“it’s also good to learn that life isn’t fair!” i don’t WANT children to accept unreasonable discipline from adults!! i don’t WANT children to expect the adults in their lives to punish at random and ignore their explanations!! the world isn’t fair but we could sure work to make it fairer

Pride Mothman vest has some new additions

I think a lot of people were raised being told that things are bad with no explanation as to why they’re bad and I don’t think I know enough about psychology to make any big statements about that

but anyways I think a lot of people see cheating on your partner as bad because they were just told that sex outside of your partner is bad or something but really cheating on your partner is bad because you had an agreement based on trust with them and you broke that trust so like why should they trust you with anything else now

I have also been making a concerted effort to do less equivocating and softening of my statements the last few months -- stuff like adding "I think" or "I feel like" or "this is my opinion" "this is broadly or mostly true" etc. and like. you'll notice I still do those a lot, lmfao, but also I do make a lot more posts that are just like "this is a thing. this is why. this is the impact it has." because the thing is, it in implicit that if I am saying this, I think it. the "I think" is implied. men typically get away with this quite easily. i know a lot of women online who do NO equivocating in their speech or writing, and people fucking HATE IT and hate them, because they think these women come across as conceited and overconfident and snobbish and any other unpleasant adjective that someone might use to describe an action that, in a man, would be perceived as appropriately confident.

sometimes when you've really been conditioned to soften every single fucking statement you make about your life and experiences and perspective, seeing people actively choose Not to do that can be really scary. sometimes it makes people angry! sometimes I think there is an element of jealousy and resentment from people who don't yet feel confident in their own statements, unless they're tearing someone else down. it's much easier to do that than it is to confidently make one's own statements. when you're tearing someone else down, you don't have to take on the social risk -- the person making the statement is taking the social risk. its socially safer to be the one who is reacting and disapproving of things someone else has said or done.

The following two statements are both true:

• Star Trek has always been woke
• Star Trek has always been corporate

*goes to Coachella in a white linen suit like an antebellum lawyer, sweating profusely and dabbing at my forehead with a handkerchief* now, I’m no fancy scientist, but would you folk know where a simple gentleman such as myself could obtain some acid? Now, I’m no big city lawyer, but could any of you fine youths point a country boy such as myself in the direction of some fucking acid?