cleverly disguised as a responsible adult

My friend's husband seems vaguely normal for a caveman type of husband most days.

Then he goes had does weird destructive stuff. She called her SIL to come look at the dryer because it was not working. I wandered in to see if I could help because after 15 years of working on jets, I'm kinda handy.

He had removed part of the chimney for the gas furnace, which sits in the basement near the dryer. We found this out because the air in the basement was too thick to breathe.

We opened a window and used tape(?) to make a new part. Yes, I know how bogus that is. SIL, grandson and I looked everywhere for the missing part and could not find it.

Concluded this is half of why my GF is sick. Her basement is full of carbon monoxide.

Her DH had also ripped off most of the tape they asked me to install on the vents the previous year to force heat upstairs. The basement was stifling hot.

We could not stay in there because the air was so bad.

SIL said he was going to scrounge free parts from a friend in the business.

Came back next day with he box of dryer parts, none of which we actually needed.

What was wrong with the dryer was, damn husband had taken pliers and broken off one of the bolts the power cord attaches to and then plugged her back in and touched the 2 together. Not only were there burned wires, he had called me and told me he had tried to fix the dryer and it shocked him so bad he nearly had a heart attack.


SIL replaced a long section of fried wire and re welded the bolt to attach the cord to.

I asked SIL if we could make the VA lock him up for being crazy after he filled the basement with gas and shocked himself with the 220V and he said, no, its all hearsay, no witnesses.

He's going to kill one of them. We still haven't found the piece of the furnace chimney. This time of month, they don't have money for a new one.

Now he's decided he wants to go to Disney. His gout is so bad some days he can barely walk even with a cane. He sits on the couch with a bottle to pee in and makes her wait on him like a maid.

I went to Disney when I was 20 and it wore me out. And he wants to go there.

Is there any way to make him less dangerous? Don't say pills because he doesn't take the pills he has.

And last week he drove the underage grandson past a place where 3 whores hang out and he knew all there names. I don't have anything against whoring in theory, but grandson ratted him out to SIL, who ratted him out to daughter, me and GF. In this country, whores don't get health checks and they tend to spread disease.

GF said he's just had his last. You can imagine how that went over. And that was after he uncoupled the furnace chimney.

SIL and I decided since the furnace chimney gets hot, he decided he could get more heat in the basement that way. Big dummy.

If he lived alone, we'd let him eventually kill himself. But aside from being married to a pretty nice lady, other people go in the house a lot. She gets a lot of visitors because she's nice.

I'm going to be kind and say he's old and having periods of dementia. But he's dangerous and going to drive into a farmer's market and kill 50 shoppers.

Can he be stopped?