I'm glad to have found this community. I'm very interested in the Law of Attraction, and definitely think there's something to it, but a lot of the information I've found on it is kind of flaky. I also think that some people take it too far – for example, if I'm remembering correctly, the book version of The Secret claims that if you look at a fat person it will make you fat unless you immediately get rid of the image of the fat person in your mind, and I read an article online that claimed that you cannot have a happy life if you read books that have violence in them because it will lower your vibration.
I've been working with the concepts, off and on, for a couple of years, with mixed results. I think one of my main problems is that I was raised to be wary of really good things happening. My mother's belief was that if something good happens to you, it depletes your supply of the good karma that allowed you to get that good thing, and so it leaves you open for lots of bad things to happen to you. So now if I try to bring something good into my life, I always have thoughts underneath like "Do I really want to use my good luck on this, or should I save it for something else?" and "But what if this happens and then something bad happens to me because of it? Maybe I should just leave well enough alone." I know I need to quit thinking like that, but I'm not sure how to do it. And part of me still worries that she was right.
I want to change this community's username because I don't want it to actually be snarky, but I want to convey that it's a place where people can still be sarcastic and cynical while working with the LOA.
I don't know if anyone else has experience with PTSD, but mine has been triggered again lately and I want to soothe it a bit.
I'm focusing on the positive when I can and I'm always looking for gratitude and appreciation. But I know that a part of me is still stuck in the very vulnerable-feeling place, and that's showing even when I think better thoughts. For example, one of my big symptoms is hypervigilance. Even while I'm at work, I'm constantly looking around, feeling like something bad is about to happen. I can *think* "That's just a feeling caused by other experiences; what matters is to choose a more positive place right now," but it doesn't really change the symptoms.
I've been reading things I found online about this and, to be perfectly frank, many of them seemed to be written by people who'd never experienced this. The advice I found there tended to involve never thinking about the triggering event and forgiving myself for feeling afraid. I feel like my fears need to be reassured that I'm strong enough to endure and be happy under any circumstances, not forgiven as if it's wrong to feel a feeling.
Sorry for the long ramble. If anyone has any suggestions, I'd be interested and appreciative.
I've been doing a really good job applying the LOA principles to my life for the most part.
Some of the things I've been cultivating in my life are harmonious interactions with others, assertivenss, and being listened to. I was still finding myself having conflicts recently. Not major ones, but friction with my insurance company and other things that are more impersonal than the conflict we have with loved ones.
I was doing a really good job of holding my own and calmly saying, "I need you to listen to me" when I wasn't being heard. I felt really great that I could do that (and I do recommend it), but I still kept having these conflicts.
I couldn't figure it out. I was doing so well and spending a lot of time manifesting harmonious interactions.
And then it hit me. Even when I was just thinking about how well I'd been doing in those minor conflicts, I was giving a lot of attention to the idea of conflict.
Once I realized that, it was very easy to pivot. Driving home the other day, I thought of every time a situation could have ended in conflict but didn't. I thought of companies doing everything they can to make me happy. I remembered all the most cooperative moments I could think of.
I'll see how this new mindset works out. I really think I figured out why I was still having such conflict even though I was getting through it really well.
i am asking the universe for organization, health and energy. i visualize myself waking up every morning and feeling wonderful physically and mentally. i then prepare for my day by bathing and fixing a healthy breakfast. i see myself enjoying my life and feeling a calm enthusiasm as i become organized and consistent in my habits. my sleep will be restful and peaceful and our family will be blessed with happiness and prosperity and will be a glowing picture of health.
i really want to use the loa to my advantage because im meeting the same people and over and over again and i really want to attract some positive people into my life. how do i start? i understand the loa but need a little direction. ideas?
I'm curious about how long everybody's been using the LOA. What got you started?
I've been actively learning about it and using it for a couple of months now. I'd gone through a major crisis and was doing a lot of spiritual exploration afterwards. During that time, I had two very spirtually alert people that I respected tell me that I didn't know my power, that I was limiting my own potential. One of them specifically recommended The Secret dvd. I watched that and I felt like the principles were generally pretty great but the overall production was accidentally hilarious. Since then, I've been hungrily learning all the variants and trying to find a way to apply it that a) works, and b) still lets me feel like myself.
