Hi, we're scared of speaking up due to avpd and you have anon asks off on your main so I hope you don't mind us responding to this post
https://www.tumblr.com/transoccuine/817516595091013632/would-anyone-happen-to-know-of-any-place-where-i?source=share .
As a fellow non-religious angel with religious trauma that was groomed into being an angel this does. sort of hit home for me?
I am usually on your side to preface, and I don't think you're wrong for your original stance; I would also tag it religion unless the coiner asked otherwise. Your first response wasn't very passive aggressive, just explaining the thought process, but by Doll's second ask Shimon got a bit more defensive, especially with
"and quite frankly if I'd been more biased with it I wouldn't have reblogged them at all because *we* have had traumatic religious experiences around angel numbers."
All things considering, it does come across like Doll described; that "Your triggers are the correct ones, not my own."
That's how the tone comes across, not what you said, but how it was said. I know that wasn't the intent, the tone just implied that, you know?
Especially when your 3rd response was just "K."
Doll's stance the entire time is "I chose to reclaim being an angel and make it my own, despite the fact it was initially forced onto me. Our boundaries should be respected."
Shimon mostly doubled down and focused on your own personal belief that angels are inherently religion-based, rather than understanding Doll is a person with boundaries and that even if you don't understand a trigger or boundary you should respect it, yeah?
Like. Very similar to your view that 'guys' is a gendered term despite the western popularization of using 'guys' in reference to multiple people. it's a boundary that a lot of people just..Don't get, because it's a fact of nature to them, just like how angels = religion is a fact of nature to you, you know? But it's still a boundary worth respecting. If someone argued with you about the historical nature of the term 'guys' instead of just saying 'oh okay! we won't use that for you!' or like. a similar more niche boundary im sure you have. im sure you'd get pretty upset.
I know your blog means a lot to you, and you guys have ocpd so messing with the tagging system may mess you up a bit. I understand. But if the coiner of a term has a boundary then you either follow it or don't reblog / delete the reblogs if your blog can't safely house those terms in a way that leaves both you and the coiner comfortable.
This could've been handled a *lot* better. Is what I mean. Doll and the others weren't in the wrong here, and I know you probably had your reasons for reacting the way you did, but. Yeah.
As for if you should try to contact Doll, "Please. Do not contact me further unless you intend to respect my boundaries."
Srry i keep switching between you/shimon my brain can't decide which one to use ack.