HAVE YOU EVER DREAMT OF BEING SEEN?

I've been thinking about those women I learned about in history class growing up, women who wore trousers even when that often resulted in them getting arrested, women who adopted a man's name and passed themselves off as men, women who took on every social marker of manhood both in public life and in private life, but women who the textbooks assured us were, at the end of the day, women. Maybe, the textbooks would tell us, maybe the women were trying to be taken serious in careers that were off limits to women, or maybe it was a feminist protest of the system, or maybe they were just really really lesbian, but the important thing to remember is that they were immutably women, no matter what she may have said herself.

And I like to think that the more enlightened people of today, the kind of people who read posts about gender on Tumblr, would generally agree that these historical figures were men. We would discuss how these historical narratives of women who performed every social marker of manhood were shaped, often maliciously, to deny these men the right to be who they really were even in death.

And yet, if you show these enlightened readers a person born under the sign of Mars, who despite this chases every social marker of womanhood, who calls himself a woman and takes a woman's name, many of them will nod their heads sagely and agree that this man is a gender-nonconforming king, that maybe the real gender punk is accepting that our natures are immutable and our parents were correct, thay perhaps we should consider that they are a trans man.

grabbing a "femboy" by the shoulders and giving her a copy of whipping girl and telling her she doesn't need to degrade and misgender herself for others' amusement and she deserves to be respected as a woman

hi, i hope you dont mind me highlighting your tags, because i agree with them so much

when people discouraged me from transitioning, they used the same excuse a lot of people use today, that "its more progressive to be cis and gnc than it is to be a 'binary trans person'".

first off, no one transitions to be more "progressive". we transition because if we dont, we fucking die.

secondly, this just plain isn't true. cis gnc are not more oppressed or less privileged than any trans person. sure, gender nonconfromity is punished. but its punished by conservatives, by bigots, by people who are vehimently anti queer. there isn't a sizeable movement of people who support trans people wholeheartedly but spread hatred to specifically cis gender nonconfroming people. in fact, its literally the opposite. gender nonconfromity is pushed as an "alternative" to being trans. its seen in the people who literally told me "dont be trans, just be a femboy" to me when i was a teenager. its seen in the "i think that character is just feminine, why do you have to make everyone trans?". its seen in the "dont call people eggs, its actually rude to assume that someone is a trans woman"

to anyone who has ever said anything similar to the above, ask yourself why. ask yourself why being seen as trans, especially a trans woman, is so scary and terrifying to you. ask yourself why you sound indistinguishable from the people who tried to prevent me from transitioning. ask yourself why you think a caricature of a trans woman who doesn't demand respect or dignity is more appealing than an actual trans woman who does.

the concept of "femboys" needs to die

Also I wanna stress that I know and have met far more non-binary trans women than binary trans women, we just:

1. Know that being loudly non-binary in public often leads to TMEs trying to revoke our transfemininity or claim we aren’t REALLY transfeminine, and use it to degender or misgender us. As such, we often only get to safely identify as primarily non-binary in transfemme-only or transfeminist-specific spaces.

2. Recognize that no matter how we identify gender-wise, as transfeminine individuals we are viewed as trans women societally and as a class, and that it is best for both us individually and our sisters collectively to exist in broad solidarity because we will be harmed or killed regardless of our discrete gender experience.

"Being GNC is punished by society" can you guess how transitioning is treated by society?

12 years old: i was so cringe when i was nine, i'm super mature now though

15 years old: i was so cringe when i was twelve, i'm super mature now though. i'm a totally different person. i'm basically an adult

18 years old: i was so. (trying to be nicer to myself) fifteen. when i was fifteen. i wasn't an adult even a little back then. i'm an adult now though of course

21 years old: i was so newborn fawn taking its first steps when i was 18. i wasn't an adult at 18 i'm barely even an adult now tbh

23 years old: i was so. hey wait the others have all gone up in increments of three why'd it change

23 years old: because i'm still 23 so i can't speak to that experience yet

23 years old: do you think anything will magically change in the next few months to the point where you can't possibly imagine how you'll feel at 24

23 years old: i mean you never know. anything can happen. they're letting people born in 2002 turn 24, for instance

the mold spores in my house speaking to me telepathically: yeah that's perfect now hit post

some of you need to stop psychoanalising your kinks and start doing mad scientist shit to them instead.

no more "do I enjoy being tied up because I secretly crave an excuse not to fight back against intimacy because of my mother", that is dumb and useless.

start doing shit like "what do I like about being tied up? what part of it gets me going?" and then once you have isolated the components of the kink that are the main drivers, look for all the other kinks that contain them. mix and match. get creative. experiment.

Sorry bioessentialists and legalists: I define mothers by the specific gendered abuse they wield to make vulnerable girls feel a mix of righteous anger and tingling inside

There's this category of TTRPG where the seemingly only selling point besides maybe artwork is giving players permission to jerk off to their own moral purity as manifest from buying the TTRPG.

please. i need to see a nine on the jerk-off scale. rebel scum? old forge games? hyper pretentious osr? i need to see the horrors

Eat the Reich was actually what inspired this post, but Candela Obscura also comes to mind

@batmanisagatewaydrug @utracjuszka

Candela Obscura is the strawman put forward in this post, but it’s a game that actually exists:

I'm intrigued by this city where sex work is legally permitted and culturally acceptable, and yet is also entangled with the illegal drug trade and police corruption, and yet also coexists seamlessly with positively genteel coffee lounges and theaters.

It's almost as intriguing as the decision to put a red light district in your game and then not include any brothels.

Oh jesus, I thought this person was exaggerating until I dared try this out of morbid curiosity. I hate the state of society 🤮

you're telling me an egg fried this rice?

"boy" who fried the rice: hey why is boy in quotes like that

i suggest relying on others

good fucking lord we need to demystify minerals. crystals do not have healing or magical powers you guys are just getting scammed

and we are what exactly? everything we interact with is a jigsaw puzzle of atoms. everything that effects or heals us in made of atoms and vibrations. negative ions from moving water affect our mood so why wouldn't crystals?

you are getting scammed

I own a rock shop. A lady came in about three years ago and asked me which crystals are best for healing, I gently explained that they didn't have powers or healing properties. She started crying. She had late-stage cancer and no medical treatments were working. A crystal-healer had told her the only thing that would save her were crystals, then proceeded to convince her to spend $2000 on what realistically was only maybe $50 worth of Arkansas Quartz. She had two months to live, and was being strung along by scammers who gave her false hope in exchange for her life savings. I had indirectly just told this woman she was going to die, and it was hitting her all at once. Unfortunately, stuff like this is a regular occurrence. Maybe that’s my worst story, but it’s something I encounter on a weekly basis at least. Rocks, Minerals, and crystals are cool as hell but they don’t have powers. They aren’t mystical or special. I’m sorry for going off on a rant about this but it’s frustrating and it can ruin people’s lives.

If someone told you that crystals have powers, you got scammed.

If you tell other people that crystals have powers, you are scamming people.

Stop fucking scamming people!

"negative ions from moving water affect our mood" no the fuck they don't???????????

a massive part of OCD treatment is exposure response prevention therapy, which is purposed to reduce your dependence on reflexive self-soothing when confronted with triggering incidents by triggering controlled incidents on purpose and deliberately resisting your compulsive actions, until eventually you're able to resist your compulsive action even when triggered by a spontaneous, uncontrolled incident. which means that people with OCD will spend a lottttttttttttt of time and money basically learning how to do this