Name: Rae Age: 20 State: Delaware What brought you here?: I go to school at the University of Delaware and am honestly appalled at peoples etiquette (or lack thereof) and I would like to know more about it and share experiences
Maybe we can resurrect this community? I think its a fabulous idea, too bad nobody has posted in a while!!!
that I won't be attending this year's Christmas party?
Some back story: Each year my mom's sister host a little get-together on Christmas Eve. The women in my family are all divorced, so it's just grown children (the sons and their wives) and grandchildren. I dread the party each year. Since the party consists mostly of my aunt and her grand kids, sons and their awful wives, I don't feel honor-bound to them to go. But I do for my mom. She likes the holidays and I know she wants me there, but the thought of spending time with these people make me literally sick for days before and sometimes days afterwards. My aunts sons' have been snots since birth, and one of the wives never fails to say something snide to me. I usually sit in a corner trying desperately to smile when turned too and praying it'll be over soon. This year I just can't do it. I'm already dreading it and it's not even November! It's gotten worse, for me, since my younger brother got married and I'm the only one left single with no kids. That amongst other things seem to mark me worthless in their eyes and they never go without letting me know it each year. My mother loves her sister and the family and basically poo-poos whatever I say...so how do I explain I won't be accompanying her this year?
Name: Sharon Age: 42 State: California What brought you here?: As an historical reenactor, I'm very interested in manners and mores, not only from this time and culture but from others as well. On top of that, I'm sometimes so surprised at the lack of manners displayed by folks nowaways that I begin to wonder whether their folks taught them anything at home.
So, I'm looking forward to an opportunity to discuss social situations, graces and manners ... as well as some entertaining period "charm guides" that I've collected over time if folks are interested in such things.
Name:Carrie Age:22 State:Washington What brought you here?:I have an issue that I don't know what to do about. Thought maybe this place could/would help out.
Hello all!
So, here's the thing. I was at my boyfriend's mom's and when we visit her we have had it where she pays for food when we visit and we pay for food when she visits. This time it was her place. I apparently, mistook her politeness for sincerity. She needed to visit dogs, yet my bf pointed out the fact that I was getting something else when she was hinting that she needed to go. I asked if it was okay to get dessert, she said okay. My question here, what should I have done? Is there any way to apologize after the fact? Maybe a letter of sorts?
Name: Beth Age: 26 State: Texas What brought you here?: I am married to a family that personifies the phrase "Having money is not the same as having class". I need an outlet for frustrations and a place to sympathize with others in the same situation.
Name: Aurora Age: 28 State: WA What brought you here?: Interest in etiquette
I found a wonderful interview with Judith Martin (Miss Manners) that I thought I'd share. She does a great job of explaining why etiquette is so important and what happens without it. It's a good read.
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