any of you have a hard time bringing your baby out to stores or on errands or whatever due to them having a complete meltdown by the time you get there? my son is 3 1/2 months, and although he has definitely gotten a lot easier AT HOME, i feel like i still can't take him anywhere safely other then my weekly mama's group where the women understand high needs babies. if i wanna run to target or something, i need to leave him with my mother-in-law. its kind of annoying, but thats how it goes. i mean, i think he's getting *a little* better out & about, and has definitely starting showing some signs of improvement on car rides. but i just feel like i'm still soooo anxious to take him anywhere because of his unpredictable moods (going from zero to sixty in the blink of an eye). if you are able to bring your baby out no problem, when were you able to start doing that?
how can you be sure your baby is high needs? i feel silly even saying that bc ive been pretty sure since lilia was a few days old that she was. now she is just shy of 1 month old and every day it becomes more apparant. i cant put her down... pretty much ever. not even to sleep or nap. she only naps while being held or while nursing. we co-sleep...so lilia does sleep well at night. when she wakes up i just pop a boob in her mouth and she is cool. someone needs to hold her while i shower or use the restroom... if i try to lay her down for this she screams like someone is skinning her and it breaks my heart..
im a single mom and this is really hard.. i love my baby so much but not having 5 minutes to browse a magazine or eat a meal is getting rough. its only been a month! sometimes i feel like i give in too easy or something.. but i also feel like i dont have a choice! i guess im just babbling/// glad to have this group tho
have any of you ever done chiropractic care for your high needs baby? people keep recommending it. or they say osteopath, physical therapy, occupational therapy, neurology, etc. i'm curious, but skeptical...
any suggestions for keeping my son entertained/happy/not so lonely on car rides? when my husband drives, i can sit in the back with my son. but when i'm alone with him in the car, i've got nothing. he'll sometimes be happy for half the drive, but then just scream. i feel so bad for him, but its also frustrating. makes me never want to go anywhere. i try a pacifier, playing static radio stations, etc. they work sometimes, but not reliably...
Instead of a rant about my high needs toddler I thought I would post about some of the things she does really well.
Most of the time things are a challenge, at least they used to be a lot more when she was younger. But there have been a few times when everything was smooth sailing. I guess our kids cannot be high needs every single second and figure we need a break and an easy time every now and then :)
I thought that weaning from breastfeeding was going to be a battle since she nursed all the time for comfort. Much to my surprise it only took 3 weeks since we took it slow and never forced the issue. She absolutely loved cow and soy milk from the start. Eventually bottle weaning was a huge ordeal the first time I tried. So I waited 6 months before trying again and it went fine.
Shots have always been easy for Quinn. I don't know why. Wit her personality I thought they would be super rough. She used to cry for less than a minute and she has never hated going to the doctors unlike her friends who have started freaking out the second they walk into the lobby.
Today we had her 2 year old well visit. She was the best ever!!! She stood nice and tall and still while she was measured for height and head circumference. She laid down perfectly still while the doctor listened to her heart and lungs and checked her out all over.
And the best part...she got a DTAP shot today and she didn't even flinch or shed a single tear!
How is it that my baby...my high needs daughter who can have a melt down if the dog is just looking at her while she's eating in the highchair...how can this child be so darn amazing while getting poked and prodded and jabbed?!
It must be the universe's way of making sure that I have at least one or two things that go smoothly for once.
She's been so much better as a toddler. So maybe those of you with younger babies will see the light at the end of the tunnel. I don't know why. Maybe she got all her fussing out early, maybe we are used to it so 2 year old antics do not seem so bad, maybe we have developed good strategies to cope and deal with it since it's been going on for a long time. Who knows. But I do know that she's no where near as tantrumy (making up words here) as her peers who were easy and mellow babies.
We're not out of the woods yet by any means and she's still difficult in many ways. But it's really nice to have some successes and see that finally she is not that fussiest baby in playgroup or pre-school or at other activities she goes to. Amazing! I never would have thought we would be here one day.
My daughter had her 6 month well baby visit yesterday and YET again the asshole Dr made me so angry that I SWEAR I'm never seeing her again. I said this last time she was our Dr at the Peds but I forgot to ask to NOT have her for the well baby visit.
Ok well... The Dr told me that my daughter has low muscle tone... My google-fu says stuff like muscular distrophy and things that are pretty much "with her for life" type issues. Once my Dr brought this up I asked her on what basis. She said that my kid doesn't hold her head as steady as she'd like to see it and since she's not rolling over both ways at 6 months that it's a red flag for her. I asked if she was talking adjusted age and development.... her response was "Oh... well MANY babies at 4.5 months do that anyways... I wouldn't worry just yet, but you might want to call the MHMR building to see them if she doesn't soon". I about shit another child.
First off... Don't tell me something and then backpedal on it... just admit that you are wrong or didn't read the chart. she pissed me off.
So I do have a question... What would you do in this case? Should I go back to the office for a more intelligent opinion from a Dr thats credible or find someone else all together? Do I panic and run her to early intervention over a moronic Dr who even admitted her stupidity? The Dr even said "well with how developed and big she is I always forget she was a premie"... that woman is useless.
Anyone have tummy time exercises that'll motivate her to roll?
Did any of you have a lot of trouble getting your babies to nurse properly? Like, not even that you were having trouble with the mechanics of it, but that the baby just refused to cooperate for reasons beyond your understanding.
Penny does a lot of latching on, sucking for a minute, then pulling off and screaming and crying for no good reason, then latching back on, sucking for a minute, and repeating. Also, even when I do get her to eat for a good while, that good while only consists of maybe 7 minutes.
I am investigating if maybe she has a diary sensitivity, but if that isn't the answer, then this all really is just because she feels like it.
I know she is getting enough to eat bc she is gaining weight like crazy, but this fiasco is really frustrating and it has made me dread feeding her each time, which is really sad, ya know?
Mother of Van Ezra(8 weeks)
In addition to a high needs babe we've also been dealing with an artery cut during circumcision, GERD, low milk supply = slow weight gain = breastfeeding,pumping AND formula supplements.
So hello to all you mothers who have messy houses, haven't taken a shower in days, can't remember the last time you actually ate a real meal... with your heavy eyelids.
It's good to have someone to finally relate to.
Christina
