Phoenix Pulsing with Name

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My journal is now "friends only." If you want me to friend you, say something here and I will friend you! Introduce yourself! I may not even notice you friended me if you don't say something!

I am a pretty open and honest guy. I talk about just about everything and anything.

And then a few people I am acquainted with started talking to me about my journal. People who’ve been reading it for years. People who don't even have a journal!

I suddenly began to realize that anybody could be reading! *gasp* What if I made an entry about playing hooky from work and a co-worker read it? *gasp*

So say, "Melon," -- "Friend" -- and enter!

Be warned! With me, what you see is what you get! It is my journal so I can say whatever I want to say! With no apologies!

Namasté!
Ben
Les Misérables

Omigawd, Omigawd, Omigawd!

I love this show so much and have looked forward to as much excitement as trepidation for this movie. Have you see this show? I've seen it at least three times, two of them the official Broadway touring cast, I've seen the special anniversary edition and listened to the soundtrack hundreds of times. I am so excited I can hardly believe it. Omigawd, omigawd, omigawd, I can't wait! It looks like it just might work!

And at the very end of the video I suddenly and completely understand why Anne decided to reinterpret one of my favorite songs from the musical. I was nervous. Very.

But omigawd, omigawd, omigawd..!

Pround New Parents 2

Sarah Jane is at the Vet's and I am a Big Old Mess

So the itty bitty teeny tiny little woman is at the vets and I am a complete mess.

She started acting funny yesterday later afternoon/early evening. I wish I could explain more than that and I will try, but "funny" is the word. When you know someone, even an "animal," like I do Sarah Jane, you just know when something is off.

First she wasn't acting her enthusiastic self, all excitement and joy and love and happiness. Almost everyone who meets her comments that she is about the happiest dog they've ever met. Second she was walking with her head bowed, like she thought she was a bad girl or something. She didn't even want to hop up and have some raw chicken that I was starting to cook, and she loves her some chicken. When I picked her up later she didn't lick my face like she always does.

I mentioned it to Raymond and he saw it too and so I agreed to keep a close eye on her since she pretty much sticks to my side anyway.

Right after Raymond went to bed I picked her up and instead of her tucking her head under my chin or licking the top six layers of skin off my face like she usually does, she laid her head on my shoulder and whimpered. I don't know if I have ever heard her whimper before. I got Raymond up and we checked her over again, checked her feet and legs and pressed gently all over her to no effect. We walked her and she pottied, so she wasn't constipated.

I went over everything. She hasn't been in the basement so she couldn't have gotten to anything poison. She hasn't had anything like chocolate. I did give her a small pork chop bone, which she loves. There is a big disagreement over pork bones, if they are good or not... She adores then so. I worried that she might have swallowed a piece that was too big.

I called one of the three emergency animal hospitals and they suggested some kind of back or neck injury which is common with dachshunds and she is half dachshund. I kept her with me for a couple hours to just watch her and she barely moved. When I picked her up to take her to bed she cried and yipped. I was a f*cking mess.

Took her to bed and laid her between us. Then instead of doing what she always does, lay there maybe five minutes, lick me, and then crawl over Raymond and sleep on his side, she just lay there all night long. I woke up numerous times and turned on the light, afraid she wasn't breathing, but she was.

This morning she seemed a lot better.

But still... Off. She went under a chair surrounded by clothes and that denning instinct scared the shit out of me and I called a vet. They wondered too about her back.

So I took her in even though they had no appointments until this afternoon. The idea was that the doc could do a quick check and then they would keep her for observation. They might do x-rays which will be expensive but worth it.

I started to cry a little and asked the nurse -- why did I feel she was worth the cost of expensive x-rays when I had never felt that way about animals before. Why was she different. Why were all the animals I've had in my life, even my beloved Sheltie Ramses, just animals but she was sooooo different.

She explained that Sarah was probably my soul dog. I've read about that. Ususally only one of those a life time. I am starting to cry again and can't see teh secreen. Please offer doggie prayers or whatver you belive in. I, so oworried and trying not too.

They will call me this afternnon. The quick check did show they don't think there is anyythng wrong with her back. She has been thre for two or three hours and there is no word.

She hs got to be okay. She is the LIGHT of my life...
Non-Judgment Day is coming

Skyler Stone And Mike Smith, Two Straight Men, Kiss At Chick-Fil-A To Support Gay Marriage

This is fun, sexy, cool and more. Skyler Stone, thank you! And Mike Smith, may I be your second gay kiss please?

Watch this! And please please please help it go viral by watching it (even if for only seconds) at YouTube! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02B…

Skyler Stone And Mike Smith, Two Straight Men,
Kiss At Chick-Fil-A To Support Gay Marriage



If you're not feeling Chick-fil-A burn out by now, you're stronger than most folks.

Ever since the fast food chain's President and COO Dan Cathy confirmed that he is against gay marriage last month -- and records of the company's charitable arm's anti-gay donations were re-exposed -- a controversy has relentlessly raged pitting LGBT advocates and allies against those who support Chick-fil-A.

Everyone from the mayor of Boston to Sarah Palin to the Jim Henson Company, which voided a relationship with Chick-fil-A after Cathy's comments, has spoken out on the issue.

And just when we thought we'd seen everything, a new viral video has appeared on YouTube featuring two straight men who kiss -- to put it mildly -- at a Chick-fil-A in Hollywood to show their support for gay people.

In the video, entitled "Chicken With A Side Of Hate," the men, comedian and actor Skyler Stone and his friend, comedian Mike Smith, freshen up on what seems like a ridiculous amount of toothpaste, mouthwash and breath mints, ask for advice on male-on-male kissing from two gay men and then advance hand in hand over to the Chick-fil-A on Sunset and Highland in Hollywood.

To see what happens once they get there watch the video above.

Though some may argue that Stone and Smith missed the point of LGBT people's problem with Chick-fil-A -- that not only is Cathy against marriage equality but the company has also donated millions of dollars to anti-gay causes (the comedians make purchases from the restaurant) -- their hearts seems to be in the right place.

What do you think?
Hands - Men Holding Hands - Believe!

Male Homosexuality Study: Gay Men Have Evolutionary Benefit For Their Families, New Research Suggest

Male Homosexuality Study: Gay Men Have Evolutionary Benefit For Their Families, New Research Suggests
By: Natalie Wolchover
Published: 06/12/2012 12:59 PM EDT on Lifes Little Mysteries


While female sexuality appears to be more fluid, research suggests that male gayness is an inborn, unalterable, strongly genetically influenced trait. But considering that the trait discourages the type of sex that leads to procreation — that is, sex with women — and would therefore seem to thwart its own chances of being genetically passed on to the next generation, why are there gay men at all?

Put differently, why haven't gay man genes driven themselves extinct?

This longstanding question is finally being answered by new and ongoing research. For several years, studies led by Andrea Camperio Ciani at the University of Padova in Italy and others have found that mothers and maternal aunts of gay men tend to have significantly more offspring than the maternal relatives of straight men. The results show strong support for the "balancing selection hypothesis," which is fast becoming the accepted theory of the genetic basis of male homosexuality.

The theory holds that the same genetic factors that induce gayness in males also promote fecundity (high reproductive success) in those males' female maternal relatives. Through this trade-off, the maternal relatives' "gay man genes," though they aren't expressed as such, tend to get passed to future generations in spite of their tendency to make their male inheritors gay.

While no one knows which genes, exactly, these might be, at least one of them appears to be located on the X chromosome, according to genetic modeling by Camperio Ciani and his colleagues. Males inherit only one X chromosome — the one from their mother — and if it includes the gene that promotes gayness in males and fecundity in females, he is likely to be gay while his mom and her female relatives are likely to have lots of kids. If a daughter inherits that same X-linked gene, she herself may not be gay, but she can pass it on to her sons.

But how might the "gay man gene" make females more reproductively successful? A new study by Camperio Ciani and his team addresses the question for the first time. Previously, the Italian researchers suggested that the "gay man gene" might simply increase androphilia, or attraction to men, thereby making the males who possess the gene homosexual and the females who possess it more promiscuous. But after investigating the characteristics of 161 female maternal relatives of homosexual and heterosexual men, the researchers have adjusted their hypothesis. Rather than making women more attracted to men, the "gay man gene" appears to make these women more attractive to men.

"High fecundity, that means having more babies, is not about pleasure in sex, nor is it about promiscuity. The androphilic pattern that we found is about females who increase their reproductive value to attract the best males," Camperio Ciani told Life's Little Mysteries.

Turns out, the moms and aunts of gay men have an advantage over the moms and aunts of straight men for several reasons: They are more fertile, displaying fewer gynecological disorders or complications during pregnancy; they are more extroverted, as well as funnier, happier and more relaxed; and they have fewer family problems and social anxieties. "In other words, compared to the others, [they are] perfect for a male," Camperio Ciani said. Attracting and choosing from the best males enables these women to produce more offspring, he noted.

The new study will appear in an upcoming issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Of course, no single factor can account for the varied array of sexual orientations that exist, in men as well as in women. "It is quite possible that there are several influences on forming a homosexual orientation," said Gerulf Rieger, a sexual orientation researcher at Cornell University. He noted that environmental factors — including the level of exposure to certain hormones in the womb — also play a role in molding male sexuality. But as for why genetic factors would exist that make men gay, it appears that these genes make women, as well as gay men, alluring to other men.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012…
Marraige is a Human Right

Senior Anglican Clergy: “Church Should Rejoice” Over Equal Marriage

Senior Anglican Clergy: “Church Should Rejoice” Over Equal Marriage
by Edmund Broch
21 April 2012, 12:59pm

A group of leading clergymen of the Anglican Church have, in a letter to the Times, said that equal marriage is a cause to celebrate, and that the Church of England has “nothing to fear” on account of extending marriage to same-sex couples.


In the letter, several prominent figures, including five former bishops, have written that recent statements by “church leaders past and present” may give people the wrong impression that the Church as a whole is against equal marriage. “Marriage is a robust institution,” the letter continues, “which has adopted much over the centuries. It has moved beyond the polygamy of the Old Testament and preoccupation with social status and property in pre-Enlightenment times. While the Prayer Book states that marriage was ordained first for “the procreation of children” the modern marriage service begins by emphasising the quality of relationship between marriage partners “that they shall be united with one another in heart, body and mind”.

“That there are same-sex couples who want to embrace marriage should be cause for rejoicing in the Christian Church,” the letter adds.

A leading signatory of the letter is Dr Jeffrey John, the openly gay dean of St Albans, whose appointment as Bishop of Reading in 2003 had to be withdrawn due to protest from conservative factions within the Church. Other signatories include Canon Giles Goddard of the General Synod, the suffragan bishop of Buckingham, and the deans of Norwich, Guildford and Portsmouth.

"We believe the Church has nothing to fear from… civil marriage for same-sex couples,” the letter continues, saying it ”will be for the churches to then decide how they respond pastorally.” It also welcomed recent statements by the Bishop of Salisbury and the new Dean of St Paul’s Cathedral calling on the Church to support equal marriage for same-sex couples.

The government consultation to extend civil marriages to same-sex couples by 2015 has drawn considerable criticism from traditional factions within the Catholic Church, some Tory MPs, and Muslim leaders in Scotland. However, it has also drawn criticism from pro-equality members of religious groups, as it proposes to exclude same-sex couples from any religious wedding ceremonies. The consultation will officially end in June.

We reproduce the entire letter for our readers below:

Sir,

A number of recent statements by church leaders past and present may have given the mistaken impression that the Church is universally opposed to the extension of civil marriage to same-sex couples. We believe that does not adequately reflect the range of opinion which exists within the Church of England.

Marriage is a robust institution which has adapted much over the centuries. It has moved beyond the polygamy of the Old Testament and preoccupation with social status and property in pre-Enlightenment times.

While the Prayer Book states that marriage was ordained first for ‘the procreation of children’ the modern marriage service begins by emphasising the quality of relationship between marriage partners ‘that they shall be united with one another in heart, body and mind.’

The Church calls marriage holy or sacramental because the covenant relationship of committed, faithful love between the couple reflects the covenanted love and commitment between God and his Church. Growing in this kind of love means we are growing in the image of God. So the fact that there are same-sex couples who want to embrace marriage should be a cause for rejoicing in the Christian Church.

We welcome current moves by the House of Bishops to consider again its view of civil partnerships and human sexuality. We hope this will lead to a recognition of God’s grace at work in same-sex partnerships and call on the Church to engage in theological discussion and prayerful reflection on the nature of marriage.

We also welcome recent reported statements by the Bishop of Salisbury and the new Dean of St Paul’s Cathedral calling on the Church to affirm same-sex couples who want to take on the commitment of marriage.

It is our belief that the Church of England has nothing to fear from the introduction of civil marriage for same-sex couples. It will be for the churches to then decide how they should respond pastorally to such a change in the law.

Sincerely

Canon Giles Goddard, General Synod, Southwark
The Very Rev Jeffrey John, Dean of St Albans

The Rt Rev Alan Wilson, Bishop of Buckingham
The Rt Rev Michael Doe
The Rt Rev John Gladwin
The Rt Rev Lord Harries of Pentregarth
The Rt Rev Peter Selby
The Rt Rev David Stancliffe

The Very Rev David Brindley, Dean of Portsmouth
The Very Rev Graham Smith, Dean of Norwich
The Very Rev Victor Stock, Dean of Guildford

Mrs April Alexander, General Synod, Southwark
The Rev Stephen Coles, General Synod, London
The Rev Clair Herbert, General Synod, London
Mr John Ward LLB, General Synod, London


Thank you to essayel for pointing this out!
Non-Judgment Day is coming

This is Remarkable and I Hope You Have a Moment to Check it Out

So I posted a song the other day and was sad I only got one comment on it, but that is okay. It isn't a comment-whore thing, it is just that I thought it was rather remarkable and that people got a chance to see it. I also understand that while viewing one's friend's list, it is common to skip videos to save time...

That said, I do hope you will check this out... I BLEW me away what these people do in this video...



Also that it is a damned good song, a damned good cover of a song I guess. I hope this goes viral and this group gets known. They are remarkable. They are called
Walk Off the Earth and they are doing a cover of the song called "Somebody that I Used to Know" and I am going to be looking out for them. Maybe they will come to Kansas City!

Special, special thanks to wrjones for pointing this out to me!

Have a great day!
Namasté
Ben
Feed My Muses

HELP!

LOL... Okay I need some help...

1) Worst Date: Tell me a story of a really bad one...

(maybe a date that today you can finally look back and laugh but it sure wasn't funny at the time? Or not)

2) You've just had a BAD evening and you want a cocktail or shot or something that will help you deal with it immediately. What would you have?
Marraige is a Human Right

Why Same-Sex Marriage Makes Sense Economically

Here is an interesting little article I found and wanted to share. What do you think? And not just emotionally. I think the writer makes some really interesting points.

Why Same-Sex Marriage Makes Sense Economically

By Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers


The national discussion about same- sex marriage is heating up. Just last week, North Carolina voted to prohibit the practice, and, for the first time, President Barack Obama clearly came out in favor of it.

The debate, which has focused on our evolving views on sexuality, also mirrors a deeper generational shift in how we view and experience marriage.

For our grandparents’ generation, marriage was about separate roles, separate spheres and specialization. Gary Becker, an economist at the University of Chicago, won the Nobel Prize partly for describing the family as an economic institution -- a bit like a small firm that employs people with different skills to produce both income and a well-run household. (To Read More...)