i love things that come in glass jars because once its over the glass jar is mine
there are disability aids for literally everything…. and that includes intimacy!!
its very important to me that you know this!!!
here are just a few examples:
18 and over post pls <3
OP thank you for this and this list and I am so sorry I'm kinda hijacking it to put more, plus some links. I don't have any images, so I'm not going to put it under a readmore, but be wary the links are all to adult stores.
While I am personally not physically disabled, I am an ally and I am a huge nerd when it comes to sex, sexuality, and sex toys. I believe in sexual liberation and accessible sexuality for everyone, and it kills me that disabled folks of all kinds are so frequently left out of the conversation.
First, I just want to give a shoutout to Cute Little Fuckers, which is a queer, trans, and disabled-owned business selling high-quality toys with all kinds of bodies in mind. Step, the founder, started the company after they were diagnosed with a neurological condition that upended their life. The toys are a little bit on the pricier end, but while I haven't personally owned any of them, I've heard nothing but good things.
Next: if you struggle with pain during sex that is caused by deep penetration (ie your partner going to deep into you), you might want to consider the Ohnut! It's a series of silicone rings that you put around the base of the penis or toy that control how deep it can be thrust in. (The company also has other pelvic floor related products that are worth looking into.)
Onward! Regarding pillow forms and position aids!
The Liberator wedge and their other shapes are classics. But there are also other positional aids! (Fair warning: the links I am adding to the post here are mostly from Extreme Restraints (but also a handful of other adult stores), and have explicit images in their listings, so... proceed with caution. Also, I know there are AI images in the listing, but I've been purchasing from this company for the better part of a decade and I do trust them. It pisses me off, too.)
- This is a thigh sling to help keep legs up and out of the way.
- Here's a kinkier version with handcuffs, if you're into that.
- Here is a similar padded strap you can use during doggy, put under the lower belly/hips of the person on their hands and knees.
Related to the hand harness: did you know you can get a thigh harness? (Here's one from Sportsheets, another company I love) It does exactly what's on the tin, it holds a toy to the wearer's thigh, allowing the other person to ride it or suck on it or whatever. (This can also be put around a pillow to similar effect!) If you need to be sitting upright and a normal strap-on isn't comfortable, doesn't fit right, or doesn't hold the toy the way you want, this is a great alternative.
For some reason, Lovehoney is either sold out of or is no longer selling the hands-free mount that OP has listed in her post, and I can't really find anything comparable, which sucks. The only ones I can find are specifically for Fleshlights, which is great if you use those, but it's a brand name, and an expensive one at that. THAT SAID, you can get double-sided suction cups to put on suction-cup-less toys, and then go from there. A small tray or plate you can suction cup that to will get you pretty far, tbh.
Ultimately, the toy mounts that are pillow-shaped are going to be able to do a lot of the same thing as the strapped mount. Liberator and copycat companies also usually have a pillow designed to hold strokers (Fleshlight brand or otherwise)
Okay, finally: ERGONOMIC HANDLES.
Look, thrusting a toy in and out of yourself puts you in a weird position, usually, and it isn't always comfortable to maintain. There is a solution.
Here are both suction cup and vac-u-lock compatible handles AND ACCESSORIES for toys from Silc Arts.
If the position itself isn't too bad for you to maintain, but the grip on your toy is hard to keep or you could use a little more to grip onto, here is a suction cup grip from LustArts.
And finally, here are some other links to the stuff that OP listed, should you be so inclined:
- Liberator cushions
- La Palma hand harness
- IntimateRider chair
- This isn't that exact specific sleeve, but it is close. There are a lot of options in this department though
- A sex stool similar to the second to last one in OP's post, which lets you ride without putting so much pressure on your knees.
Alright, that's all I got, but I hope this is helpful to someone!
tl;dr if everyone is guilty, big brother longer needs to differentiate between slave and free man when meting out punishment
(in case anyone needs an example/breakdown to illustrate the current problem)
Anyone who lived through "female presenting nipples" should understand this automatically.
The end goal of deciding what kinds of bodies are pornographic is putting those bodies in prison.
MAGA boomers SHOCKED by 20y/o commie speaking fluent hog
Hog 201 for anyone interested in trying this:
Bodily autonomy (like abortion, anti draft, etc) -> “The government shouldn’t be able to force anything on my body I don’t want.”
Anti surveillance -> “I don’t trust big government/big tech (big brother if you’re feeling frisky) with the ability to spy on me and my family.”
Immigration -> “Next to all of us immigrated at some point, I don’t see why the elites get to decide who’s allowed to be where. What’s to stop them coming for me?”
Climate Change -> “Big oil shouldn’t get to determine whether or not I get to go places. I don’t want to be dependent on some big business to survive.”
State Violence -> “I don’t want the goddamn secret police breathing down my neck! I trust my community a whole hell of a lot more to help me than I do the state!”
The vast majority of conservatives think of themselves as underdogs being repressed by the government/the elite, and they value personal freedom (specifically their personal freedom, they don’t care about other people). The will almost always agree with leftist points if you can find a way to blame the problem on their vague enemies (useful, since rich people are the root of most problems), and tie it back to their ability to say fuck everyone else. NEVER appeal to science, theory, logic, or human goodness. Make it seem as if you are a paranoid lunatic who trusts no one. They love it.
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Okay okay okay so while we're talking about censorship:
When you say something is too evil for words, what you're saying that if you HAVE words, then it isn't really evil.
When I was a kid, people didn't like talking about child abuse. Because child abuse is evil and fucked up and horrific, and extreme, and it destroys people, and ruins your life forever, and the people who abuse children are irredeemable monsters and it's always immediately obvious to see because there is all this visible evidence of it happening.
So when I got a slap, and I was told, "that was nothing. Look, there isn't a bruise, you're fine. This is normal." I believed it.
And when I went to school with greasy hair and clothes that didn't fit, that wasn't a symptom of anything. It wasn't like I had a black eye.
And when I was home alone with the children for hours and hours, that wasn't abuse. That wasn't a bloody nose.
Real abuse was worse. Real abuse was unspeakable. And my life wasn't unspeakable. My life was cooking spaghetti for six and washing the dishes for three hours before I was allowed to go to sleep and wake up and go to school and do it again tomorrow.
When we heighten taboo subjects to this elevated, special kind of evil, it's sort of like moving the goalposts for the people experiencing the harm as well.
I got smacked a bit, but abuse leaves marks.
I got my hair yanked, but it wasn't like they were ripping out chunks.
I was in charge of raising the kids, but parentification means paying the bills.
Neglect means having no food, and we just had small portions.
Absence means running off on a drunken bender, not just locking yourself in an office and leaving your daughter to take care of the baby.
Yall see what I'm getting at?
There's a lot of shitty things we can do to each other, but it's not special, or unspeakable.
Cause my parents weren't unspeakable. They were my parents. They loved me, and they were doing their best.
You feel me?
Anonymous asked:
Thoughts on the wattpad Ao3 situation?
teaboot answered:
[Re: facing new censorship restrictions on Wattpad, Wattpad users are fleeing to AO3, where a portion of them appear to be trying to impose censorship restrictions]
As an abuse survivor whose primary connection to the world was the internet, I first learned that what I was experiencing was abuse by finding a fic I was reading had that tagged.
Then, experiencing a morbid mix of fascination and denial and desperation to contextualize my expriences, I then went through about a hundred different pics with that tag until I could say out loud to myself, “These behaviours are abusive. This is abuse. Thousands of other people have agreed it is not normal.”
Once I had it in me to suspect, and once I had the language I needed to pinpoint what was wrong, I was able to branch out. Differentiate between emotional abuse and teasing, psychological abuse and nomal behaviour. How my behaviour emulated these things, and why it was unhealthy, and what I should correct in myself to avoid becoming like the people who hurt me.
I wasn’t being sexually abused, but if I had been, I imagine this discovery process would have been exactly the same. Accidental, then purposeful, then comparing, researching, validating, and seeking help.
As an individual, there’s a lot of shit that icks me the fuck out, that I would find incredibly unpleasant and distressing to read. So I don’t read it. And, would you look at that, there’s a handy-dandy way for me to see up front which stories or poems or whatever include those things, and I don’t have to get blindsided.
People are going to write about whatever they want to write about whether you let them use a website to do it or not, and trying to stop them won’t stop them, it’ll just be harder to find. And for some of us, that messed up, awful, uncomfortable shit was very important to find.
There’s a lot more I can say about censorship. About the implications of coddling the public, stigmatizing real-world experiences, the foot in the door that allows us to spread from one little nasty thing we all agree is bad to everything else from gay sex to cross dressing to boys wearing pink, the obscene to the innocuous.
But.
If I may lower myself to entertain the argument that “Oh, but if you write about these awful things, you must have the heart of an abuser! You must have the heart of a murderer! You must have the heart of a rapist!”
Then I will ask the person who believes this to consider:
Would you rather have a monster who you can’t see, or hear, or sense, who is always there, always thinking its monstrous thoughts, making its monstrous plans, out of sight and hidden away until you happen to stumble across it unexpected in the dark?
Or would you rather it stay outside, in a clearly marked enclosure reading “MONSTER! DO NOT ENTER! MONSTER INSIDE!” where you can see it and avoid it, knowing exactly where it is?
Just, you know. My fucked up freak opinion
Enough pixels have been burnt to death analysing the interest of women (general) in m/m fiction. Action and reaction, hot takes and cold takes and responses to both. Much has been commented, by every gender and sexuality under the sun.
I have never seen any pixels spilled on the topic of “also, some women are just tops. They like m/m, because it’s one of the few consistent ways to read good porn about topping.”
It is generally accepted that some people in queer couplings have a preference. Sometimes it’s a very strong preference. Sometimes it’s part of their own identity! But straight cis people are told, by mainstream and queer communities, that tab A belongs in slot B unless you’re queer.
If you can be brought to understand that topping/bottoming are roles that can be preferred in queer coupling, which aren’t necessarily fixed, “obvious” or detectable to outsiders, but that some people do have a strong preference, you can hopefully understand that this can also be true of straight people.
And ideally an evolved understanding will be that quite a lot of people might be giving or receiving sex in ways you can’t tell by looking at their haircuts. Some queer people have fixed preferences, some don’t; many relationships are versatile; one’s preference in the act can be entirely decoupled from one’s model of attraction, model of gender, and model of presentation.
My point is that some women, including straight cisgender women, can be preferentially vers or tops - just the same as anyone else - but they’re very limited by social expectations and their choices of partner. Same as anyone else. And vice versa; this generous planet is home to plenty of people who prefer to receive, but who have received variations on the designation of “straight man.”
And my theory here is that there are more women of varying identities and attractions in these groups than has ever been acknowledged, because straight people aren’t competent in expressing it, and queer people aren’t especially good at allowing interiority in straight people. We’re all picking at gender and attraction as if they have ANYTHING to do with what people like to do in bed, and assume that it has anything to do with what people do in bed, while at the same time saying loftily “it’s reductive to associate bottoming with femininity in queer couples” - come on now! It should be reductive in everybody.
As a result, you have cis gay men loftily pronouncing judgment upon everyone else writing penetrative sex scenes with men , because they have forgotten that “even” cis straight women can both give and receive anal sex with men… letting alone everyone else. Sure, in recent years, people have started pointing out that bi women, trans women, trans men, genderfluid people, and the entire asexual community can also write competently about sex. But the problem is still that this is focusing entirely upon the equipment that people happen to have, and not their desire; a missing component in the discourse! And it’s driven by the fact that not even the queer community are quite able to detach desire from one’s tackle.
Anyway! I’ll repeat myself: sometimes people without equipment are tops; some people whom society has assigned to be givers actually prefer to receive; some people don’t care much; and that doesn’t necessarily say anything about them. and they may have a range of attraction that ranges from same-gender to different-gender. It’s a fact of life.
It’s a small and specific point, and I am specifically speaking here of “straight cis woman who likes m/m fanfic” as an exemplar, just because it’s tumblr and there have been so many pixels burnt over this archetype. but I do think the greater point needs to be part of queer liberation. Assigning certain sexual preferences and desires based on presumptions of gender and equipment is not liberation.
And if a lady of ANY identity reading this suddenly has a lightbulb moment and realises she’s vers or a top - which apparently happens quite a lot when I talk about it - then I’m glad you got to read this, and I think you’re marvellous; if nobody else sees you, then I do.
If you haven’t checked in with yourself, it’s always worth checking in with yourself (especially since feelings can change). Are you comfortable and satisfied in your active or imagined sexual role? Or is it just what you feel like you HAVE to do - given your anatomy and choice of partners? Does your sexual role feel like an imposition, an obligation, a trap, or something you just have to get through to have sex with the people you fancy? Are your private fantasies or preferred readings consistently about The Other Role? How do you feel when thinking about toys for The Other Role?
Do you feel like it would be impossible for you to take a different sexual role, despite your desire, because of your gender? Or your partner’s gender?
Do you identify as cis/straight and feel clear sexual attraction, but find the traditional sexual act itself to be strangely weird/awkward/uncomfortable? You definitely want the other person, but wish the activity didn’t have to take place that way?
Do you feel a different way about your body as “the place where you live” vs “a sexual object”? Do they match? Would you like to have something like “a secret detachable penis just for sex” ?
This is a slightly odd-sounding one: are you sometimes wistful or jealous of trans people/queer people, for having the kind of sex that you want to have? And no matter how much you’ve reflected, you still feel that you aren’t trans, and are clear on your own attraction - but your heart hurts, because you somehow still want THAT sex, and know you never can? Does it make you sad that the sex you want is “not for you”?
Feelings can change. Check in with yourself! The last question in particular has changed lives.
I would also add that if you're having a lightbulb moment reading this but you're worried it will be harder to find partners: it may be easier than you think. I have been to a lot of sex parties and women who are keen to top men are very popular.
Can you imagine how wonderful this will be to read, for someone who didn’t know?
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