so embarrassing when i forget im checking someone's blog and i start scrolling through and liking and reblogging shit as if it's just my dash. it feels like wandering into someone else's apartment and not noticing and making myself lunch
reblog if i can wander into your apartment (blog) and make myself lunch (like and reblog as if it's my dash)
If you want or need to approach a stranger for a conversation, first always start by greeting them, and then state your intentions and/or what you wish to talk about.
Especially in online spaces, in this day and age online spaces are so flooded with spam bots, most people assume anyone who just messages them with "Hi" or "Hello" is a spam bot, so most people are prone to ignoring or even blocking those who just message "hi" or "hello" without anything else.
If you would like your message to actually lead anywhere, it's still important to begin with some sort of greeting such as hi or hello, but give the other party more to work with. State your intentions, or what you'd like to talk to them about (I saw in your post x and I wanted to ___), otherwise many people may assume you're a spam bot and either ignore you or block you.
Likewise in real life scenarios, in many places and cultures if you just approach a stranger and say "hi" or "hello" and stand there looking at them and expecting a conversation to follow, many people will find this unnerving, invasive, and in many instances downright creepy.
This is because when you're a total stranger it's harder to know if you have good intentions or not, and many people naturally feel more guarded with a stranger. Therefor, if you really want to strike up a conversation with a stranger, you need to lead with something besides "hi" or "hello", if nothing else to signal good intentions. Something such as "Hello, I saw your t-shirt and just wanted to say I really like that band too!" or "Hi, so sorry to bother you, but I noticed the pins on your bag and that's my favorite show!".
It's not just about signaling that you're not a spam bot, or signaling good intentions on your end, it's also not considerate to initiate a conversation but expect the other party to do all the work with finding something to talk about. It's inconsiderate to start something, then throw all of the work onto someone else to make it happen or keep it going. You started the conversation, so it's your responsibility to give them something to talk to you about.
I cannot stress enough how important this is in a workplace scenario as well. Sending a Teams message that just says "hi" is irritating, because now the recipient has to spend time and effort figuring out if what you want is important, time sensitive, or even if they're the right person to take care of it.
For this reason, I always send Teams messages that specify what I need, so the recipient can reply and plan accordingly without any extra steps.
"Hi Caitlin! Would you have five mins for a quick call sometime this afternoon to confirm numbers on the latest project invoice? I'm free for the next half hour, or any time after 2:15."
It really makes everything so much easier to deal with, and makes you look so much more competent, if you give some contextual information in your message.
I’m not in the community that posted this but if you’ve never tasted the bitter agony of searching for a pairing you’ve only just considered to find it’s like one dedicated author who has churned out like 69 slightly better than mediocre fics you don’t know what a rare pair is.
GIRLS THAT'S FUCKING TERRIFYING,, PLEASE FACTORY RESET YOUR PHONES GET NEW ONES IF YOU HAVE TO GET AN INDEPENDENT SIM card WHAT IS HAPPENING
I'M BEGGING YOU
THEY CANT DO THIS TO YOU PLEASE
that is stalking
its stalking when it happens to children also btw
Hey just so you know... if you're a legal adult you have the option to just not. You can take that shit off your phone, you don't have to pick up your phone every time they call, you don't have to tell them where you're going all the time, you can just not.
I know it's scary. I know they will threaten to cut off your phone plan or any financial support they're giving you or whatever to keep you under their control. But if you can at all manage it... do it. Set a boundary and MEAN it.
At nineteen, I allowed my mom to cut off my phone plan because she would SCREAM at me over the phone until I was sobbing because I didn't call her often enough (...turns out I have ADHD and time blindness but we didn't know that then). At a certain point I just turned to my partner and asked if we could survive without my mom paying for our phone plan, and we could, and I didn't speak to my mother again for 15 years or so. And my life is better for that.
Your parents don't control the apps on your phone if you're a grown adult, and I'm not saying this to shame anyone in this position, I'm trying to let you know this is abusive and you can get free of it even when feels like you're trapped.
Your parents don't control your phone or your life. They simply don't. You do.
LYRICS
You built a wonderland
you built a fairytale
you built this space in my head
that's still there, it's still there, it's still there, oh
The paper quoted your victims
Some of them were just kids
Guess you knew you could hurt them
so you did and you did and you did, oh—
Now they say free the art from the artist
not like I don't see the appeal
There are times when the living gets hardest,
easier to embrace the unreal
But this half-rotting fantasy
doesn't make a good home
and I no longer care to see
what you build from their bones, from their bones, from their bones
Not a watcher or buyer
not a second or page
and godspeed your survivors
may they heal and they rage, and they rage, and they rage
And they say part the art from the artist
And that's true; I don't have any doubt
Come sever the art from the artist
and let them both bleed out
"You could get up early and do it before work" I could also wait for a magic beanstalk to start growing in my living room LMAO. Let's focus on things that happen in the real world
it’s a beautiful day to check out a book from the library
its a beautiful day to return a book to the library unread after it auto renews 3 times
The library says thank you for boosting our circulation stats and the book will still be here later if you want it another time <3
mold pisses me off so much
oh you have to eat your produce the moment it leaves the store or the fuckin Hungering Dust will get it. and. poison your food
I ran into this post years ago and to be honest, it has completely reoriented the way I engage with food.
Like. I’ve always sorta understood that things grow moldy or stale or sour or such if left out, but I never really internalized it in a meaningful way.
But now I’m just like.
Yeah. The hungering dust. There exists omnivorous dust in the air that will eat my food if I don’t.
Those bagels have been sitting there for a week. Are we going to eat them soon or are we leaving them for the hungering dust?
Pizza’s been sitting out on the counter for an hour. Everyone’s enjoying the pizza, but if we don’t want “everyone” to include the hungering dust then we should probably put it away soon.
That’s just. That’s how food works to me now. There exists an invisible predator in the air that hungers for your yummies, and it will not hesitate to eat your food if you don’t make the effort to protect and preserve it. And eat what can’t be preserved before the dust can.
Life-changing.
editing is so funny because it's like "damn, i wrote 'before' two times within three paragraphs. they are going to stone me in the town square for this"
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