I'm writing this like a bio for some reason - it seems kind of fitting that I step back from it.
New Year 2007 - Impossible to say how long the night lasted. Whilst dancing with Dave to incredibly infectious trance music, she realised how shortly theryears passed, and ended up sleepless for that night because of the thought of time and all it left behind. Vaguely remembered.
January 12th - The anniversary of her mothers death. The day was a blur, and sad, and incredibly lonely.
May 14th - Emily realised it was her birthday three hours after she woke up, and then pretended not to notice the date until given sweet, sweet presents and kisses. Sad moments, but overall pretty good.
June 15th - Mary and Elizabeth were born in the local hospital, impossibly pink and icky with the loveliest blue eyes. Was sew up in unimaginable places, and had the rare opportunity of seeing her husband bawl like the baby he held in his arms. After a brief panic that lasted about three minutes, she embraced the idea of motherhood fully, and fed her babies for the first time.
June 20th - due to unbelievably sore nipples, she bitched at Dave for a record breaking nine hours, and eventually made it up to him with delicious deserts and hired movies.
September 8th - Received a phone call from her sister while preparing her family a roast chicken meal. Said meal was picked at later, but only after the shock of hearing her sister Sally pause, gasping and sobbing over the line, to tell Emily her sister Jane was in the hospital and would most likely never leave it.
September 8th, Night time - waited outside her sister Sallys house after a hurried drive. All the way on that hour trip she prayed, something she had never done before, and felt vaguely guilty about begging something she had no knowledge of for help. The phone call came around eleven, that Jane had suffered a heart attack when the Royal Flying Doctors plane she was in touched down at the Adelaide airport, and had suffered permanent, irreparable brain damage from lack of oxygen. She wanted to go with them, Jock and Sally and Shannon, but she was Jocks defacto and Shannons mother, so instead she tried as best she could to comfort her other niece Erin, and took her home.
September 9th, 1 in the morning - Installed in a state of shock so severe she could barely breathe, Emily made Erin and herself toasted cheese sandwiches while her brother John went and got Porky, her other brother, from their home. Dave was inconsolable, still reeling after her Mum's funeral and having experienced no loss of his own, so they eventually sat together at the kitchen table, silent, hands touching and not even once looking at each other. Some time later Helen and Kate turned up, family friends, Michaela in tow, and all stayed awake till the early hours. Still no news.
September 10th - after several garbled phone calls between Sally and John, it was confirmed that everybody with Jane had decided that it would be kinder to switch of the life support than let her suffer the indignites and pain she could never wake up from.
September 10th - late afternoon - early evening - Received the call.
Date Uknown, due to emotional black out - Buried Jane at a beautiful service in her town. Got thoroughly emotionally bashed by people she didn't know, just like the wake at her mother's funeral, and eventually said goodbye to Jane by receiving that kick in the heart that let her know that she'd never come back. Wondered why it always felt like the world was ending at these.
Christmas Day - Sad and small, but with precious moments. The girls got their first presents.
New Years 2008 - slept the night through. Both Emily and Dave were too tired from teething problems to even think about doing anything speicial.
That's about it. I still can't speak about Jane without using a third person explanation.
It still hurts. Mum, and her...it's so frustratingly awful I can't even begin to describe it.
But I have my family, with such love and support its overwhelming at times. Its such a comfort to realise that in spite of tragedy, some things remain essentially the same - memories of days growing up in my mothers house, with Jane and then without, and the horribly awful relief that, after twenty years of illness, she might find piece of a sort with Mum, in where ever that place you go might be. It was the same with Mum, after the chemo and hospital rushes and all those damn drugs - somehow it helps to know that it's stopped.
Actually, everythings kind of stopped at the moment. My imaginations shot to shit, I can barely string two sentences together in script or voice [as you can plainly see, I seem to be suffering from short sentence syndrome]. One day I'll start writing again, but until then I just don't know. Bear with me? >.>