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Erm.
"... I like a boy! Does he like me back? ...
Every Lady Ever In The History Of The World"
Did I really just read this - at TIGER BEATDOWN?!?? O_o (post in question, clearly meant to be a funny exaggerated agony-aunt column but it still rubs me the wrong way because, you know, erasure in my funny, urgh, get it out. Especially as TB is usually doing well with the non-erasure and intersectionality thing.)
Also, the tale of the sink pipe didn't end today as I had hoped, because the gasket is broken and needs to be replaced. And there's a blockage further down that we're not sure we can eliminate. We = stepdad and me. He's coming over tomorrow to battle with the pipes a second time. Currently dad is my hero.
(He asked for music. "Why not something from your subculture? Some hardrock?" Ahaha. Cue Dingsi flailing because, uh, industrial/ebm/deathrock/80's/minimalelectro/darkwave/punkrock etc. are not exactly hardrock and also NOT on the list of things my dad listens to and that's 95% of everything I own. Eventually I settled on a Sisters of Mercy best-of, which he found unobjectionable. [Sure, I could have settled on anything to shock him with, but I'm past my teenage years where I wanted to rebel and prefer finding common ground nowadays.])
I'm rambling. I'll stop now and work on some entries and comments.
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♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
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Haha, I still remember that one time when I tried out dark violet nail polish and how satisfied I felt when my mum went "eww" upon seeing it. But I was 17. Nowadays I'm in my thirties, like my parents, and also love my music way too much to play it only to hear someone go "ugh, that sounds terrible".
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I was never much for purposely aggravating my parents, mostly I just wanted to do my thing and have them leave me the hell alone to do it.
I have a teenager now. Yeah. Suddenly my parents make SO much more sense LOL.
(It's amazing how with time comes knowledge, isn't it?)
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Heh, I fully agree. I don't have kids myself but I've noticed that my outlook on life and relationship with my parents has changed a lot and there are many things I understand now that I just couldn't wrap my head around when I was younger. Often simple things, like the fact that you might be feeling exhausted when coming home after work and not be up for chatting or playing the moment you're through the door. I'm cutting them way more slack now, but they do the same for me actually. It's funny, you can't imagine growing old when you're a teenager but once it happens the majority of people (myself included) seem to be glad it's over and would never want to go back. *g*
I think my rebellion -- if you can call it that -- had a lot to do with being an outsider and living in a tiny rural village. I was actually a very "nice" kid -- no drugs, not even alcohol or nicotine, not many relationships, no dangerous hobbies, no brawls... I used music and fashion instead and turned everything inwards.
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Awwww, that's really cute! Though I understand the flailavational response. o_O
(& yeah, like you said in one of the other comments, I too don't like playing my music only to have someone tell me how crap it is. For a while every time I posted music or a video on my LJ [as it was back then], there was always one person who posted w/a snotty comment about how they just couldn't get into the music or whatever. Why even bother commenting???)
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That's similar to what I thought, which was: "You're lucky to have a dad who uses the term 'subculture' correctly!"
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I'd understand it if someone -- in that case, you -- had asked specifically for their opinions... but usually that just isn't the case. People post music because they want to share the squee and spread the word about artists or genres they like. I'm not saying that people aren't entitled to their opinions but this wouldn't be the right place to voice your being all bleh about it.
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... okay, after checking comments: yes, she did. It was OUR fault for being offended and not recognising the brilliant humor. Ouch. At least she edited the post, but her response really left a bad taste in my mouth and I decided to unsubscribe from her blog for a while. I think I expected someone who's familiar with the discourse about oppression and silencing tactics to be more graceful about it, which is why it might annoy me so much now. Anyways, I'm grateful for you and Astraea speaking up in comments and explaining things so well. <3
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At this point I tend to assume it's just a matter of time before any "progressive" blogger I read makes an ass of themselves, and even as a straight person I've noticed Sady tends to do the "write the post as if all women are straight and cisgendered, add "unless you're trans or a lesbian" to the end" thing. Still she definitely could have handled it better.
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