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hello.
i joined this community to ask a serious question that hopefully i could get some insight on:

my boyfriend and i found out we were expecting in november and are due in july. we planned on keeping the baby and making the best out of the situation, but the realization has set in that i'm only 20 years old and he's in his mid-twenties, and neither of us are in any way financially or mentally ready to be the parents that our baby deserves (i'm still in college and he's a musician). i mean, if we worked really hard (to the point of defeat; which could lead to unhappiness and regret) we could raise our baby with everything she deserves. but in the last couple of days we've considered the option of adoption..
i'm just so on the fence about everything, and i definitely don't want my pregnant hormones to decide the end result.
so i guess what i'm wondering is if any of you had some good advice, or experience, or anything that would open my eyes to either option (keeping the baby or letting a deserving family raise her). i'm not asking for you to choose for me, just any wise words that would help.

and feel free to ask any questions to better understand the situation.

oh and we do have a strong support system of friends and family, but i don't know if i want/should have to depend on others as much as we would have to; and we're also worried of what they will think if we DO decide to choose adoption...

so yeah, there it is.
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Hello!

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Maternity Leave

This is a legal question, so anyone with experience in this area is more than welcome to answer. I am not eligble for FMLA maternity leave since will not have worked for my company for 12 months prior to taking leave (and the company is far too small to qualify anyway). When I told the VP that I was pregnant, she congratulated me, then said, "I'm sorry to say that I don't know what your maternity leave will be..." I said that can be discussed later (since it was still early and the chance for miscarriage at that point is high, etc. I also thought I was legally covered for 12 weeks, but now I see that I am not. I live in Texas, which allows employers to fire employees for (literally) no reason at all nomatter how long they've been there. Does anyone know if there are any federal minimum requirements that would apply to me? I really don't want to take only a few weeks off after my baby is born, but we can't afford for me to be a stay-at-home Mom (which would be ideal).

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First Post!

Hi everyone! This is my first post in this community, courtesy of technocowboy. Although some would not yet consider me a mom due to the fact that the baby's still in the belly, I figured that's good enough. Oh, and I'll take any useful advice and positive comments/stories (I'm sick of hearing about the chances of miscarriage) that you're willing to give. Thanks!
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Special Needs Kids

When I was 20, I had a summer job at a camp for mentally and physically challenged adults and kids. One week, there was an extraordinary camper by the name of Vicki. I can't put my finger on why she was so extraordinary when all of our campers were, but Vicki left an impression with me. Her mother volunteered at the camp that week. When we had some downtime (not that there was much of it!), Kathy was part of the small group of counselors and we were talking. Of this group, I was the only first-timer. I turned to her and asked her what it was like having a special needs child. She smiled and said, "When I get home, I'll send you a copy of something I have to explain it all." A couple of weeks later, I got the following letter:( To Jeremy:Collapse )

No, there's no reason that I'm posting this, except that I found this folded piece of paper when we were unpacking. I was happy to see it and I just thought I'd share.

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Hello!

hi! i am already a member of this community under my old journal name but i deleted that journal and made this new one so i guess ill re-introduce myself =)

i used to be x0sweetkissesx0. im almost 21, mommy of 2 (a 2 1/2 year old boy and a 1 year old girl), wife to my wonderful hubby going on 3 years. thats about it. if you want to know any more, just ask.