if you say you support aromantics but tell alloaros to censor themselves and their sexual experiences, then I hate to break it to you, but you don’t actually support aros as much as you think you do
No one is perfect, Petra Parker. Not even you, but we should always try to be better ❤️💙. I love transfem Spidey so much, but I think it's important that we capture the messy, imperfect person she would be to keep her as relatable as her canon counterpart.
People will say that trans women are dangerous and then you meet one and she’s just some girl named Luna who hasn’t had a hug in twenty years
actually no, we're not "dating". we're bound together for infinity. like the stars. so, fuck you, actually.
i do think that being aroace in such an amatonormative and allonormative society is the closest i'll ever be to living plato's allegory of the cave in real life. there's a whole beautiful world out here but every so often i'll encounter someone who thinks of romance as the end all be all and that life would be boring without romance or sex and that sex comes with romance because it's somehow a natural progression of things because romance and sex are basically the same thing and that sex without romance is predatory because of this and that nobody could be happy single ever because arent you supposed to base your whole life around one person? and i'm like ohhhhhh you're still in the cave. you're still looking at the shadows on the wall. i see now
im really enjoying the Petra Parker trend and i would like to see more superheroes with a gallery of villains who are evil as shit but also (mostly) very respectful about them being queer i think that's hilarious
one of the things that differentiates successful and unsuccessful supervillains is how well you understand the balance of power. you have to get a back-and-forth going with your local hero where you let them win sometimes and sometimes you win, because the local superheroes tend to be less powerful than the big-name ones who work on a national scale and you probably could beat those guys if you had to but you would wreck a lot of the city in the process and you don't want your city wrecked because you live there. your evil lair is a 6th floor apartment downtown because the housing market is terrible.
you gotta remain mostly beneath being worth the time of the big guys, and cultivate an arch-nemesishood with a local hero or two. you don't want to cause problems that they can't handle, because you know and like your local hero and you don't want the government to call Reality-Man or some shit you have no idea how to fight. plus, it keeps your local hero in a job, and what's good for the economy is good for you
this means being supportive. being an arch-nemesis doesn't end on the street. show interest in her hobbies. possess someone so you can go to her piano recital. be emotional support for her if she needs it
when she starts crying in the middle of the fight and stops fighting you, it would be easy to sneak attack her, but it would also be rather rude. you have to ask her what's wrong, and when she tells you she's transfem but no one in her life is supportive of trans people so you're the first person she's telling, you should offer her comfort. give her a hug. she won't mind that you're a freaky half-human half-boar mutant. next time you kidnap her, maybe you can enact your scheme vaguely in the location of an hrt clinic or a trans support group
the-girl-who-lives-in-delusion13 asked:
Hii
If you don’t mind answering, how did you realize you were loveless? Because I’ve started to consider the high possibility that I might be loveless as well as aroace but I’m not really sure..
infiniteorangethethird answered:
I don’t mind at all! I think to me a big giveaway was looking at the way other people talked about their friends and just… not relating to them at all. I never understood how people could maintain friendships so easily, bc to me, a lot of the things needed for a good friendship - reaching out when I haven’t heard from them in a while, asking about their day/week, going out of my way to spend time with them if the opportunity doesn’t naturally present itself, etc. - I only do because I know they’re a part of building a relationship, not because I have a deep emotional desire to do them. It took me a while to realize that friendships come easier to others because they do have this emotional want to bond with other people, and everything they do is a natural conclusion of that.
What made it even harder for me to figure it out is that I do still want friends. I enjoy talking to people, I enjoy spending time with people, I enjoy sharing my hobbies with people. But when I look at how others discuss friendships it seems as if to them, these “surface level” things are a secondary concern, their primary goal is to bond with the person. I do friendships because of the practical benefits - others seem to do friendships for the emotional fulfillment.
I identify with the loveless label because it helps put a word to this feeling of being different. I’m not “weird” or “broken” or “something that needs to be fixed”, I’m someone who has different emotions than most of the people around them. It has helped me better understand myself and what I want out of relationships, instead of forcing myself to fit the expectations of what relationships and the emotions involved in relationships are supposed to look like.
I think at the end of the day that’s the big question to ask. Is this label helpful? Do I feel it helps me understand myself and the way I relate to people around me better? Does it help me better figure out what I want and what I need? Even if you can’t relate exactly to my personal experiences, if your answer is yes to any of those, you’re more than welcome to use the label for yourself.
Hope this helps! I’m glad you asked - I know the loveless identity is not a very well-discussed one, so I’m always happy to share my experiences in hopes of helping people understand the identity and maybe even themselves better. I’m wishing you the best of luck on your journey of self-discovery, no matter where you’ll find yourself in the end!
(Sidenote: I primarily talk about friendships bc that was the Thing that really made me realize I was loveless, but for me at least it also applies to romantic, familial etc. relationships as well.)
[ID:
First image: a drawing of the lower torso and upper legs of a person, with a circle containing the maverique flag obscuring the genital/crotch area. Text reads: “I don’t have “female reproductive organs.” I have a uterus and a vulva.”
Second image: a drawing of a person speaking. Text reads: “I don’t have a “male voice.” I have a deeper voice.”
Third image: a drawing of the hormone estrogen/estradiol. Text reads: “I don’t have “female hormones.” I have oestrogen. (And testosterone.)”
Fourth image: a drawing of a person’s chest with top surgery/mastectomy scars. Text reads: “I don’t want a “male chest.” I want a flat chest.”
Fifth image: Text reads: “My body doesn’t have a different gender than me. My body is as nonbinary as I am.”
End ID.]
Hey, just in case nobody's ever told you, you can just live with your friends. I don't mean as a temporary roommate situation until you get a better job or a romantic partner; you can do it forever if you want to. Like, I know my view is a little scewed here because I'm aroace, but you can't convince me that most people's lives wouldn't be vastly improved by living with a tight-knit group of people that all love and care about and support each other. You don't have to live alone! You don't have to live alone with your partner either! If the only thing stopping you is societal convention, then fuck it!! Break free of your chains!!! Do whatever you want forever!!!!
how it feels to interpret two characters’ relationship within a strictly platonic lens when every other fan of the media has nigh universally decided that a romantic interpretation is the only possible explanation for some reason
