Welcome to Finder of Things
Here since 2013, this blog has grown and evolved with me, becoming a space for community, humor, puppies, sex, and everything in between. While this is very much an NSFW blog (within reason), I also have a side blog for the even more NSFW content.
I’m a switch, and my mood determines what side of me you’ll encounter here. For some, I’m a playful companion; for others, a guide or a challenge, depending on our dynamic. For the right person, all sides come out. As a middle-aged man, I’ve spent much of my later life reflecting on, challenging, and at times struggling with societal norms and expectations. From questioning traditional masculinity to rejecting rigid definitions of self-expression, this blog has become my platform for exploring those challenges and sharing alternative perspectives on life.
I have a deep appreciation for lingerie on myself and others. Like many, I struggle to find clothes that not only fit but also reflect who I am, limited by the narrow constraints of societal norms and the body shapes they’re often designed around.
My sexuality is closest to gynesexual—a term describing attraction to femininity or women, regardless of their gender identity. It’s a label that resonates deeply with me and has provided clarity, though no single term can fully define who I am. This clarity was only possible through the power of the modern computer era.
A Bit About Me:
Life circumstances led to years of solo chastity and unhealthy sexual fantasies. Through time, reflection, and friends, I’ve embraced diversity and representation, which you’ll see reflected in the content I share and repost. And I will be the first to admit that even my shares are not representative of everyone, as, in the end, the content resonates with me and my desires. However, supporting alternate views of life matters.
I’ve also developed an appreciation for monster kink, short prose, and discussions about what defines submission, dominance, and sexuality. Sex acts and clothing don’t inherently carry meaning; it’s intent that shapes everything.
When it comes to clothing, I’ve struggled to express myself, often battling societal expectations that limit how a man ‘should’ look or dress. As a masculine-presenting man, society often labels my love of colors, textures, and styles as “feminine.” For me, these choices represent sanctuary and gentleness in a world that often feels harsh. This is not about being a sissy or crossdresser; it’s about rejecting societal labels and simply being me. I’ve fought against these norms and the boundaries often self-imposed on me, but finding ways to express myself while navigating these constructs remains a challenge as I discovered this part of myself very late in life.
In my daily life, I’m tasked with decisions that impact hundreds or even thousands of people. Amidst that pressure, these clothing choices provide a moment of softness and a personal retreat, reconnecting me with parts of myself that life’s struggles often wear down.
I’m also a caring Daddy when it comes to my partners; a guide, a provider, a source of safety, and someone who can be a bit of a sadist when the need arises in my partner.
A Few Ground Rules:
- This is an adult space. You must be 18+ (or the age of majority in your country) to engage here.
- I welcome discussions and questions, but know that this is my blog. If you don’t like what you see, you’re free to leave.
- Bots, scammers, and those who believe their way of life is the only “true” way are not welcome here. Feel free to explore concepts like misogyny or patriarchy in kink or your fantasies, but if you believe they’re the “correct” way to live, this isn’t the space for you.
To the rest of my community: Welcome. Let’s share, laugh, explore, and connect.
My Other Writings - (Update: 2025/12/24)
