Tribute To A Life

I have recently set up a website called I Have Gained An Angel. This website is an online grief and support forum for people of all ages who have suffered loss in their life.

I, myself, have suffered the great loss of my mother last March, and found that speaking on support forums and to friends online was easier personally for myself to express my emotions. I am only twenty-one years old and wasn't ready for the massive responsibilities which were thrown upon me, and these friends helped me endlessly to cope with my loss.

This is what sparked my interest in starting my own support group. I Have Gained An Angel is a safe place for teenagers to the elderly, with easy to navigate discussion boards and a chance to help others at the same time as helping yourself. After all, who else knows how to help us better than one who has suffered the same loss?

At the moment we are a small group and are promoting around to collect more members and heighten the support network that the site provides. Our current members have had a great deal of input with the running and content of the site, something that we aim to continue so that it can continue to provide the best support for those who join.

If you would like to know more information about the site, please contact me on ihgaa@live.co.uk, or even visit the site for yourself at www.ihavegainedanangel.com

Hi guys,

I'm working on a documentary about young people who, due to parental loss, have had to assume leadership roles in their families.  If this applies to you and you'd be interested in taking part, please read on.  Thank you for your time.

Are you adapting to a new family situation and the responsibility of raising your siblings that was unexpected? Are you still figuring out how to adjust? Then MTV wants to hear from you. We want to know how you work through all the everyday struggles of being left to take charge because you have suffered parental loss. This show is really about kids who have come together under amazing circumstances to support eachother. If you appear to be between the ages of 18-28 and have 2 or more siblings that you are now the guardian of, then please send us your story and contact information to raisingmysiblings@mtv.com

 

( Today would have been Grandpa Simpson's eighty-first birthday.Collapse )

I*m curious; Does anyone fear they will forget their loved ones? Lately, I*ve been scared that one day, I will forget what my grandparents look like or sound like. I mean, yeah.. I*ll know who they are in pictures and whatnot, but will I be able to memorize them? ... Am I the only one going through this?

those that have passed throughout the years. I*ve lost so many people in this lifetime, and it*s really sad actually, that death is all a part of life. With the holidays rapidly approaching, I*m finding myself missing those family members that are no longer with me today. I*m aching inside.. for a love that once was strong, and now is lost. <3 And because of that, I joined this community.

R.I.P

My twin brother, Brandon. 09.28.83
My grandma, Barbara. 07.03.93
My grandpa, Melvin. 10.10.2000
My mother-n-law, Sandy. 05.29.03

These are the ones that are closest to me.

I feel so lost without her. My baby girl. My heart. Adrianne Roxanne was born August 28, 1991 and died September 10, 1994. Her and her father were both killed in an auto accident. This year Adrianne would be 13 years old. I can't believe she'd be a teenager this year. Wow! She's been gone for 10 years this year as well.

How amazing it would have been to see her grow up into a beautiful young woman. To see her cute lil smile grow into a bigger one. To hear her sweet childish giggle turn into an adult laugh. To see her lil feet get bigger and her hands grow. There is so much I missed out on... yet there was so much I was able to experience. She is so beautiful. So amazingly beautiful. I feel her with me always ... yet there is a void that I don't know how to fill.

I was never able to say goodbye. In one conversation my life changed forever. She died instantly... no pain. Thank you God! Bob, knew he was hurt... he knew she was gone. Of course he gave up... of course he left me too. I would have left with her too. Being left here with no one is very sad. Very lonely. Bob was such a good man. He could make me laugh so easily. He was a beautiful person. My life is forever changed...

I miss you baby girl...

I wonder if up in heaven you age? Do you still look 3 years old? Does daddy still have a mustache? Do you still have your beautiful hair? All these things I wonder about and will never get the answer ... until of course I go up to heaven and see for myself. Some days I wish I could hurry that process up. I'm too afraid that if I were to go before my time I would be punished and not allowed to see them. So, I stay here and wait my turn.

I miss you Bob...

Okay... I have to close now. Too much sadness.

I love you Adrianne.
I love you Bob.

~Alex

I'd just like to let you all know about a community that I made called foryourloss. Please feel free to join.

I am 16 years old and 11 months ago I lost my granddaddy. I was impossibly close to him and loved him dearly, and his death has been hard for me to handle.

 But today while writing this I realized that it is his memory that is helping me to heal, even if I don't realize it.

So, I thought I would post this here,as a sort of thank you to my Granddaddy. Enjoy.

( One Year In Her MindCollapse )

I found the perfect book. Here is the link if anyone else is interested in it, its called "Angel Catcher" --http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/… . It is just what I have been looking for and it asks you questions about the day that your loved one died and how you felt and important things about your life with that person. It has a place for dreams that you have had, anger issues with dealing. and it has a section about unanswered questions and things you regret. Its a pretty good sized book and it has a spot in the back for pictures and cards or anything. Its like an envelope thing. The woman at the book store changed this book with the other one that she was going to give me and gave me this one instead. I bought my sister one also and gave it to her tonight. She loves it, and I'm really glad. Hopefully it can help us remember more of the happy times.
I also bought a really cute and wonderful book called "The Heavenly Village" http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/…, thats the link for that too. Its about a place that god has created in between the heavens and the earth for people that are not yet ready to go to heaven or that haven't finished their 'stories.' The book is written like it is for a younger audience but I think that its mature enough for adults also.
I encourage you all to check them out.