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anita is in nyc

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anita is in nyc

@neats29

somatic IFS practitioner. I love exploring emotions and consciousness. dm for 1:1 sessions. ex software eng

London. now: mexico

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Joined August 2009

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@neats29
Dec 22, 2024
I've been wanting share my solo process for emotional processing in case it's helpful for anyone. I've been using it for the last few months and it's the most effective I've landed on yet but these things evolve so I want to share it while it's still alive for me...
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@neats29
Dec 27, 2023
I told my family that I try to get 9 hours of sleep and it created so much outrage that we were talking about it for ages. they said I'm wasting 1-2 hours of my life everyday but I've tested this! I am so much more human when I get the amount that my body needs.
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@neats29
May 27, 2024
shinzen young’s periodic table of happiness elements.
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@neats29
Oct 27, 2024
I have this very loose rule of thumb (idk how correct it is, but it’s a helpful heuristic), it’s something like for any new thing eg: relationship, friendship, work/job, awakening experience, hobby etc, it takes ~2 years to clearly know if things are as they seem. so in the…
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@neats29
Nov 16, 2024
it’s been helpful for me lately to reengage with the idea that if there’s a pattern in life that I say I don’t want but it keeps happening over and over again, then it must mean that a) there’s an unfelt emotion I’m avoiding and b) that something in me is benefiting from it…
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@neats29
Aug 19, 2023
the moment i realised that friendships could offer the same kind of nourishment that I thought only romance could offer, my world opened up by about 50 times.
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@neats29
Feb 19, 2023
a fascinating realisation I’ve had is that when you’re feeling a strong emotion, if you sit down and close your eyes and feel it, you will likely see a “random” memory, and if you investigate the memory, you realise that you were experiencing the same emotion in that memory.
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@neats29
Oct 24, 2023
I made self-love a targeted goal for about 3 years and it was the highest payoff project/investment of my life. rough process: - dissolve the negative inner voice - rewire my brain / nervous system to feel safe - become embodied - develop emotional fluidity
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Oct 5, 2020
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Lastly, I def don’t know everyone who achieved this, but I personally don’t know anyone who got there without making it a targeted goal and aiming right at it with a high tolerance for risk. It might not be worth it for you to try- and humanity should work hard to make it safer
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@neats29
Nov 1, 2023
have you tried just saying flat out what you want? instead of trying to find the politest words, without hedging, without bracing for rejection, without guessing what they think you want?
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@neats29
Jan 26, 2023
mediocre career, wholesome life. imagine a life where work is simply a vehicle to enable a comfy home, access to nature, quality time with people that you adore and love you dearly, movement and food that nourishes your body, hobbies that make you come alive best to learn in 20s
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@chrishlad
Jan 24, 2023
Work-life balance in your 20s is an easy way to guarantee a mediocre career.
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@neats29
Dec 27, 2023
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a couple of years ago, I was going through a bout of regular procrastination so I decided to journal every time I found myself procrastinating. soon I realised that almost every entry started with "I'm so tired today" and often followed with "I feel so low today"
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@neats29
Aug 16, 2025
I've been overthinking sharing my break-up learnings, so here it is. everything I learned. context: we were together for 13 years. we knew it wasn't quite working out anymore and whatever we had tried before wasn't going to work this time. I had asked joe hudson, do 20+ year...
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@neats29
Dec 27, 2023
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I realised that not getting enough sleep had a significant impact on my mood and my mood had an impact on how much work I could get done. so even though I "loose" time to sleep, I get more done in the end.
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@neats29
Oct 27, 2024
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meantime it’s very easy to start forming an identity around that new thing, but things are usually not as they seem. it’s very easy to fool oneself. I think that is fine, normal and to be expected but it’s also helpful for me to have this heuristic in the back of my mind while
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