.
So, basically, fuck it.
For the coming new year, I'm establishing a new resolution to end this behavior, effective immediately. If I am in a game and my character has a reason to interact with another, I will not avoid that interaction. If, OOC, I am treated with friendliness and respect, I will respond in kind. I will keep things that others may tell me about the people I interact with in mind and respect their own decisions, but I will not allow them to dictate what I do or who I talk to.
So now I have some apologies to make. I'll start with the public one and go on from there: For those I have hurt, I'm sorry. I've been a dick.
I roleplay a lot, online and off, and inevitably there is drama. Offline, when faced with drama, I attempt to resolve things by being calm, logical and empathetic, and the occasional impassioned disagreement aside, I have never lost a friend to misunderstanding. I have never cut anyone out of my life, nor have I been cut out myself. Part of this is luck, and part of it is being good at people.
Online, I have been less successful. Over the past year I made the decision to be more selective in who I interact with in online games. I have chosen to ask certain people to not interact with me, in an attempt to avoid drama. I did not succeed in that goal, though those people honored my request. I lost people I had considered friends over the course of this decision, and alienated others who might have become friends because of it. It seems that no matter what I do, I lose.
So, basically, fuck it.
For the coming new year, I'm establishing a new resolution to end this behavior, effective immediately. If I am in a game and my character has a reason to interact with another, I will not avoid that interaction. If, OOC, I am treated with friendliness and respect, I will respond in kind. I will keep things that others may tell me about the people I interact with in mind and respect their own decisions, but I will not allow them to dictate what I do or who I talk to.
So now I have some apologies to make. I'll start with the public one and go on from there: For those I have hurt, I'm sorry. I've been a dick.
What is a blog update, how do I do it?
JUST WRITE IT, FOOL! Okay, here we go:
Back from a weekend in an odd Pennsylvanian mix of golf course, beach and forest to celebrate the birthdays of various Scotts. I DROVE THE WHOLE WAY, IT WAS AWESOME. I rented a zippy little Mazda 3 Hatch and was well pleased with it - those of you who know anything about cars may or may not mock me for it, but the extent of my expertise when it comes to cars is: 1) When I hit the gas, does it go? 2) When I hit the brake, does it stop? 3) When I turn the wheel, does it make a small circle or a big one? and 4) How much gas does it eat? The 3 Hatch scored well on all points, and was big enough for five people and our luggage to survive a couple of hours. The handling on that car was really peppy, enough so that I was not a nervous wreck driving in NYC. Not even Yankees traffic could defeat me, and we went right by the stadium at 5pm! Makes me miss having a car...
I also miss not coughing all the time, and my own bed. At least one of this is immediately achievable, but as long as I've gotten up the momentum to post in this thing, I might as well make it worthwhile.
A list of points of interest:
1) Still working at CCNY. It's nice. I have a fish.
2) Moving out of Inwood. No, I do not know when or where or with who. There are a lot of not-quite-great options on the table, but I'll figure something out.
3) I am bringing so many people with me to the 4th of July BBQ, it's going to be amazing.
4) I AM GOING TO NEW ORLEANS, GDI. Damn the cost, I am GOING.
5) Ha ha ha ha what is money?
6) My friends are awesome, all the many groups of them.
Nerd talk begins here, non-nerds may go enjoy their evenings.
There's a lot I could say about various tabletop and LARP games that are going on presently, but this post is getting long enough. So instead of talking about things I am doing, I will talk about something I am not doing.
I'm not rp-ing anywhere online anymore. It's easy when you're part of a big vibrant group that's always coming up with new nonsense in whatever games its members stick their fingers into, but I fell out of that group for one reason or another. That stings, I'm not going to lie, but there are enough big vibrant things going on in rl that I don't actually miss it as a hobby. There are one or two people that I do miss fiercely however, and characters that are still fluttering about in my head like so many moths, but I still associate the activity with that lost group. One day I may regain the interest and the interpersonal support, but it's not today. It was awesome while it lasted, and I am so happy to have made the friends that I did. Y'all are the best, and I enjoy reading up on what's going on in your lives, real or imaginary. ♥
Back from a weekend in an odd Pennsylvanian mix of golf course, beach and forest to celebrate the birthdays of various Scotts. I DROVE THE WHOLE WAY, IT WAS AWESOME. I rented a zippy little Mazda 3 Hatch and was well pleased with it - those of you who know anything about cars may or may not mock me for it, but the extent of my expertise when it comes to cars is: 1) When I hit the gas, does it go? 2) When I hit the brake, does it stop? 3) When I turn the wheel, does it make a small circle or a big one? and 4) How much gas does it eat? The 3 Hatch scored well on all points, and was big enough for five people and our luggage to survive a couple of hours. The handling on that car was really peppy, enough so that I was not a nervous wreck driving in NYC. Not even Yankees traffic could defeat me, and we went right by the stadium at 5pm! Makes me miss having a car...
I also miss not coughing all the time, and my own bed. At least one of this is immediately achievable, but as long as I've gotten up the momentum to post in this thing, I might as well make it worthwhile.
A list of points of interest:
1) Still working at CCNY. It's nice. I have a fish.
2) Moving out of Inwood. No, I do not know when or where or with who. There are a lot of not-quite-great options on the table, but I'll figure something out.
3) I am bringing so many people with me to the 4th of July BBQ, it's going to be amazing.
4) I AM GOING TO NEW ORLEANS, GDI. Damn the cost, I am GOING.
5) Ha ha ha ha what is money?
6) My friends are awesome, all the many groups of them.
Nerd talk begins here, non-nerds may go enjoy their evenings.
There's a lot I could say about various tabletop and LARP games that are going on presently, but this post is getting long enough. So instead of talking about things I am doing, I will talk about something I am not doing.
I'm not rp-ing anywhere online anymore. It's easy when you're part of a big vibrant group that's always coming up with new nonsense in whatever games its members stick their fingers into, but I fell out of that group for one reason or another. That stings, I'm not going to lie, but there are enough big vibrant things going on in rl that I don't actually miss it as a hobby. There are one or two people that I do miss fiercely however, and characters that are still fluttering about in my head like so many moths, but I still associate the activity with that lost group. One day I may regain the interest and the interpersonal support, but it's not today. It was awesome while it lasted, and I am so happy to have made the friends that I did. Y'all are the best, and I enjoy reading up on what's going on in your lives, real or imaginary. ♥
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Hi guys. I did some flist trimming! If you've been trimmed in error, or if you'd like to shake hands and go separate ways, let me know.
what the fail?
So i'm updating this from my phone because my computer is suddenly unable to load...just about anything useful. Chrome is dead, Gmail is unreachable in any browser, as is any site I have to log into, and even my chat client is a no-go. I suspect it may be AVG, and am uninstalling it and its pervasive linkscan stuff to see if that helps.
Anyone got a good, free antivirus to recommend?
ETA: Well, that wasn't it. I can still access everything normally on my phone... Is this some kind of virus? What the hell, even?
Anyone got a good, free antivirus to recommend?
ETA: Well, that wasn't it. I can still access everything normally on my phone... Is this some kind of virus? What the hell, even?
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AIM is being a complete butt. Pingable here, or on gchat as tsukechick. LE SIGH.
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Stolen from lowellboyslash
The Rules: Don't take too long to think about it. Fifteen fictional characters (television, films, plays, books) who've influenced you and that will always stick with you. List the first fifteen you can recall in no more than fifteen minutes.
1) Snow White (Disney)
2) Grumpy the Dwarf (Disney)
3) A book-reading parrot named Huey (Oh Say Can You Say, Suess)
4) Bilbo Baggins (The Hobbit, Tolkein)
5) Robin, the boy wonder (Batman, DC Comics)
6) Matilda (Roald Dahl)
7) Legolas Greenleaf (The Lord of the Rings, Tolkein)
8) Mrs. Frisby (Robert C. O'Brien)
9) Skywise (Elfquest by Wendy & Richard Pini)
10) Nightcrawler (X-Men, Marvel Comics, Excalibur run specifically)
11) Abigail Williams (The Crucible, Arthur Miller)
12) Bookwyrm (Krysolis)
13) Severus Snape (Harry Potter, JK Rowling)
14) Lynne Grosvenor (Finder, Carla Speed McNeil)
15) Tyrion Lannister (Song of Ice & Fire, GRR Martin)
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1) Snow White (Disney)
2) Grumpy the Dwarf (Disney)
3) A book-reading parrot named Huey (Oh Say Can You Say, Suess)
4) Bilbo Baggins (The Hobbit, Tolkein)
5) Robin, the boy wonder (Batman, DC Comics)
6) Matilda (Roald Dahl)
7) Legolas Greenleaf (The Lord of the Rings, Tolkein)
8) Mrs. Frisby (Robert C. O'Brien)
9) Skywise (Elfquest by Wendy & Richard Pini)
10) Nightcrawler (X-Men, Marvel Comics, Excalibur run specifically)
11) Abigail Williams (The Crucible, Arthur Miller)
12) Bookwyrm (Krysolis)
13) Severus Snape (Harry Potter, JK Rowling)
14) Lynne Grosvenor (Finder, Carla Speed McNeil)
15) Tyrion Lannister (Song of Ice & Fire, GRR Martin)
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My perfectly-legitimate Photoshop CS4 just told me that its license is expired.
My precious.
>:|
My precious.
>:|
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So I'm sitting here listening to Pandora at work and suddenly, out of nowhere, "Deception" by "The Cruxshadows" from the album "Music from the Succubus Club: A Soundtrack for Vampire the Masquerade" starts playing.
What has my life become?
What has my life become?