Okay, I am not dumb just ignorant. I have got mySQL Server working and am able to connect to my database with ADO on the server. Now I am trying to connect from a client computer. After searching and reading MANY Google hits (most from Stack Overflow) I finally concluded that the only easy path to this is to install the whole huge mySQL server package on the client computer (installing just the Client option fails completely).
But with this mess I can only connect to the same schema on the client computer; that is, it is just acting like a server and not connecting to my server-side database at all. How do I do it? I would love to just install something thin on the client side, but nobody seems to be telling how to do it for Windows. I am willing to keep the bloated server install on the clients because I am desperate, but how do I do that?