so anyways...my life has been thrown into a blender this past month..well..I guess all of July. I dunno who even reads this anymore..but whatever I'll put it out there lol. I've gone through and told this story so many times already, so this'll probably be the semi condensed version..blah.
I'm getting a divorce. now before you say 'awww..omg I'm sorry!' I'm gonna tell you that I'm happy and okay..and it was basically mutual. basically, I've been manipulated and controlled, and talked down to, and blah blah blah..all of that awesome crap, for the last 5 years and some months. I've been lied to for OVER 5 years..by an actor, thief, husband. I left only two months into the marriage, but came back...then about a year ago...he left...but begged him to come back...this time...I'm not doing it any more. it's over..and I'm happy about it. I think me gaining independence from him with my job and my friends, scared the crap out of him because he was losing his control over me
how it happened/all went down...well..I wrote an email to my mom saying I don't want this anymore..he snooped my computer...and used that as an excuse to leave...HOWEVER, looking back, I realize that days before I even wrote the email, he was gathering up his stuff [which, at the time, I wrote off as getting cleaned up for my grandparents moving here.] SO..that leads me to believe he was planning on just up and leaving me high and dry before he even knew I was done. Thursday July 30th, I woke up to go to work [he was at work] and I noticed allll of his stuff was packed up in boxes..even current clothes that he wears and cds bought in the last few weeks..that night, I decided I wasn't going to come home, and stayed with a friend. I dropped off the car and texting him saying "I'm not coming home tonight, I dropped the car off at Kroger so you can get to work in the morning" that's it. he used that as an opportunity to take it as I was being horrible and disrespectful to him..which is funny because all I said was I'm not coming home. I could have been going to my sister's, I could have just been helping someone..ya know? I didn't say EFF YOU I'M LEAVING YOU BLAH BLAH. so whatever.
he was gone the next day..thankfully nothing of mine was missing [besides all of the stuff he's sold over the years without telling me....like about half of my wardrobe, that, more specifically, was all of the clothes that I didn't wear but wanted to keep for sentimental reasons or to give to my future kids...along with other stuff I've been looking for lately.] and no parts of the house were trashed. his computer is wiped out and windows has been reinstalled [which is interesting as well, as I've always thought he could hardly copy paste anything] so who knows what he was hiding on there. he took the car we just bought [it's fully in his name]
so as of Aug 1, 2009..I'm single [the divorce will come as soon as I can afford it, or if he files first] I wish it could be done before my birthday because my drivers license expires that day, and I'd like to be able to get my new license as Melissa Kott. I'm staying in bloomington in the house. it's not like it's much different living alone, since I would sit home alone for hours while he worked..then we'd be on the computers for like an hour, and he'd go to sleep..so it's not really diff. lol I'm a supervisor at work, I'm getting a black PT Cruiser with cd and a sunroof [OMG SO EXCITED lol] on saturday after work...then I'm headed to see Papa Roach which is gonna rock. I've got friends here, a pretty good job, a car, a house, now my grandparents live across the street..my life is just going to continue how it was going, but I'm going to be happy all the time! yay. lol I have someone that cares about me and I care back for them....who I'm not going to rush anything with...rushing is something I've learned to never do again! lol everything is great :]
so yes. that's what's going on with me! haha. and yes...that was the semi condensed version :D
I'm getting a divorce. now before you say 'awww..omg I'm sorry!' I'm gonna tell you that I'm happy and okay..and it was basically mutual. basically, I've been manipulated and controlled, and talked down to, and blah blah blah..all of that awesome crap, for the last 5 years and some months. I've been lied to for OVER 5 years..by an actor, thief, husband. I left only two months into the marriage, but came back...then about a year ago...he left...but begged him to come back...this time...I'm not doing it any more. it's over..and I'm happy about it. I think me gaining independence from him with my job and my friends, scared the crap out of him because he was losing his control over me
how it happened/all went down...well..I wrote an email to my mom saying I don't want this anymore..he snooped my computer...and used that as an excuse to leave...HOWEVER, looking back, I realize that days before I even wrote the email, he was gathering up his stuff [which, at the time, I wrote off as getting cleaned up for my grandparents moving here.] SO..that leads me to believe he was planning on just up and leaving me high and dry before he even knew I was done. Thursday July 30th, I woke up to go to work [he was at work] and I noticed allll of his stuff was packed up in boxes..even current clothes that he wears and cds bought in the last few weeks..that night, I decided I wasn't going to come home, and stayed with a friend. I dropped off the car and texting him saying "I'm not coming home tonight, I dropped the car off at Kroger so you can get to work in the morning" that's it. he used that as an opportunity to take it as I was being horrible and disrespectful to him..which is funny because all I said was I'm not coming home. I could have been going to my sister's, I could have just been helping someone..ya know? I didn't say EFF YOU I'M LEAVING YOU BLAH BLAH. so whatever.
he was gone the next day..thankfully nothing of mine was missing [besides all of the stuff he's sold over the years without telling me....like about half of my wardrobe, that, more specifically, was all of the clothes that I didn't wear but wanted to keep for sentimental reasons or to give to my future kids...along with other stuff I've been looking for lately.] and no parts of the house were trashed. his computer is wiped out and windows has been reinstalled [which is interesting as well, as I've always thought he could hardly copy paste anything] so who knows what he was hiding on there. he took the car we just bought [it's fully in his name]
so as of Aug 1, 2009..I'm single [the divorce will come as soon as I can afford it, or if he files first] I wish it could be done before my birthday because my drivers license expires that day, and I'd like to be able to get my new license as Melissa Kott. I'm staying in bloomington in the house. it's not like it's much different living alone, since I would sit home alone for hours while he worked..then we'd be on the computers for like an hour, and he'd go to sleep..so it's not really diff. lol I'm a supervisor at work, I'm getting a black PT Cruiser with cd and a sunroof [OMG SO EXCITED lol] on saturday after work...then I'm headed to see Papa Roach which is gonna rock. I've got friends here, a pretty good job, a car, a house, now my grandparents live across the street..my life is just going to continue how it was going, but I'm going to be happy all the time! yay. lol I have someone that cares about me and I care back for them....who I'm not going to rush anything with...rushing is something I've learned to never do again! lol everything is great :]
so yes. that's what's going on with me! haha. and yes...that was the semi condensed version :D