In general relativity, gravity is seen as the result of spacetime curvature. This gives a automatically encodes the equivalence principle, explaining why all objects fall at the same rate and removes the coincidence that inertial and passive gravitational mass are the same.
But I think there is another coincidence involving mass which isn't explained by this:
The motion of a particle in curved spacetime and subject to a force field (e.g. a charge in EM) is given by:
$$ m_{I} \frac{Du_μ}{d\tau}=qF_{μν}u^ν .$$
We see a mass term appear as a "resistance to being deflected off a geodesic trajectory".
While in the Einstein field equations, the stress energy tensor couples to the 4-momentum of the particles:
$$G_{\mu\nu} = kT_{\mu\nu} $$
Where: $$T_{\mu\nu} = T^{EM Field}_{\mu\nu} + m_{A} u_\mu u_\nu.$$
So we see a mass term as causing curvature of spacetime.
The equivalence principle explains why inertial and passive gravitational mass, but I see no reason why we would expect ${m_I = m_A}$.
Why is this the case? What happens in a metric theory of gravity in which these two do not coincide?
Is it logically possible for an object to fall like ordinary matter (mass-independent geodesic motion) while curving spacetime more or less than its inertial mass would suggest - where inertial mass is measured by interactions with other forces?
Attempted solution:
I assume it would violate local 4-momentum conservation on some level.
If you have two like-charged particles initially at rest in some IRF, with the same active mass but different inertial masses, you could put them at a distance so that their EM force of one particle matches the acceleration it feels inwards. But since the other particle has a different charge to inertial mass ratio, it will start accelerating, so the system's total momentum has changed.
I am struggling to make this rigorous. I would also expect violation of momentum conservation be a consequence of broken translation symmetry, but I can't see how having two distinct types of mass does this!
I have found similar questions on this site, but they look to be focused on the equivalence principle - which I think only explains equality of passive and inertial mass (not active mass).
Is there a fundamental reason why gravitational mass is the same as inertial mass?