I'm male, but looking forward to transitioning to female.
Early this morning, I had one of the most amazing experiences.
On the advice of one of my T-girlfriends I decided to try to masturbate using anything but my penis.
Mostly the area around the pubic bone.
Amazing!
It took longer, and didn't produce much in the way of cum, but the feeling was incredibly intense (almost maddening, but in a good way).
Has anyone else ever done this?
Being a switch (half submissive, half dominant) can be tough sometimes. Lately I've been feeling a need to submit, but my partner tends to also be submissive. The route I've been taking lately is to insist that he tells me what he wants before I'll do it. Or ask him if he'd like me to do x-sex-act, and then tell him to tell me to do it.
Any other suggestions?
Sexual Compulsion Revealed [01 Apr 2005|02:31am]
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I am only recently able to reveal my secret sexual compulsion. It is bizare and unusual to say the least, but real. When I was at the age of reaching puberty 13 - 14, I started this. I discovered by accident that I would get a pleasurable feeling inside my lower abdomen when I would climb poles and trees, or just do pull ups during physical ed. class. Eventually I would climb almost anything to achieve the sensation. After many monthes, my secret enjoyment continued. During the summer I would walk to the local school yard and go to recess yards where the poles were. Teatherball poles, volleyball poles, even handrails. Gate poles and sign post were excellent to. As long as I could grasp on them and climb them, I could make them work. Generally, I would find a pole .. like a teather ball pole for instance, then undress totally naked, an aspect of this that I began when I realized that my penis was involved in the pleasure and allowing my erection to be unhindered by clothing made things many times more gratifying. Anyway, now fully naked and aroused, penis throbbing visibly and my heart pounding out of my chest. I would venture out into the wide openness, grasp the pole and start climbing very slowly while clamping my thighs together squeezing my erection further upwards and outwards. My eyes scanning my surroundings for anyone that might catch me in the act. I physically strain for sometimes as long as 10 minutes till I start to feel the beginnings of the unbelievably exposive climax that I knew would come. Eventually as if someone flipped a switch, orgasm would overcome me and cause me to be frozen in sheer extacy. My arms and hands in pain and leg fatiqued, but still in rythym, pressing together with precise timing. When I was getting near the climax my watchful eyes would shut, abandoning any concern that I might be seen. For the next 2 to 3 minutes it was up to chance whether I would be viewed by a stranger. Anyone that might happen across my path would not only be shocked with what they were watching, but amazed that I continued to complete my act in plain view of them. Of course I would eventually have to face the moment when I had to jump down and scurry to where my clothes were and ride my bike away. Tingling all over.
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Sex game for the Mr. Nice Guy
This game is specifically written for the nice guy syndrome. He is your best friend, but not a great lover. Mr. Nice guy is viewed as asexual and passive by the other. To change the image of Mr. Nice Guy, put on a bandit's outfit and approach your partner while she is quietly sitting in the living room reading, or watching TV. As you approach, point a plastic gun towards your partner and announce that you are the captor and that she is your prisoner of war. At this point, she may laugh (or show scorn) and ask what you are doing. To this, you must respond that you are a bandit and that you are here to steal a kiss from her. With that, she may tell you to that she does not want to be disturbed. She is reading a book/watching TV. Again, tell her that you are a bandit and that your job is to steal things. Share with her that it is OK for her not to want to lose her kisses. That is why you are a bandit, you take things without permission. Go steal a kiss from her. Then with that, (if you can) pick her up in your arms and carry her off to your secret den. This secret den, may either be your bedroom with some new satin sheets, or a fort that you made in your study. If she seems truly angry, you may not want to grab her, and let her know that it is OK to be angry, sometimes victims do not like to be stolen. If this is the case, quickly steal a small kiss and let her know that you will be back sooner than she will ever guess to collect your 'goods'. Do not feel discouraged. Sometimes people either really are not in the mood to play, and other times she may just be in shock and it will take a while for her to get comfortable with your new role. In a few days, try again. If you have been successful in 'stealing' her to your fort, begin to make love to her in a new way. Be more aggressive than usual. You are the bandit. It is your job to take what you like. I recommend taking her pleasure… as in if you know she likes oral stimulation then take her vagina and eat your dinner;) It is critical, that while you are taking things like kisses and such that please you, that you do not fall into the trap of only satisfying yourself. This is a game that is designed for you to become more aggressive with a partner, but the partner does still exist. As a variation, you could have in your fort, a small treasure chest. Inside this treasure chest is a black negligee that you will produce and demand that she wear. You have stolen her some fine clothes to wear in your presence. In addition, there is a bottle of champagne and two wine glasses.
From your past experiences, you have found that it is hard work to 'steal' things and that sometimes even you need something to drink.
I found out this weekend that girth is much more important than I ever believed.
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"When a woman has sex with you she wants to have orgasms. She is capable of masturbating and giving herself an orgasm. You don't have to make her come; she can do that by herself. All you have to do is let her come. Generally, if you don't mess things up, it's rather easy to get a woman to come. All you have to do is let it happen.
One of the big myths in sex is that there's some magic technique that drives women wild. And that if you learn this technique you will be a great lover. That's not how it is. What generally happens is that men make a lot of mistakes that detract from the sex. These mistakes are so distracting that she can enjoy herself because men are doing a lot of things wrong. The biggest advance where men can improve themselves sexually is to stop doing the things that detract from the woman's sexual experience. There are lots of things that distract from the sex and make it not work for her. A lot of it has to do with timing, waiting till she's ready for it. Other things have to do with being comfortable, the bed feeling right, getting into the right position, and lubrication.
Getting in at the right angle is important. Maybe you're pinching her or cutting off the circulation to her leg. Other factors include having enough lubrication; how you smell; and the room temperature. All these things can be distractions. If she's not ready and these problems are taking away from the sex then she might have wanted to come, but she can't because things aren't right and she can't focus on the sex.
There may be psychological barriers. Maybe you just had a fight and she's thinking about that. Maybe you're moving to quickly and to rough. Maybe she doesn't feel entirely safe with you in that she doesn't feel comfortable being as sexually open with you as she would like to be. Women want screaming mad sexual ecstasy, but not with someone whom might not be able to handle it. And if she feels she has to hold back then she isn't going to have as good a time with you as she would like to have.
But it's important to understand that she wants it. She want's you to drive her wild. And if you don't mess it up it's going to happen. But most guys mess it up because they don't understand a lot of basic things that are easy to learn. Things they never taught to you. Things that seem obvious when you hear them. All you have to do is learn and learn how to learn on your own. All women are different so you have to learn what your sex partner wants. So part of learning how to fuck is learning how to learn what the woman you are with likes. Some women will just tell you what they want, but most won't, unless you invite them to.
Giving a woman what she wants sexually is a lot like taking her out to eat at a restaurant. The waitress comes and asks what you want. Suppose you order for her; you're just guessing what she likes. You might order what you like and hope she likes the same thing. But just because you like broccoli doesn't mean she'll like broccoli. If you order for her you might get lucky and you might not.
However, if you ask her what she wants and she tells you, then when you order for her she'll be getting what she wants to eat, and she'll be a lot more likely to enjoy the meal. In other words, you become much better at ordering dinner for her because you know what she likes. After many dates you know what places she like to go to and what she wants and you have no problem pleasing her. And she thinks you're a great date because she tells you what she wants and you give it to her.
Sex is just the same way. You can guess what she likes and read books about different techniques that work on different women. You can do different things you've learned and hope that it works, and maybe you'll get lucky. But the best way to find out is to ask. And in order to ask, you have to have a sexually trusting relationship where she feels comfortable telling you. This process of learning your ladies preferences is a very key part of becoming a great lover. Make a note of this because I will be coming back to it over and over again."
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