kind of embarrasing when your life is actually going pretty well but you still have mental health problems. it's like when you drink water but still have a headache like what the hell. you're telling me this isn't because of the Situations i'm actually just like this. i want a refund.
obviously it's stupid and exhausting when people try and argue that you can never try to help someone figure out they're trans because of the "egg prime directive", but I do agree with them on one principle, which is that trying to tell somebody else what they are is just kind of rude? like, if I had a male friend who was suffering for reasons that were clearly related to gender, I think it would be incomprehensibly cruel of me not to tell him "there are other options for you, you can always live your live in a way that makes you happier, you should give some thought as to what that would look like," but I would never tell him "You Are A Trans Woman"--not because I hate trans women and want to keep them closeted, but because it would be presumptuous of me to assign him a particular identity based on my own assumptions, no matter what those assumptions are
...and also because there are things you're allowed to be other than a Man or a Woman but I guess we're not allowed to talk about that anymore
oh that gap in my resume? i was imprisoned by the lizard king for a few years, it was a whole thing. big misunderstanding, completely exonerated. but that ties into the next item on the list, 2 years as consort to the lizard king. that was actually a volunteer situation
sometimes people on here talk about "accountability" in a way that shows they think that the person they've decided is in the wrong can't actually do anything to redeem themselves other than like. suicide.
Things Accountability IS:
Things Accountability ISN'T:
Other people can't move on if you never do.
people got mad the last time i said this but you HAVE to stop pretending that people of the past were more intellectual and thoughtful and you need to model yourself after them because modernity pales in comparison. that's nazi shit
basically
