A man’s complete inability to understand a woman as a person taken to its logical, horrifying extreme. Obsession is ultimately about a particular kind of male entitlement: the conviction that affection, kindness, or desire should be rewarded, and that rejection is an act of cruelty rather than a boundary to be respected. Bear never truly sees Nikki as an autonomous human being with thoughts, fears, and desires of her own. He only sees the version of her that exists in…