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maiaWe all have strong feelings about the stories we love. If we didn't, we wouldn't be in fandom.
If your feelings about a story are very deep and powerful, then someone else saying something that you strongly disagree with can feel like an unbearable assault on your very soul.
That feeling is real.
But that feeling is not necessarily providing you with accurate information about the external world.
If you feel hurt, you feel hurt.
But that you feel hurt - even deeply, profoundly hurt - does not necessarily mean that someone else has done something wrong.
If your feelings about a story are very deep and powerful, then someone else saying something that you strongly disagree with can feel like an unbearable assault on your very soul.
That feeling is real.
But that feeling is not necessarily providing you with accurate information about the external world.
If you feel hurt, you feel hurt.
But that you feel hurt - even deeply, profoundly hurt - does not necessarily mean that someone else has done something wrong.
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Date: Thursday, September 23rd, 2010 06:59 pm (UTC)Thanks for a lovely post.
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Date: Thursday, September 23rd, 2010 07:54 pm (UTC)You're the best!
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Date: Thursday, September 23rd, 2010 09:05 pm (UTC)But that you feel hurt - even deeply, profoundly hurt - does not necessarily mean that someone else has done something wrong.
Well said!
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Date: Thursday, September 23rd, 2010 11:17 pm (UTC)This is very insightful indeed.
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