Gay Relationship Advice

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I am new to the Journal and hoping to find people I can talk to. I have been in a gay relationship for almost 2 years now. We have issues with our communication and I don't know what to do. I admit that in the past I have never opened up to my partners and now I have come a long way, but it doesn't ever seem to be enough. I don't know what I can do? I do try and I do talk, just not at the right times it seems. This seems to be the one thing that really bothers my partner. PLEASE help... 

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So i'm not in a gay relationship -BUT -this involves the gay community and i am BEGGING for some avice because i am completly confused....

To make a long story short- i recently found out that my gay (male) friend has a crush on me (I'm a girl), he told one of my good friends that he liked me, and he told her not to tell anyone but of course she told me :/ Just to clarify: he doesnt like any other girls, he's not bi-sexual, and hes only been with a girl once and that was in middle school (and that was before he came out). Is this possible? has this ever happened to anyone else on here? and even if not, what do you think i should do??? I'm sorry if this question doesn't seem pertinent enough, i just had no idea where else to go- i've tried searching it on the internet but nothing comes up on account of this is a pretty unusual situation....Thanks in advance to anyone who has input- im completly baffeled!

I posted here a few months ago, about what to do for the 3 year anniversary, but now the relationship is over. I've been okay, cried a lot, I've been journaling, talking to friends, the whole shebang. I'm not totally healed or whatever, but I'm doing pretty well I think.
Anyways, the ex texted me the other day at 3:45am asking if I was staying at my mom's or my sister's (I'm home from school over the break, and obviously can't stay at the apartment we used to share). It's very unlike him to be awake or texting at that hour, so when I woke up at 8am and saw the text, I responded 'At mom's, is everything okay?'.
He responded later 'yeah, I guess. I haven't slept in like four days, sleeping pills aren't working anymore. I think I was having a panic attack or something. I'm going to spend the rest of the break at my parents and maybe go see a doctor'.
Now, I know I'm the ex, but I also know him extremely well. I know that since the break up he's been having anxiety problems, which has been causing him to not be able to sleep well. I also now that he wouldn't lie to me about this stuff, he's better than that.
I'm not sure if I should contact his parents, so that they know what's been going on, he doesn't have a good relationship with them, so I don't know if he will talk to him on his own.
Should I contact them in case the situation gets worse?
Thanks everyone

-Phil

My three year anniversary is coming up (Saturday), and I'm not really sure what to do for it.  I am away at school in WV, and the bf is in FL.  He is planning on coming up about this time next month, and I have obligations all weekend, so a surprise visit isn't possible.  I've been looking around at florists, but money is tight, so if I spend $50 on an anniversary present, I want to make sure it will be on something that he will really like, and will be around for a while.  Any ideas?

Has anyone else heard of this or seen the program?  Apparently, it aired recently, around 8pm (primetime) just a few days ago, and the hour long program was based around how gays are trying to silence christians and keep them from having there own opinion.  It was aired on NBC, and I have already sent them an email to let them know how distasteful a show like this is.  I just wanted to share this, and hopefully get the word out about it in the hopes that others would send them emails as well.  Here's a link to the youtube video (it's really quite insulting):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oot…

Well certainly from the last post I did a few months back things looked kinda bad. All that has changed now thankfully for the better. Me and my partner are embarking on a new adventure together. We just bought a house down in Tampa, Florida and will be moving in at the end of the month. I really cant wait because that means 100% privacy and 100% intimacy. We will finally be able to really get to know each other seeing as though we haven't had that chance here under these circumstances. Sure we are comfortable and very happy with each other but the idea of having peace and quiet and really getting to know each other is pretty exciting.


We have talked about the sexual/intimacy factor of our relationship and how he really wants to spice things up once we are alone. I am very if not extremely sexual and so just the idea of a strong sex life again is something that makes me cream my jeans! Sad to say I've had the urge to look around a few times but never ever acted upon it due to my love and loyalty to our relationship.

So time will only tell.

Musing I just had to jot down, x-posted to punkbassoon 

My experience of listening to attorneys and justices debate, as well as later hear the radio news playing sound bites from the protests all had my head spinning. Spinning into thoughts looking inward. Thinking of my life in terms of the fights in the courts, vs. my own struggle. The struggle to maintain my own equanimity despite feeling depressed regarding my single life, after a taste last year of a relationship. After four years of singlehood. And now I'm back to that alone state again. My thoughts range from wanting to offer unbridled support in the battle for marriage rights for the LGBT community to thinking how hypocritical my marching and protesting could be. Why? I feel if I am to participate I somehow must be beyond reproach in my relationships, my life. Surely this singlehood cannot merit the ends demanded by the current social challenges. So basically, damnded if I do, damned if I don't

I realize I have such unique opportunities for the cause of human rights among other social issues in my work as a library cataloger. Sometimes, I'm able to reveal what's normally hidden according to national standards—chapter titles in books not normally captured, but by local standards, things that my library does transcribe. With this, it's the hope that a researcher, student, or faculty member can move further along in their work in making the world a better place for those without a voice, without a means of changing their situation.

Even in this, I feel like my own connection to others has its limits at best. Limited enough that the special, intimate connection I seek eludes me. Through the wonderful people I've met in my life (as well as the not-so-wonderful people), I see peeks of what I want in that connection, what I dream of. I do ask a lot of my life—but why not, especially after so much has been asked of me as far as school and work. I can't seem to reconcile the quality of life I have experience and continue to in the academic and professional arenas, yet the intimate life appears to pale in comparison.

For the time being, here I go through school and work, try to work on the connections I do have, although some have withered on the vine and others still unfold, waiting like tender sprouts to issue forth and reveal what they may. I go forward at this juncture, scared at what I may find tomorrow. But I have no where to turn. Here I walk, into the vacuous, the unknown ...

Hey. I'm new, maybe you all could help me with something.

My partner and I have been together for nearly three years; might not seem like much to some but it's the longest I've ever had. To give added context, we met online and visited often (as often as I could while we were both still in high school), after graduation I moved across the state to be nearer. year and a half or so went by, now I'm here.

We used to be very physically intimate, now she doesn't even like to be naked around me. She has lots of school and work and family stuff, and I often got very frustrated having to always come second; now when I go out with my friend (yes, as in singular) I get calls from her within the hour asking when I'm gonna come home. She makes it clear she doesn't want me to go out, but in a weird passive-aggressive way. She alienates and intimidates my friend. She's often cold or outright harsh to me for no real reason and ignores me when she's over talking to my roommate, yet gets ridiculously clingy when I'm on the computer less than a foot away.

There's more, but I don't wanna fill up the post.

I came out as trans to her after a long painful process about 6 months ago I think. She NEVER talks about it, refuses to even acknowledge it at all. She talks to my roommate about everything and tells me nothing. I know she's not happy, and the way she treats me I'm not happy either.

I love her to death, but I don't know if I can keep going. My roommate wants me to do more to keep us together, but I have done everything I can think of and she just doesn't care.

What do you guys think?