hi i’m mel, my pronouns are they/them, i’m 27, if you wanna know anything else just ask and i may or may not answer you. Here are links to things you may or may not want links to.
just saw a post talking about the misogynistic phenomenon of men frequently offloading household tasks to women & expecting us to do them... and describing it as "learned helplessness"
we are putting that term on the shelf
Learned helplessness is the behavior exhibited by a subject after enduring repeated aversive stimuli beyond their control. In humans, learned helplessness is related to the concept of self-efficacy, the individual's belief in their innate ability to achieve goals.
literal first paragraph of the wikipedia article for learned helplessness. this is a depression symptom. it is frequently caused by lifelong abuse from controlling authority figures. it is the exact OPPOSITE of an abuse tactic and would most likely be displayed by the WOMEN in that kind of scenario!!
the actual relevant term for what the man is doing is probably "weaponized incompetence" which is an abuse tactic. please for the love of fuck do not conflate the two
obviously bigotry isnt rational but "women are naturally worse at spatial reasoning and math" is a wild opinion to have when women have historically been the primary textile producers in a lot of societies. have you ever seen a tablet weaving pattern
women also used to do the family taxes
and women are currently more academicaly successful then men (at least in my country)
and now that women are more academically successful, society has entered into a new era of anti-intellectualism. it's not coincidental
it cannot be stressed enough nor pointed out too often that the way this works and always has worked is that whatever women are doing is bad. when what women are doing changes, then what is bad changes so that what women are doing is always what's bad. what jobs are for women and therefore are bad have changed in the past and will change in the future. the only constant is that women are bad and what women do is bad and they will make up brand new explanations for it every time but it is always simply that women are bad.
when people think that having sex is a distraction from godliness, then women love sex because they're bad. when people think that sex is a natural and healthy part of human life, then women hate sex because they're bad. when women are known for doing math, then math is bad and the true intellectual pursuit is reading. when women are known for reading, then reading is bad and the true test of intellectual rigor is doing math. when being a chef is a good thing it's a job for men. when cooking is women's work it's bad.
nothing iv'e said is hypothetical or A Theory, im literally describing actual historical perceptions and actual changes therein
The one thing about gender is that frankly my ideal gender situation has very little to do with me and infinitely more to do with everyone else on the earth who cannot be fuuuuuuuuucking cool about anything ever
Fiery-throated Hummingbird (Panterpe insignis), male, family Trochilidae, order Apodiformes, Panama
photograph by Ignacio Yúfera
googling images of peter capaldi is crazy every third image is like okay please welcome miss pussy pussy cunt cunt glasgow 1993
for example
bitch it’s the serve 📞
A lesbian literature critic terrorizing the local art scene
This is the best image description that exists
