hi all-
My dd is 3 years and one month. She is primarily cloth diapered. She shows little to no interest in toilet learning. I am a working mom on a leave of absence until the end of October, so I am looking to begin the toilet teaching process - in a gentle, easygoing way - before the end of OCt and it gets hectic again with me at work. I dont know anything about disposable pull-ups, training pants? Any sugestions? I am also reading ELizabeth Pantley's No Cry Toilet Solution.
We own an Elmo potty and a sticker chart but Lily shows no interest in these. She poops once a morning, and doesn't hide or anything. SHe just gets quiet, concentrates for a moment, and then goes on about her business. We have been playfully and gently saying, want to go on the potty and he says no and then we drop it. Once in a blue moon, she will poop in her nightly bath and gets upset about seeing it or being around it. We try not to make her feel like she did anything wrong, but she sees us hurrying to clean it up.
Ideas? tia
I'm hoping to hear from Moms and Dads who have had issues with their toddlers playing with their own poop, or from anyone who has advice or suggestions on the matter. I'm getting really frustrated!
I have a 2.5 year old daughter who is not potty trained. She goes down for a nap in her room at about noon, which is also often the time that she poops every day. She used to let me know when she had pooped, if it happened while she was trying to go to sleep, so that I could go in and change her. In the past month or so, though, she's started to take off her pants and diaper when she goes, and then tries to "clean up," meaning that the poo ends up everywhere. Then she'll sit in there quietly for a long time, probably because she's ashamed of what's happened. Sometimes I'm not aware of what's happened for over an hour, because I've assumed that she was asleep, since she's been so quiet.
We've tried talking to her about it, having her sit on the potty for ten minutes before naptime (this is always difficult for us and her - I don't think she's ready to be potty trained), moving naptime (NOT a good idea), and, finally, just putting pants on her that we didn't think she could take off. Unfortunately, she's getting better at taking off pants and overalls, and today was the worst mess she's ever made (poo on the walls, all over the bed, all over her, some on the floor, etc).
Other factors:
-She has a baby sister who is nearly 3 months old. She's very good with her little sister, and I try to give her as much Mommy time as possible, but of course the attention isn't as much as she's used to getting.
-She's been off and on interested in trying to use the potty, but it's not going well yet. I've decided to just let her tell me when she wants to go, because "making" her sit on the potty when she doesn't ask never turns out well. Nothing happens, and it doesn't take long for both of us to be frustrated.
-She's not in day care; I'm a stay at home mom and we have a fairly regular routine. If she doesn't get her nap on time, my typically sweet daughter turns into Toddler From Hell. Moving her naptime back an hour or two is not an option, and likely wouldn't help, anyways, since she doesn't always have a BM at naptime.
I know that being angry and frustrated with her is NOT going to help, but it's getting to the point where I just can't hide my annoyance and disappointment. I usually have to put down my 2 month old and listen to her cry while I clean up my daughter and her room, and it's just wearing me down. Please help!
My DD (who turns 3 in May) has been potty training for what seems like forever. We're in pull-ups during the day and diapers overnight right now. 9 times out of 10, she asks to poop on the potty. Peeing is another story. When at home, no matter what I do -- insist she sit on the potty every X minutes or ask her to tell me when she's got to go -- she pees in her pull-up. (And getting her to sit on the potty every X minutes is painful... sometimes complete with a hysterical temper tantrum because, obviously, the potty seat is actually made of hot lava... or something) HOWEVER, when she's at daycare (2 days a week) or under the care of someone else (like the church nursery staff). She will even sometimes ask (me) to pee in the potty while we're out -- but this isn't consistent.
Daycare's pushing on me to get her trained and her teacher has made it clear (not verbally, but y'know..) that she doesn't believe me when I say that DD doesn't pee in the potty at home. So just a little added pressure to just be done with the process. We've tried big girl undies including the Gerber cloth trainers with their smidge of lining to keep it from going everywhere. Doesn't matter. She still wets her pants and announces that she has done it right afterwards (a step up from the pull-up where I think she'd run around in a wet pull-up until the thing disintegrated). Which, incidentally, if I ask her when she peed in the pull-up when I discover it's wet, she can usually tell me.
Anyone experience this? Anyone have any ideas about how to get over this frustrating hump? I am SO DONE with potty training and I'm afraid that my frustration over this whole peeing thing is going to start to show. I know she's capable of doing what she's supposed to do, but it feels like she's having fun pushing my buttons about it... (And I truly believe that this is just that -- a way to push Mom's buttons and show who's really in charge around here...)
I found disposable training pants with side closures at Target. Interestingly enough, only the Target brand had the closures. Both Huggies and Pampers (which I already have) are pull-ups. Since I have plenty of the Pampers upstairs, I just took the package I bought today, wrote my DD's name on them and threw the whole thing on the bag she takes with her to daycare, so she's all set there.
So. My somewhat dumb question. I'm not indoctrinated in the ways of cloth diapering. I didn't really learn about all the options until my DD was a year old and then I was set in my ways, I guess. (I know - I'm gonna get kicked out the Earthy-Crunchy Club for sure... if I have another kid, I do intend to cloth diaper... Honest!) ANYWAYs, while I was puttering around Target, I found the last four packages of Gerber Training pants that they had in my DD's size. These are cotton with the lining. So I bought them. I want to put them into service ASAP -- they're currently in the wash, so they'll be ready soon. Here's my question -- when she has an accident - which I'm sure she will the first couple of times we use them - what do I do with them between washings? Is it enough to rinse them out and let them sit or should I put them in a bucket to soak like I would for diapers?
Sorry for my silly questions. We've been sorta potty training for awhile, but I decided this month we were going to kick it into gear a little. I just haven't had time to really think this stuff through or do much research.
Thanks!
So my DD is potty training. I use disposable diapers/pull-ups. My daycare keeps asking me to send in the pull-ups with velcro tabs. Does anyone have any idea what they're asking for? I don't remember seeing disposable trainers with velcro on them, but as far as I know they won't deal with the non-disposable ones (which I would be fine with using).
I know. I can just ask them. And I will, but she only goes a couple days a week so if y'all have a clue about what they want, then I can just go and get some between now and the next time she goes in...
Thanks!
My daughter is 32 months old this month. She's been kinda-sorta potty training since about 22 months or so. She'll sit on the potty -- she uses ours with one of those seats that sit on the big seat. She occasionally will pee in the potty. I think she pooped once. So I know she knows what to do. In fact, she knows when she's gotta go -- often times she'll announce it but then couldn't be bothered to sit on the potty. The potty is like a game to her -- some days, it's a fun thing to do, but normally, why bother? She's wearing a diaper... (Note: when she does sit on the potty, she gets to wear a pull-up which, to her, is a Big Deal).
I know bribery is pretty anti-AP, so bear with me here. Sometimes, my kiddo needs a little incentive to do what we ask of her. It's usually such that I don't have to bribe her outright except to say, "We can't play with your Play Doh until you clean up your tea set" or whatever. But I really want to kickstart the potty training. I have several reasons for not wanting to just put her in Big Girl Undies and let the accidents happen a couple of times until she figures it out. So. I'm considering the ol' M&M trick. Y'know - you get one if you sit on the potty. You get one if you pee in the potty. Etc, Etc. The AP-mom in me kind of twitches at the thought. But I also know a few moms who have done variations on this with great success (and no, their kids don't expect an M&M nowadays when they use the bathroom).
Thoughts? Ready to kick me out of the club? :)
At what ages did your baby:
Nightwean (if exclusively breastfed)
Sleep in their own bed (if you co-slept)
Potty train
And what are considered good signs for when to start trying those? I don't want to try and do any of the above until she's ready, and she's only 10 months now so it'll be some time in the future.
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