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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
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herkind

Another advice for girls and young women: love and sex is supposed to be fun, happy and make your life better. If it’s not, if it’s making you miserable, if it’s making you love yourself less, if it’s making you doubt yourself, and if you feel like you have to sacrifice yourself or put up with things you don’t want to, you are absolutely entitled to throw it out from your life. In fact, you should, because your life is so, so valuable and you have the right to be happy. Being a girl does not mean having to accept misery and pain, even if that’s what we’re often taught. You are allowed to decide what comes into your life. Let it be happy and beautiful.

Pinned Post and distinguish self care from beauty !!! beauty is performative self care is caring about you only - not about what people want tags
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brittlepredatordemon

Actually, no, I don't think that friendships dropping like flies in your late 20s and early 30s because no one has time for that between overwork and family obligations and marriage and kids and partners and the ritual of the time slayer is normal and ok. No I don't think deep conversations and spontaneous adventures being replaced with a tired coffee every six months is a normal part of growing up. I don't think that emotional intimacy and soul bonds disintegrating in the face of practical inconvenience is a fact of life. I think that means something is deeply deeply wrong with our society and I will never forgive it for the friends I've lost

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taraxippos

From what I can tell this is the standard level of sexual dimorphism for booktok romance couples

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taraxippos

Most interesting thing about this post is people tagging it as like ‘straight people version of yaoi size dynamics’ like. Let’s all stop and think for a second where the “penetrative sexual partner is large, dominant, and masculine; the penetrated sexual partner is small, submissive, and feminine” thing (and the presumption of these roles being a necessity and immutable) might also come from.

taraxippos

And now it's "more tall bottoms!" "let the tiny girl PEG the man" let us instead continue this thought exercise and examine why we presume that a sexual relationship must be defined around a penetrator/penetrated dynamic, or that there must by necessity be "A top" or "A bottom" and that these roles cannot be fluid, or that penetrative sex is a necessity in a relationship to begin with, or that penetration is an act of dominance and humiliation and by extension it's a Subversive Feminist Win for the Bigger and/or Masculine party to receive, or that these misogynistic-homophobic ideals can be meaningfully addressed by simply Reversing the dynamic. My final message........goodbye..........