don’t forget that it’s your life. it’s not school’s life, it’s not work’s life, it’s not your family or your partner’s life—it’s perpetually your life, for better or worse. what do you want from this life? forget happy, what motivates you to live? why are you here?

That masculine urge to venerate her soul,

anchor her mind, guard her heart,

steel her will, and honor her body.

Healthy Masculine Love isn’t loud.

It’s devotion.

He doesn’t love her in just one way.

The King in him venerates her soul.

The Sage anchors her mind.

The Warrior guards her heart.

The Magician steels her will.

And, the Lover honors her body.

Not ownership. Not dominance.

But reverence.

Sometimes we fall back into old thinking patterns that aren’t good for us. And it can be scary to suddenly be there again, but I want to remind you that you are not where you used to be. You have come such a long way, and it being scary is actually a sign of that. It’s okay. Sit with the feelings and thoughts and let them pass. They are a part of your past, not your future. Let them pass like dark skies, and remind yourself how far you have come. You beat them once, you can do it again, and this time you are much stronger. Just because they appear, does not mean they will take hold. Wrap yourself in kindness, compassion and what you have learned, and let them pass, but know that if you feel scared or sad and the like, that it’s okay. You will be okay. 🌸

Please treasure the people who let you speak.

Treasure the ones who listen to the smallest things you have to say - the silly, casual little thoughts, the things that seem insignificant, and the things that feel huge. Treasure the people who let you talk about whatever is on your mind, who let you ramble and yap endlessly about your interests, your worries, your passions, your day. The people who never make you feel like you’re too much. Who never tell you to stop talking or make you feel like you have to shrink yourself to be worth listening to.

Being given a space where you can simply speak and be heard is such a precious kind of love. Hold onto the people who give you that.