***The Great Below***

I...am at a loss for words. There's definitely things in the article below that everyone should read and be informed of...

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at the create section of my site you can find the pdf file to download of my one shot zine Lost or Unsent written in July/august 2005
poetic ( emotional) and kind of philosophic thoughts of mine and fictionnal too in my unsent letters.
Hope you'll enjoy it
Blessed be!

god i feel so so so so so fucking stupid.
i met this guy online (cheesy i know) about 7 months ago.
we started just talking like friends do, then conversations got more and more intimate over the months.
i haven't really had a serious boyfriend, so it was really nice for me to have a guy be so nice and that i could be so open with.
then basically all of june i didn't talk to him
i was so worried and i missed him so much, i thought about him all the time.
now today i talked to him for the first time since the beginning of june and i find out he has a girlfriend.
i can't believe i could let myself get so involved.
i can't believe i can be so sad about someone i have never even met.
its like i can't even stop crying.
he keeps saying that i should have told him how i felt, but i just can't do that with boys, i get too shy or embarassed.
i feel so fucking terrible right now.
i know that like 99% of you will think i am crazy or weird or whatever, but i needed to just get this off of me because i don't even know what to do. he is being so nice to me about it all, and i can't take it.
thanks for listening.


love,
chelsea

10 Tips for Managing Depression
someone posted this in one of the support groups i'm in...thought i'd share it...the list goes a bit in detail so i'll put it under a cut just incase...list under the cut

10 Tips for Managing Depression

1. Do not expect too much from yourself too soon, as this will only accentuate feelings of failure. Avoid setting difficult goals or taking on ambitious new responsibilities until you've solidly begun a structured treatment process.

2. Break large tasks into small ones, set some priorities, and do what can be done, as it can be done.

3. Recognize patterns in your mood. Like many people with depression, the worst part of the day for you may be the morning. Try to arrange your schedule accordingly so that the demands are the least in the morning. For example, you may want to shift your meetings to midday or the afternoon.

4. Participate in activities that may make you feel better. Try
exercising, going to a movie or a ball game, or participating in church or social activities. At a minimum, such activities may distract you from the way you feel and allow the day to pass more quickly.

5. You may feel like spending all day in bed, but do not. While a change in the duration, quality and timing of sleep is a core feature of depression, a reversal in sleep cycle (such as sleeping during daytime hours and staying awake at night) can prolong recovery. Give others permission to wake you up in the morning. Schedule "appointments" that force you to get out of the house before 11 a.m. Do this scheduling the night before; waiting until the morning to decide what you will be doing ensures you will do nothing.

6. Don't get upset if your mood is not greatly improved right away. Feeling better takes time. Do not feel crushed if after you start getting better, you find yourself backsliding. Sometimes the road to recovery is like a roller coaster ride.

7. People around you may notice improvement in you before you do. You may still feel just as depressed inside, but some of the outward manifestations of depression may be receding.

8. Try not to make major life decisions (such as changing jobs or getting married or divorced) without consulting others who know you well and who have a more objective view of your situation.

9. Do not expect to snap out of your depression on your own by an exercise of will power. This rarely happens. Many churches and communities have depression support groups. Connect with people who understand depression and the recovery process.

10. Remind yourself that your negative thinking is part of the depression and will disappear as the depression responds to treatment.


empathy hugs everyone***

I am just saying hello here for the first time.

my life is pretty confusing right now because i lost a few years... but i'm trying to figure things out anyway.

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. -- Martin Luther King, Jr.

Never talk defeat. Use words like hope, belief, faith, victory. -- Norman Vincent Peale

Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit, you can achieve a permanently happy spirit. -- Norman Vincent Peale

Hope is always available to us. When we feel defeated, we need only take a deep breath and say, "Yes," and hope will reappear. -- Monroe Forester

We live by admiration, hope and love. -- William Wordsworth

We judge of man's wisdom by his hope. -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tell me about your hopes and what you do to reach them?:)

DARE TO BE

By Steve Maraboli Copyright 2000



When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.
When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.
When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.
When you're feeling tired, dare to keep going.
When times are tough, dare to be tougher.
When love hurts you, dare to love again.
When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.
When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.
When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.
When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.
When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.
When the day has ended, dare to feel as you've done your best.
Dare to be the best you can At all times, Dare to be!

I feel very sad and confused... So I wanted to join a group of people and feel unleft out... so here I go... my name is dilven.