Oh jesus, I thought this person was exaggerating until I dared try this out of morbid curiosity. I hate the state of society 🤮
"How do I draw transfem boobs correctly!"
How is this a serious question that isn't dripping with transmisogyny?
They're boobs. You draw them like boobs. There is literally nothing about transfem boobs that makes them different from the boobs of people who were coercively assigned female at birth.
This is transfeminism!
Putting dividers in bus benches can make waiting for a bus physically painful for larger people. Removing places to sit by adding spikes to them makes public spaces less accessible for everyone.
Yet despite all that, the primary focus of these things is animus towards unhoused people.
This post is about transmisogyny.
when the trans woman expresses a desire to have large breasts, the transmisogynist will respond in one of two ways.
the overt transmisogynist will likely demean her as some sick pervert, basing her idea of femininity off of the body types preferred by pornography/the patriarchy/what have you. you'll see this in terfs, in open fascists, i.e. bioessentialist circles. the argument that such trans women are, in fact, perverted men, reveals this as a permutation of the 'deceptive transsexual' stereotype. ¹
in contrast, the more subtle transmisogynist will adhere to the other of the two stereotypes. A trans woman who expresses a desire for large breasts in such circles will be instead met with patronizing words by the group - reprimands to the tune of, "Oh, honey, you don't want that! Just think of the back pain!" are perhaps the most common form of this. This form of transmisogyny often stems from those coercively assigned female at birth leveraging that social role as proof of possessing a proximity to femininity that the trans woman could not possibly have. She is considered new to misogyny - if they admit she faces it at all. Such transmisogyny appears most often in supposedly 'queer' social spaces - those where the only conception of 'top surgery' is that of the transmasculine.
can we please acknowledge that tma/tme is a meaningful distinction? a justice of the US supreme court is openly saying that it's legal to discriminate against trans women because the same laws do not target trans men. the transmisogyny is what makes it permissible. your transphobia is fine as long as it has carveouts for men.
Fascinating parallel here. This incapacity of the legal framework to protect groups who are at the intersection of two protected groups (trans women in this case, black women in the original) even while protecting both groups individually is Crenshaw's original reason for coining the word "intersectionality", which has since gone through the wringer.
Miku and Teto are both trans but Teto is undeniably more transmisogyny-affected.
Like, not in a head canon "in my personal backstories for them way" but in a straightforwardly True way. Miku is 01, Teto is 0401, she is the 'joke' to Miku's 'real' thing, despite both of them being basically the exact same. That is vocal synthesizer banks in the shape of girls, made of binary code.
I also think there is a tendency among artists to draw Teto in more 'boyish' clothes to contrast the high femme of Miku's outfits. Like, the most high profile example being Mesmerizer of course. Do not get me wrong, I totally love the outfits Channel designed for Miku and Teto, they are incredibly iconic for a reason.
But it's like people saw that and said "ok so Miku is the 'Girl' and Teto is the 'Boy', bet."
i <3 holding my tongue when people talk about the Olympics to me. oh wow they’re doing sports! at the no trannies invitational! awesome! yes my left eye has always twitched like that
It honestly bothers me immensely that pretty much everybody just gives the Olympics a transmisogyny pass. Even people who otherwise are entirely supportive of transfems, even people who correctly avoid other things that are transmisogynistic like Harry Potter, even lots of transfems!
For those who may be upset by my pointing out that the olympics specifically targets transfems with it's discriminatory policies: transmasc people have been allowed to participate in the men's category without restrictions since 2015. While transfems had only been allowed to participate in the women's categor if they met extremely restrictive requirements, and then this year were totally barred from competing.
This is represented by the overwhelming number of transmasc atheletes that have and are competing in the olympics compared with the near non-existent number of transfems that have competed in the past.
Further info about transfems being barred from the 2026 and 2028 Olympics:
https://www.sfchronicle.com/sports/article/transgender-athletes-limbo-olympic-sports-grapple-20783469.php
(I don't know why the link won't work with that, just copy-paste it in your browser ffs)
:/
Sam reich having a trans women are pedos moment was not on my bingo for this year
it was my entire bingo card, seriously. this is dropout, and sam, doing what it always has done
...please look up the slang word "nonse" (with an 's'), and consider whether "nonses" might make a bit more sense than "nonces" in the context of a list whose other items are "hardened gamblers", "addicts", and "sociopaths".
y'know, "hardened gamblers, addicts, sociopaths, fools" at a race, rather than "hardened gamblers, addicts, sociopaths, pedophiles".
let's put our critical thinking hats on and think really hard about what he meant when he brought up being called that by someone wearing makeup
According to a friend he might have said "nancies". Which would be better, but would also be the literal transmisogynistic slur that nonce comes from. So not great actually!
hi, i was the one who sourced the video in question, it's the teensyville video off no rolls barred; this was a callback bit from earlier in the video, where they had been specifically speaking about lewis carroll, using the term 'nonce'. there is no misunderstanding here; sam reich did, in fact, say that it is quite ironic for a man in heavy makeup to jest about nonces. it is unbelievable for so many people to try to bend over backwards to make excuses for such blatant transmisogyny
Jesus fuck damn
Hello transgender woman. You deserve partners who are *excited* to introduce you to their friends
When people talk about the disposability of transfeminine people it isn't just about the sharpest examples where someone is pointedly ostracised. Straight trans women know that lots of men don't want to admit they're with a trans woman, trans lesbians far more rarely express the same with cis partners. Many cis lesbians will date trans women and a subset of them are absolutely ride or die but the ones who aren't can be just as bad as cis men about this. Generally though, it's a subtler thing. I know trans women who have been parts of their respective friend groups of mostly cis people for years and years and been passed by as people just happen to form closer friendships with each other, with other transmisogyny exempt people, cis lesbians happy to date trans men but not trans women, events that include everyone but the transfems, spaces that exclude trans women or make us unsafe used for community spaces unthinkingly, and bit by bit the only trans woman in the friend group lags behind.
The "uninterrogated ick" is what I often think of this stuff as. Society teaches a level of disgust to everyone about certain groups of people in some different and some overlapping ways. For example people of colour, especially black people, experience forms of racism associated with a presumed uncleanliness. Homeless people, sex workers, queer people, "criminals", all these groups are stigmatised as unclean by the mainstream implicit biases spread unconsciously (and sometimes very consciously) in culture.
Trans women who have experienced harassment and ostracism campaigns experience a more intense form of the "uninterrogated ick". It is literally exactly all the same forces that ostracise trans women from society in general but dialled up to the nth degree. The Bad Tranny is unemployable, finds it harder to get housing, is fun to fuck but too risky to introduce to friends, and should be excluded any time someone feels uncomfortable. This is why trans women feel unsafe in spaces that spread callout posts, for the record, if anyone unaffected by transmisogyny needed that unpacking. The push and pull of this "ick" affects all transfeminine people, and the division between the good tranny and bad tranny is illusory - we can see this in how many stated reasons for ostracisms boil down to "she icked someone out and then was declared bad and ever since then when she shows up somewhere the ick is worse which is a crime against the people there".
Transgender woman: you deserve partners who are excited to introduce you to their friends. You deserve friends who are excited to introduce you to their friends. You deserve organising comrades, colleagues, community members who will check in on you, recognise your vulnerability and give you the space to just be. You deserve people in your life who proactively include you, not people who frown a little and shake their head when you're pushed out and certainly not people who resist helping you build up community and support around you. You deserve everything, do not accept less.
everyone who thinks "social pressure to transition" is real has naturalised the social pressure Not to transition to such a point that they have become incapable of understanding that it's real and exists. "cis guy who likes wearing a skirt has been pressured into becoming trans :(" how about "trans girl who is in the middle of cracking her egg is terrified of being trans and you telling her that it's Okay to be a cis man in a skirt is unhelpful at best and open transmisogyny at worst". you do not see that 99.99% of the social pressure is in the direction of Staying Cis because it is only that 0.01% that feels unnatural to you
been said before but so much egg discourse leaves out the part where everyone is walking around having extra layers of shell added to their egg every day. and the outer layer of shell is a thick layer of "transitioning isn't even a possibility for me". has that person experienced harm by having their egg cracked or have they only just realised that transition is for them, too
for every "it's okay to just try hrt and see" and "you're allowed to experiment with your gender" there are a million trials by fire that a trans person has to be brave enough to walk through before they can even think about the concept. like do you really think the average cis guy sees a post about E and immediately walks into the local Gender Place and gets it for fun? you think a cis girl is able to just access T on a whim? talk to one trans person.
There is an entire societal apparatus that defines assigned sex at birth as deterministic and immutable. Enforced in clothing, family roles, education, Healthcare, government documents, bullying, and media. There are a million things telling you not to transition, that you should never consider it an option, that being cis is the default and natural state of things.
But somehow a trans woman implying an ostensibly cis man might not actually be such is equally as violent as all of those things put together?
I dunno sounds like transmisogyny to me.
I've cracked a few eggs in my time and let me tell you something, a lot of other queers sure do seem to like the idea of an already out transfem rather than one one who still in their shell who feels they need permission from literally anyone that they might be a trans girl.
More than once after cracking someone's egg, whether in conversation or just existing around them as a noticeable transfem, I've had an angry "friend" of theirs come to me telling me I had done something horrible and that it was "too soon" that their friend wasn't ready for it. Of course they always hated it more when the newly cracked girl would seek me out again to thank me for helping them when it seems none of their "friends" seemed willing to.
And more than once that "egg prime directive" shit turned out to just be that they didn't want a transfem in their life to ever actually transition.
An actual secret society of trans women could get together and shove cis men into a forcefem program, running it for years, and it still wouldn't come close to the violence and brutality of the societal system that demands people never transition and that only acceptable thing for AMAB people to be is cis men.
