Help?!
So, my husband and I have been toghether almost 8 years, married for 2 next monday, dec 3. Our sex life has been crappy and steadily getting worse over the years. My husbands' sex drive has always been SUPER high, to the point that it gets annoying. Mine is nearly nonexistent. His ideal sex life would be having sex every other day, whereas i'd be okay with once or twice a month, if that. I just don't have a sex drive. I'm bipolar, and i'm on meds for that, we have a 19 month old daughter, and i'm 8 months pregnant with another baby girl. This has been a really difficult pregnancy from the beginning, and i've been tired, sick, hurting, and with the exception of the past week, I was on bedrest for 3 weeks with stitches in my cervix. He's always really selfiish about sex, and it's hurtful and annoying. When I had our daughter, during my postpartum, I was to wait at least 6 weeks for my episiotomy to heal, and for my lochia to stop. Well, we barely made it 4 weeks before he pressured me into sex. Here I was, just had a baby, had just had emergency gallbladder removal, and he wants sex. So we started having sex, and he shut up. This time around, the day after I was released from bedrest and cleared for light activity (which in no way meant that I felt like doing a damn thing,) he asks for sex. I get it that he gets no sexual attention from me, but to be honest, it kinda makes me sick at my stomach to think about it. Literally thinking about sex makes me want to throw up. Not to mention, it's uncomfortable, hurts, and i'm always really dry. I don't even care for foreplay, whereas he loves it. He at least wants oral, but the thought of giving him oral sex makes me want to throw up. Fat chance when i'm not even holding meals down these days. I can't even talk to him about it because I get angry and annoyed. Any help?