The Taoist belief, as far as I can interpret it, is that we* are all here for a reason. This naturally leads to a belief in fate and destiny - something I have great faith in.
What I am interested in is breaking this down. The greatest destiny, obviously, in any of our existences as humans is being born and dying. Between these two occurances we have the power, the ability and arguably the fate, to affect the lives and the existences of others. And so it follows that the next greatest destiny is procration (assuming that we are not out to kill people for whatever reason). I would then assume that sex must be a necessary marker in our destiny, as it is the most natural way to procreate, though admittedly not the only way. To retreat in this vein even more, it follows that it is necessary for us to meet the person with whom we are to have sex and create a new life.
My first question is this: What if we meet someone, have sex, and DON'T make a baby. Is this still fate? Is it still our destiny? How much of our lives are destiny and how much is simply occurance. I have heard it said many times that 'nothing happens by accident', and that there is a reason for everything. What is it about our experiences that make some life-altering and some common? Is it a matter of interpretation? A matter of perception?
I suppose what a common occurance for me may be life-altering for another person with whom the experience occurred. Take, for instance, a car accident. My bumper may be dented whereas the person who's car slid into mine when I wasn't even in it could be crippled for life. I have not even the slightest guilt...I was nowhere near the accident though I need a touchup on my paint job. And then there is the lucky shop owner who makes profit for painting my bumper. It all balances, it is all connected, right down to the taxes paid to the government on the paint job which go toward the medical bill of the person who was crippled in the accident.
Sometimes I think the life-altering experiences are long in the discovery that they are such. When I trace back the decisions I have made in my life which lead me to meeting the person who gave me the gift of my children I realize only now how they changed my life. Back then it was simply, in my case, a matter of applying for a job. The appearance of my first child didn't come for another seven years.
So my second question would be this: How much of our destiny has to do with our choices in life? All of it? None of it? The very concept of destiny is that it is inescapable. Do we really have the choice to make the choices we make? Or are they predestined also?
Another very stong belief I have is that when we are going to die, we are going to die. So even if I make the choice not to get on the bus that is going to explode tomorrow, I will fall down the stairs at home and break my neck. It was bound to happen. Do all things happen with this type of inescapability? Or is it just the 'big' things in life? Which leads back to my first question, how much is fate?
*'we' includes people, animals, trees, blades of grass, grains of sand, etc etc.
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