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But notice people don't say things of that kind about TIMs lol
wtf is an “irritating fat girl”?? if you are irritated at fat girls you have something wrong with you and you should be embarrassed
#coolandnormal
"terf" is absolutely only as popular as it is due to it referring to women. people who don't believe that jkr is a real feminist still call her a "terf" and not a "transphobe" because by using "terf" they can make it clear that they are referring to a woman. same logic as with "cunt" or "bitch". language is gender neutral only until you need to use it to slap some sense into a woman you hate.
Anonymous asked:
The discussion around the tattoo is making me (gq) remember how a past relationship failed specifically because my transfem partner at the time COULD NOT have a conversation about my reproductive organs. Any mention of my uterus sent her into a three hour silence refusing to talk or look at me.
We lived in a red state where abortion was banned. I wanted to talk about a plan about unwanted pregnancy before having sex because it would seriously ruin my life if we weren’t prepared. She wanted to have PIV without that conversation because it was too dysphoric for her.
The refusal to deal with the realities of our bodies isn’t just some sort of “harmless” infighting.
genderkoolaid answered:
(Prev anon about relationship)
Even to this day, I feel bad mentioning anything about that relationship because I know people will use it as an excuse to be transphobic towards transfems in general. I hate how there’s a culture of covering up for community members’ bad behavior. I hate how, no matter what, the pressure is for me as a trans neutral person to remain silent about my experiences for the good of everyone else.
yeah that’s so fucking shitty. to demand silence from other people, especially other trans people, on their bodies and how they shape their lives because of one’s own dysphoria, is egocentric and cruel. especially in the context of being able to get another person pregnant, and ignoring the weight of that because its uncomfortable. & i’ve heard that exact sentiment from a number of trans men&mascs, not being able to talk about experiences of abuse out of their of it being weaponized.
and also like. i think transfeminism is stronger than this actually. I do not think that perisex trans women not being affected by the specific kind of reproductive misogyny that targets people who can get pregnant means they aren’t oppressed or have gender privilege over people who can get pregnant or are fundamentally male in any kind of way. i don’t even really think people who can get others pregnant are inherently “privileged” in the sense people use it. like truly trans women are profoundly oppressed on the basis of gender in so many ways, and themselves are targeted by sexual and reproductive violence. none of this means that if you are in a relationship with someone where abortion is illegal and you could impregnate them, that you don’t have a responsibility to that person.
i truly believe that aversion to nuance is, amongst other things, a product of trauma and fear and pain and also a lack of trust or faith in oneself or others to be able to handle that nuance and navigate it. i don’t think this is the only thing behind The Discourse ™ but i do think that people truly do not believe that we can care about all of these things at once.
Males oppressing females due to their biology/reproductive potential (or lack of thereof) extends to leftism and isn’t exclusive to the right, as shown above
If trans women would just acknowledge that they're men who alter themselves to look like women, in order to ease dysphoria, I wouldn't have a problem with it.
I'm all for men wearing skirts. I'm all for men enjoying whatever stereotypically feminine things they enjoy. I'll even support medical transition, provided you're over eighteen, understand the health risks, and have faced persistent dysphoria.
The problem is that they've redefined "woman" to be a feeling. I can no longer use "woman" to discuss the tangible reality of having a female body. Presenting as women isn't enough for them, they have to be women.
Not only does this erode my ability to discuss sex-specific issues, but it leads to self-identification policies that allow men into female-only spaces. Female-only spaces that were created because of the physical threat men pose to women.
I was accused of "driving a shiv between cis and trans women," when I tried to discuss how cis women, face different issues from trans women. I didn't even say that trans women aren't women, but acknowledging a difference at all was enough to elicit hostility. (Their follow-up sentence was, "Someone should drive a shiv through you.")
My issue with the trans movement isn't dysphoric individuals trying to feel comfortable, but the denial of how biology impacts our lives.
i saw this post a couple days ago and i just can't stop thinking about it. i've been asking the people i'm in dialogue how it's different and nobody has an answer. so tell me how it's different.
I'm gonna do something really controversial. Going to debunk the claim that JK Rowling posted an upskirt photo of a trans women.
Why? Am I defending JK Rowling? No. She still misgendered Freda and made fun of her appearance. She still sucks here and is a bigot.
I'm doing this because I believe calling this upskirting and sexual assault diminishes the meaning of both terms, because the photo posted objectively does not meet the definition.
Here is the photo JK Rowling posted of Freda.
This image comes from a live debate filmed two years ago. You can see at about 25 minutes in that this image comes from the exact same camera angle that the debate was being filmed from. It is the view that the audience would see of Freda the entire length of the debate.
[Screenshot from the debate video]
It is not an upskirt. This is simply what Freda looks like from a front view, while sitting down in the outfit she was wearing. If this is an "upskirt" and therefore sexual assault, than the entire audience and the camera crew was sexually assaulting her as well for simply viewing her from the front.
https://youtu.be/Va3i-_Fbfpo
Men love women’s bodies, we are told, but only after women spend an inordinate amount of time whipping their bodies into a lovable shape—by dieting, shaving, waxing, dying, perfuming, covering with makeup, douching, and starving them.
Jane Ward, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality
