An introduction
I notice this community hasn't had much action lately, but I find myself really needing some kind of support or community.
I am in a relationship with an aspie I met half a year ago. Our relationship progressed from friendship to relationship without either of us pursuing it. It just happened, happily so. I went into the friendship/relationship knowing that he had AS.
Prior to meeting him, I worked with AS children in a small private school some years ago that practiced inclusion. While working there I came to the realization that my mother and grandfather both were aspies themselves. I somehow wonder if I am fated to having a relationship with an aspie. I seemed fated to work with aspie kids, as I got along with them very well and had an easy time developing rapport with them.
I read voraciously, but I haven't found a lot about adults with AS. Most of what I find is about children, and what I do find about adults seems to be fairly slanted against aspies. It's almost as if they think aspies aren't capable of feeling or caring about anyone other than themselves. I know this is not true about my boyfriend. He is caring, and genuinely interested in my feelings. True, he has difficulty expressing them verbally, but he does so by hugging a lot, and has been very good at talking about things when I bring them up. We are both learning a lot about each other.
I am looking to talk to other adult aspies, NTs living with aspies, and just anyone who might have some experience in this. I feel like I am going without a net. I can't talk to my family about it because they already don't understand AS, particularly my mom who is undiagnosed. I talk to his family, and his mother and sister have been wonderful to me, but I can't talk to them about our romantic life - it just seems too odd.
I am in a relationship with an aspie I met half a year ago. Our relationship progressed from friendship to relationship without either of us pursuing it. It just happened, happily so. I went into the friendship/relationship knowing that he had AS.
Prior to meeting him, I worked with AS children in a small private school some years ago that practiced inclusion. While working there I came to the realization that my mother and grandfather both were aspies themselves. I somehow wonder if I am fated to having a relationship with an aspie. I seemed fated to work with aspie kids, as I got along with them very well and had an easy time developing rapport with them.
I read voraciously, but I haven't found a lot about adults with AS. Most of what I find is about children, and what I do find about adults seems to be fairly slanted against aspies. It's almost as if they think aspies aren't capable of feeling or caring about anyone other than themselves. I know this is not true about my boyfriend. He is caring, and genuinely interested in my feelings. True, he has difficulty expressing them verbally, but he does so by hugging a lot, and has been very good at talking about things when I bring them up. We are both learning a lot about each other.
I am looking to talk to other adult aspies, NTs living with aspies, and just anyone who might have some experience in this. I feel like I am going without a net. I can't talk to my family about it because they already don't understand AS, particularly my mom who is undiagnosed. I talk to his family, and his mother and sister have been wonderful to me, but I can't talk to them about our romantic life - it just seems too odd.