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How do I talk to my partner about norms in their other relationships that bother me, to the point that they have a negative impact on my relationship with them?

Okay, so...
I need to talk to someone about some stuff that's been going on in my life for the last little while. Seems easy enough, right? Just crack open the Yellow Pages & pick one, right?
Well, I suppose, in theory, it should be, but it's not.
For starters, I'm broke. And I don't just mean, that I don't have the cash to go out drinking, but that the choice between groceries & rent is a difficult one some days. This means that I really don't have a budget that can stretch a whole heck of a lot to include therapy.
Also, as you may well have guessed, I'm poly.

My questions is as follows: Are there any free &/or seriously cheap poly-friendly therapists in the Toronto area?

*fingers crossed*

I've been lurking for a while, but i am in a bit of a tough situation and i wanted to ask some questions that had been on my mind as of late.

In a situation with multiple partners who are all affectionate with one another (as opposed to a V arrangement), how do you define primary and secondary?

How do you define need of a partner?

i have more but im not sure how to phrase them.

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Hi, longtime lurker, first time poster, etc etc... I have a question about a good-idea/bad-idea.

There's a guy I met through an online dating site a few weeks back (met him before, but that's immaterial) and started talking to him. His profile at the time said "single", but after talking to a mutual friend, I discovered that he was, in fact, in a relationship and monogamous. Of course, this only comes after I've thought myself into a bit of a crush on him. We get along online quite well, but I can't quite tell if there's a flirting undertone to his conversation or if he's just being really warm. I don't want to do the thing where poly people disassociate themselves from mono people because they're not on the market, but I also have no idea what he's thinking and if it's a good idea to keep talking to him/ hang out with him.

Help? thank you!

Does anyone know of a *good* poly-friendly relationship counselor in/near Seattle?

Can anyone offer any advice, or point to any websites, on how to make a polyamorous household work? I am about to move house, and I'm moving in with two of my three partners. We're a quad, three girls and a (very lucky LOL!) guy.

I am organising a festival for Alternative Parents and Parenting to be held in Melbourne, Australia. Time and Venue yet to be determined. For more information go to http://applefestival.makeforum.org and please leave your input.

Thank you
Louise

I'm not in a relationship right now, but I'm curious. What advice can you give me about dating a poly couple? Just so I know.

The Florida Poly Retreat (FPR) is a regional level polyamory retreat/conference started in 2003 organized by the polyamory communities of Florida.   This year, FPR will be held on March 27-30.